First of all, hi dear @Ritrox. As a member of the Avatar fandom and an admirer of your work, of you, itâs a relief to know that you are in no way associated with @Nattikay , given all the controversy surrounding her proven extremely prejudiced behavior. I can only imagine how uncomfortable it must have been to have your name linked to hers in any way. And I can imagine how insecure and scared you must have felt, even becoming defensive to try and protect yourself (Iâve been through a similar situation, so I completely understand you)
But Iâd like to talk about your reaction to @Nin3kyuu âs hot take where she said: âYou can do whatever you want with your OCs, but I personally fucking hate the albino/small/blue-eyed/blond and very unique, legendary, mythical Na'vi/Avatar/Recom trope, like, we get it, you're white...â
Youâre practically painting a picture where youâre claiming @Nin3kyuu âs hot take was directed at you, when that absolutely wasnât the case, as itâs one of the most random statements to make within the Avatar fandom, where there are tons of albino/white OCs (Na'vi/Recom/Avatar) due to some genetic flaw/disability. So, anyone could relate to this, myself included, since she basically described my main OC and the OCs of many of my friends, of her friends. And neither I nor they were offended or took her comment as a personal attack.
In moments like the one you went through (and I have been through it too) itâs common to feel randomly attacked, and we end up becoming a bit paranoid about it. But we shouldnât normalize this; Youâre basically attacking someone else publicly and painting them as the villain for no reason.
What Iâve learned from these situations is that the best thing we can do is stay quiet if weâre innocent. By responding like this, youâve ended up embodying the saying, âif the shoe fitsâ Learn to defend yourself without the need to attack others. This is advice, not a personal attack. (I also have medical conditions and disabilities, but I think if thatâs not the topic, it shouldnât be brought up, as it makes it seem like youâre trying to play the victim and in doing so, trying to gain othersâ sympathy to win an argument without valid evidence or arguments)
I'm saying this as an admirer of your work, of you, as someone who has been through a similar situation and as @Nin3kyuu ' s friend.
This is one of the pieces of advice I wish I had received in the past: being hurt doesnât give you the right to hurt others, and having been a victim doesnât give you the right to paint others as villains.
If you're living a happy life, where you're not harming yourself or anyone else, and not going against the limits of ethics and morality, just live your life and be happy without needing to justify yourself to anyone. If you know in your mind that youâre right, you donât need to prove it to anyone. When you try to do that, it makes it seem like youâre the one in the wrong.
The world doesn't revolve around you, or around me, it just revolves (i'm not more important than anyone else, and no one is more important than me, the same goes for anyone else, for you) most of us are just people trying to live our lives the best we can and leave a good mark on the world before we go. People are diverse in every possible way, each one is made up in a unique way, both physically and mentally. Youâll find many people who agree and others who completely disagree with you throughout your life. Itâs important to know how to deal with differences and respect everyone. Except if they are prejudiced (N4z1, r4c1, x3n0/lgbtqph0b1c, etc.) or repulsive (p3d0s, z00s, n3cr0s, etc.) people, then itâs better to just block them.