I think, therefore I tran.

Accept us as we are, be patient when we don’t understand something, and explain to us when we make mistakes.

Don’t argue about whether we actually have low empathy or compare us to serial killers or criminals who happen to also have low empathy.

it hurts me when transandrophobia, or really any talk about transmasc oppression, is smeared with the brush of radfem ideology. I have always loathed radfems, from them sexually harassing me since I was a trans teen, to saying disgusting things about the trans women I called friends, to telling me I'm too stupid (they did not use a word nearly this kind) as an autistic person to know myself, to reducing me down to the organs I don't even want. I felt less objectified when I was fucking molested.

if you wanna be their mouthpiece then? go. if you want a "safe space" to talk all you like about how---in your humble opinion---trans women are somehow predisposed to being rapists, predators, abusers? go. you'll have the microphone all you like there. you're free to have your "safe AFAB-only housing" where absolutely nothing will ever go wrong because the biologically pure AFABs could NEVER hurt you. they'll happily take you as long as you're cool with being forcibly detransitioned... at best.

I will continue to talk about my life and hardships as a trans guy. I will continue to defend my trans brothers, and my sisters, and my siblings. I will continue to mourn our deaths and the ways we're being attacked, silenced and pushed down on all sides.

but I am so deeply jaded with how nonchalant a lot of you in this tag are with transmisogyny. no matter how much you're hurting, frankly, maybe you should shut the fuck up a minute and ask "does this thing I'm about to post sound like it belongs on a TERF blog?"

And if I said these types of memes are butchphobic? Are transandrophobic? What then?

How you perceive them beyond how they identify is entirely in your ballpark, and isn't something they should have to carry the burden of, irregardless of if they present more like how you'd expect somebody of just one of their genders to present.

sometimes a trans woman wins against a cis woman. sometimes a cis woman wins against another cis woman too. yet only one of them is allowed to win without facing consequences.

i want to highlight this specific addition from the comments

For those of us raised as girls, we were told to sit down, shut up, and look pretty. Even if someone wasn’t specifically told that, it was obvious that it was being pushed by the people, media, and social norms around us.

So when we as transmascs and trans men are told /that exact same thing/, to sit down and shut up because someone “more important” is talking, it reminds us of how we were treated when we were little girls or when we were seen as little girls.

And the “look pretty” part doesn’t get left out either. The ratio I’ve seen of “shut up and sit down” in the same sentence as something referring to our genitals (or the genitals they expect us to have) is nearly 1:1.

We have to walk on eggshells constantly. We are either seen as confused and stupid little girls or scary and privileged cis men. I’ve seen countless posts saying something along the lines of “take away the trans part from trans men and it all makes sense” which is ridiculous, obviously. We are trans.

When we step outside that perfect model of either the stereotypical 14 year old with fluffy hair and a high pitched voice or the stereotypical cis man with all the power in the world, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst. When we fit into those stereotypes, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst.

We are treated like dress up dolls that are just a bit broken. We can’t be good enough for everyone, let alone anyone. People put their own perceptions of us above our experiences and then stick their fingers in their ears when we try to tell them that maybe we’re worth listening to.