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to everybody who reads this today: you're beautiful. your smile, your kindness, the tiny things about you. you might not see it yourself, but there is so much to notice and love about you, it's true

#positivity #i mean to encompass more than physical looks in my use of the word beautiful here #there are so many ways to be beautiful #from my drafts

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dan allegretto

shmaroace-deactivated20241124

"aros aren't unfeeling and cold! aros can still love!"

yeah that's true for a lot of aros but not for all of them. don't just support the aros you still see as 'normal' because they are still within your ideas of amatonormativity - support ALL the aros

geekinator

These tags are gold:

mossy-aro

ID: tags that say: #also even if aros can still love, platonically or like romo aros, it doesn’t mean that we don’t have a fundamentally different experience, of love, do not throw us in as your picture of how your amatonormativity is ‘supported’, because we are a direct representation that even with love you are not, we directly prove that amatonormativity negatively impacts us all, even those who experience love, we directly are showing you that you are wrong, and it’s time you listen. End ID.

hhbm

#aro aesthetic

Can you have non-romantic, non-sexual, but not necessarily only platonic feelings for someone?

you in the generic sense

hi! of course you can. there's no limit to the nuances of feelings you (also in the generic sense) can have for someone. this model certainly doesn't cover everything. i personally find it unhelpful past surface level "do i feel strictly platonically towards this friend", i get so caught up in trying to make my feelings fit the construct otherwise, if you understand what i mean. as a model it has its limitations. i hope this helps you at least a little and i'm sorry i couldn't give you more of a yes/no answer

#asks

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sepulchritude

I’ve cracked the code. Next time you correct someone on your pronouns and they respond with that generally positive but slightly defensive vibe like “oh sorry, I’m new to this so it’ll take me a while” just hit em with one of these:

“No worries, I’m practicing at reminding people and you seem like a safe person to practice with”

Boom. Took the perceived blame off their shoulders and made the connection for them that being corrected = being trusted. Rinse and repeat. It’s also not a lie, correcting people on my pronouns is stressful and personally I really am super cautious about it

I figure some angry people will jump into the notes on this one so let me clarify: trans people do not have to be nice or coddle cis feelings. Some of us like living low-conflict lives though, so get off our dicks about it

So I'm grey asexual and akoiromantic but also bi/pan (usually I just say I'm queer). Usually, I'm just chilling, minding my business, and like not really interested in dating. But then I developed feelings for a friend. Didn't know what to do for a while, but recently I told him I liked him and he feels the same way. But like now idk what to do bc like you hardly hear about aro or arospec people telling people they like them or even just being in relationship. Do you have any advice?

i--- might actually be in the same position as you here anon. i get you! i'm in a sort-of-relationship with someone, and just kind of taking everything at very very slow pace. and being honest about that. the person i'm with isn't the most patient? and they don't quite get me, i feel, they're not a-spec and more experienced. but slow's the ony way for me personally. like, i've got to get used to things and warm up to things bc i am kind of repulsed by most shows of affection, even just hugging. i'd advice you to not rush too much into things, and don't give in to pressure if you feel uncomfortable. be honest, be yourself <3 be friends still! have fun together! a relationship should be fun and comforting, it shouldn't be much different, that's kind of what i mean by taking it slow. i used to view it as this huge different thing with lots of expectations of me which scared me, but it doesn't have to be - just remember to communicate how you feel, what you're comfortable with, and listen to them in return. i hope this helps?

#asks #a spec

pansexual-pied-piper

Sometimes your relationship with a label is more complex than "I identify with this" or "I don't identify with this" and that's fine!

"I sometimes identify with this" is fine!

"I partially identify with this" is fine!

"I don't really refer to myself this way, but I do feel included when people talk about it" is fine!

"I use this for the sake of ease even though it doesn't fit 100% 'cause I haven't found anything better yet" is fine!

"I use it 'cause it may not describe my feelings, but it does a good job of explaining how people perceive me" is fine!

"It's the closest fit when trying to find a community of people that face the same problems I do" is fine!

People are complex, your experiences don't need to neatly fit into "100% this label" or "definitely not this label". If you have a complex relationship with one or more labels, that's completely fair and I hope you have a great day.

mr-moonstone

Hi! I’m working on a research essay for class and I would appreciate it if black ppl who identify as ace and/or aro took this survey!

Being Black in the Ace and/or Aro Community

[Reblogs would be greatly appreciated!]

senritsu

I hate the whole backlash like ‘you say touch starved but you actually just mean horny’ NO I mean when I was getting my hair cut there was a moment where the hairdresser tilted my head to the side and the top of my head brushed his chest and my brain short circuited with endorphins because it thought I was being held

evilphrog

Because casual, platonic affection is so taboo in our society that whenever anyone wants to hold a friend’s hand or snuggle on the couch, it is automatically assumed they must be after sex. This is especially true if the person in question was socialized as a man.

greenreticule

relating all physical affection to sex really messes with people’s need for physical contact with others. it teaches us to isolate ourselves and deny ourselves critical interactions lest we be mistaken for pursuing sex. this is really isolating for people who are sex-indifferent, sex-repulsed, or asexual, but it affects everyone.

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strikkster

Idk what questioning aros need to hear this, but I did once, so here ya go:

Trauma from past relationships, fear of intimacy, mental illness, difficulty committing to stuff, etc…

These things don’t invalidate aromanticism. They are reasons to be aromantic.

There are many reasons why someone might be disinterested or repulsed by romance, either for life, or sometimes just for now. It’s all valid, it’s all aro if the label helps you. You don’t have to do romance or force yourself to change so you can do romance, if it isn’t something you actually want.

((In fact, I think there is something kind of toxic about expecting people to overcome their struggles and traumas so that they can be more available as a romantic interest for others… but that’s an idea I’ll have to flesh out in another post))

Anyway, regardless of your reasons, the aro label is here for you if you want it, for as long as you relate to it.

Hey! Hope you are having a good day. First of all, I love your art. Secondly, would it be ok if I try to recreate your aro blue tit from wool?

yes, of course!! if you were to post a photo of it after, pls tag me so i can see! i’m so glad you asked and i hope you’re having a good day as well!

Hey, you're great! Have a nice day!

thank you, you too!!!

I am convinced my dad cheats at the almond game there is no other explanation for how he can win every year, one of these days I will catch him in the act

i love this ask but i have to ask: what's the almond game? the single whole almond you're meant to find in ris a la mande?

aromanticduck

Are you an ‘I hate friends-to-lovers because it ruins a perfectly good friendship’ aromantic or a 'friends-to-lovers is the only kind of love story I actually find believable’ aromantic?

aro-things

i read enemies to friends to lovers fic but abandon reading it before it gets too romantic

#i enjoy the enemies to friends and say bye before they reach lovers

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tlirsgender

Biggest failing of the internet is that in order to be vibing with my friends I have to actually be talking to them. I socialize like a cat I just show affection by sitting next to you. Ily but sometimes I have Nothing to say. Not a damn thing going on in my head

tlirsgender

I don't want to "have" a "conversation" I want to peel an orange and share it with you

theprideful-deactivated20251201

person who only types in lowercase, wears flannel and beanies even in the middle of summer, uses ",,,,," constantly, and types "ahfghcjlsk" in response to everything: I have something to confess. I think I might,,, not be straight

me, shaking my iced coffee and taking a sip: interesting

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