cute girlthing

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

another thing that was not intuitive to me as someone who grew up an autistic loner: basically everyone on the planet is starved for connection all the time and almost everything people do is an attempt to reach out to another. most seemingly illogical interactions and behaviours can be explained by this. you have to take as many of these invitations as you can. even if you're wrong you still attempted to bring more warmth into the world

Sure, you know how to self-flagellate, but do you know how to apologize? Saying "I'm a stupid idiot" is not the same thing as saying "I did something wrong."

People who want an apology pretty much never want to hear "I'm a stupid idiot." If someone is actually trying to get you to say you're a stupid idiot, it's not because it will make up for a mistake you made or harm you caused. It's because they want you to feel like a stupid idiot. People who care about you do not want you to feel like a stupid idiot and it hurts them when they see you putting yourself down in their name.

it also doesn't demonstrate in any way that you understand WHY what you did was wrong, or that you're going to make any attempt to do better

reminder that “ban evasion” is not a thing or infraction on here because the terminations being carried out are not bans + even if it was ban evasion it wouldnt fucking matter because it’s bullshit to be terminated the way girls are. let girls find their friends without basically victim blaming them for being terminated on the girl terminating website

“your mutual recovery posts are getting you terminated!!! stop talking about the fact that ur doing ban evasion!!!” um i think the neonazi stalkers are what’s getting girls terminated

on the rare occasion that someone does get an email for a terminated account, the word “ban” is nowhere to be found. ask me how i know.

Why are people now saying "LARP" when they mean "poser". It's confusing.

Everyone is always parroting The Buzzword Of The Month without actually knowing what it means or where it comes from, make it stop

Kinda like how "POV" went from "(implied first person) Point Of View" to "there is a video"

little known fact: this actually means youre getting old

"Using specific descriptive language so wrong and so frequently that it means nothing is PUNK!"

the nonverbal alter would like to lay her head on your lap while you play games on the tv. you don't have to pet her hair but she would appreciate if it's not too much trouble :)

i would top Crossbreed Priscilla and make her feel loved and like a real woman for the first time in her life. she would learn crazy things about her toes

casual survey: reblog if you want to kiss a girl right now

reblog to make prev start lactating <3

The first rule of plurality is to have fun and be yourself The second rule of plurality is to have fun and be someone else