#PrincessbybirthrightQueenbyChoice She Ignites

Mummy would have been 55 today. I always wonder what life would have been like with her here. Oddly enough, I have now lived 17 years without her—much longer than the time I had with her. In grieving Mummy, I’ve come to realize that healing is not linear. We don’t grieve the same way. Only I can grieve my loved one the way I grieved her. My triggers are different from someone else who lost their…

I know I have been missing in action, but heart needed a place to offload so I wrote this piece. I am trying so hard to keep it together but I can’t seem to get that right in this very moment, so let’s talk about delayed grief because your girl is not dealing 😅Ps. I know I talk about my mother alot on here, but oh well, it is what it is. Tuesday morning my grandmother’s sister (the last one…

So everyone who reads my blog often knows that I am a letter kind of girl, I write letters about everything and anything, today’s letter however is a bit difficult to write here’s why:

I am the 2nd born of 4 children (my mothers children that is), when my mom passed almost 12 years ago my older sister and I took on the role of mom in the house and well ever since then our younger siblings became…

Dear engagement ring,

First of all, I remember the day I got you like it was yesterday. You could say it was the happiest day of my life.

But it wasn’t the diamonds I was so happy about, but rather the guy who gave them to me. When people glance at you, they might see precious stones placed almost perfectly on a rose gold band, but what I see is something so much better. I see the special person who gave you to me.

I guess that is your purpose after all, to symbolize love, but what is love really? I feel as though you can’t measure love by the number of gifts you give someone. Don’t get me wrong, chocolate, flowers and nice dates are definitely a good thing(as a matter of fact I am a typical gift girl), but I measure love by what I do for someone else. I know that love doesn’t come easy, but it comes with sacrifices.

When I wear you, it proves that someone loves me so much that they are willing to commit to a life together. It’s nice to know that you won’t have to do things alone. So, I thank you, ring, for giving me that comfort.

I also thank you for being there in times when things weren’t so clear, and important choices had to be made. Marriage is not all butterflies and roses, but it is definitely worth it when you’ve found the right person to share it with. That’s why I look to you when I need a reminder of how much my fiancé loves me.

It is also not a bad thing to feel special when someone wants to take a look at you. Hearing all of the ooh’s and ahh’s when people lift my hand to look at you is an uplifting feeling, but I can’t help but blush and think about my wonderful fiancé while receiving all of this attention. I know that he is proud of you as well and wants you to be shown off to all of my friends(he says the first thing he looks at when I come into his presence is you😅).

Your purpose, though, is not to make others jealous, but rather give others hope that there is a possibility for lifelong happiness in a marriage. All people need to do is have patience. Your purpose is to make everyone who wears you feel special.

I appreciate all that you have done for me so far, and I can’t wait for the day when you gain another friend: my wedding band. You are the promise and the band is the reassuring symbol that the love between my fiancé and I will last forever.

I know this may all be what you say as “cheesy,” but if love wasn’t cheesy at times, what fun would that be? You get all of the heart racing, palm sweating nervousness when you’ve found the person you want to love forever, and that’s just how it is supposed to be.

I just want to say thank you once and for all for the amazing opportunity you have given me to spend the rest of my life with the person I love so dearly.

Stay sparkly and shiny.

Sincerely,

Avy

Today the most amazing guy in the whole wide world turns a year older, yes my forever Boyfriend, and I can’t begin to express how excited I am💃🏼💃🏼

My heart is full not only because God has blessed you with yet another year but because I get to share this moment with you. Today I thank our Daddy for bringing you into this world, and into my life, I wouldn’t have had it any other way because you my darling are perfectly tailored just for me😉 You have had a huge role in shaping me into the person I am today. Constantly motivating, consistently caring, and unconditionally loving Me for me. You have become my 911 call, my 4am'er— the person I run to, sometimes literally, when I come across life’s obstacles and hardships. You know my past & my family, so you understand why I take forever to speak my mind or shy away from confrontation. Conversation with you happens easily and effortlessly(most times at least😊). But our silent comfort with each other is something I have come to cherish, And while our time together seems like forever to some, it has really only just begun.

Thank you for it all. For your reassurance when I doubt myself. For the endless laughter between us. For your hand to hold, whether it is there because of an automatic reflex or guidance. For your love even during the darkest times. For all your actions and words that have brought me so much happiness and total bliss. Finally thank you for everything we have yet to share together.

This year will be your best year yet, God will use you in ways you never thought possible, your territory will be enlarged and his Grace will follow you in everything you do, I declare this in the mighty name of Jesus.