Andrew

I'm Andrew (he/him), im a binary trans guy who is...well pansexual in a way? Its complicated. Not stating my labels bc i care if anyone knows, im saying this as a protest for the fact society tells me i should be ashamed of it.

This is a safe space. For anyone of any sexuality, gender, race, culture, and ALSO a safe space for disabled ppl.

Im very willing to taking criticism. If i say anything remotely offensive im all ears to understand what i did and its impact. Im not immune to internalized racism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia nor xenophobia just bc i try to deconstruct all that. Im, however, willing to sit my ass down and listen.

I tend to go to tumblr when im angry so half my actually written posts are just me angry rambling abt something that ticked me off. Yes, im aware of my own anger issues and i weight lift to avoid punching the damn wall but sometimes a guy gotta complain.

I dont curse bc i think it makes my argument stronger, i curse bc i like cursing. Simple as that.

Im a Classics major. Who hates the Classics. Im just here out of spite. Yes ik how to read, translate and write in ancient greek and latin. Yes, im good at it. My plan is to do my masters and phd on Old Norse Studies. Bc, again, i dislike the ancient greeks and romans. The languages are cool. The cultures? Not so much. They ragebait me. I spent classes and classes randomly staring at a wall as if i was trying to break a non-existent 4th wall.

Now. Important. DNI:

HOWEVER, there are some things abt it that are so fucking funny in a twisted way. Like my stupid ass got a visual flashback bc of the SHAPE OF A GUY'S NOSTRILS...like it genuinely went "this guy's breathing holes look just how my abuser's breathing holes looked...PANIC."

My stance is mostly: we have bigger issues than what individuals identify as

Lesbian is usually defined as non-men who love non-men. Saying it is women who love women inherently invalidates nonbinary lesbians. (And yes that would suppose that trans men - as in binary trans guys - cant be lesbians. But again: i dont care abt what a random dude calls himself. If he feels like it explains his identity and relationship with sexuality? Then who am i to say "no"?)

Either way, Im not a trans man who identifies as a lesbian. I do not fully understand where the sentiment comes from. I dont relate to it. But besides the whole "a trans man is a man, and a cis man is also a man but they experince manhood in different ways since their experiences are INHERENTLY different and that can have repercursions on sexuality", i genuinely feel like there are BIGGER issues than what a random trans dude identifies as. If he feels like the label "binary man" fits with "lesbian" then okay? Who tf am i to say "no, your identity is wrong. Fix that."? I dont care. Identify with whatever the fuck you want. Yk what i DO care about? Our rights being stripped away left and right. Having a wait list to a wait list to a wait list to get on HRT. The erasure of trans men from queer culture. The silencing of POC voices inside the queer community. I dont care enough abt labels to police random ppl on what they feel like fits them. I only have so many fucks to give and im not spending it on that.

Some trans men feel connected to feminity, they still feel like when they love a woman it doenst really feel straight. That their connection with feminity due to being raised as a girl ends up making shit not so black and white. Some simply found out they were trans after spending decades in the lesbian community and just feel connected to it in such way they cant feel to being straight. You, random binary trans guy, feel invalidated? You feel like it erases your identity? Well, maybe thats because you PERSONALLY dont relate to that experince. Funnily enough, being under one same label doesnt mean you have the same experiences. Im also binary, you know what i think? Idgaf. A trans guy who labels himself as a lesbian affects NOTHING on my personal identity and in who i am, so really? Why does that affect YOURS? Why do you feel like someone elses identity threatens yours?

On top of that? Why tf is the topic of trans guys identifying as lesbians occupy so much damn space in the online rethoric when trans men are brought up? Why arent we talking abt the erasure of our history and belonging in the queer comunity? About how we also helped gay men with HIV during the HIV crisis alongside lesbians? About how its bc a trans gay dude with HIV during the HIV crisis that its possible for any of us who are trans but not straight to get HRT?...we used to have to LIE about our sexualities to get it. About how micro-studies suggest transmasc individuals are the demographic that is the most vulnerable to SA? About how our rights - the trans rights in general - are being threatened in most countries? I fucking had to RUN to get my name legally checked bc, despite protests from the Psychologists Organization, Sexology Organization, Doctors, Med students...fucking everyone who KNOWS abt this shit, my country is changing the laws and making us, LEGAL ADULTS, get a doctors note to "prove" our transness. Simply to fucking have to right to have the right gender and name in the fucking ID?