aloïsia

I am HOSTILE 🌠

I am AGGRESSIVE 🌠

I am PSYCHOTIC 🌠

Yeah, sure, you're not being sexually inappropriate with a stranger, but you are still infringing on her (let's not pretend it isn't always "her") ability to move through the world unimpeded. You are still demanding her attention. You are still deciding that you having something to say to her is more important than her right to be left alone.

It's exactly the same kind of bs as all those jumpscare stories where the punchline is "haha I made you THINK I was a bigot but AKSHUALLY I'm an ally!" (E.g "when my son came out I told him I refused to let him live under my roof...until we got him a boyfriend!!" etc)

Every woman's fight or flight reflex kicks in when she's catcalled, and your "nice genuine compliment" triggers that just as much as some douche saying "hey sexy"

More to the point, she still has no way of predicting how you're going to react if she doesn't engage with you the way you want, which is, crucially, *why* catcalling triggers the fight or flight reflex in the first place

-Meta-analysis confirms a connection between porn consumption and sexual aggression (2016)

-Women receive 97% of physically aggressive acts in porn (2020)

-Among research on the most famous scenes in pornography, 88.2% contained physical violence (2010)

-Pornography use at any level harms romantic relationships (2023)

-Nearly 90% of women in the sex industry say they want to escape, and experience PTSD at rates of nearly 70% equivalent to veterans of combat war

-The age at which a male first sees pornography is associated with certain sexist attitudes later in life (2017)

-Porn directly fuels the demand for sexual exploitation and human trafficking (2022)

-Former porn actresses share their stories:

her name was freddie oversteegen and she, at the age of fourteen, along with her older sister truus who was 16 and their friend johanna “hannie” schaft who was 19, was a part of the netherlands most famous all female resistance cell which was dedicated to fighting the nazis and dutch traitors.

among other things, they are known to have blown up bridges and railroads, smuggled jewish children from concentration camps and, as the tweet mentions, seducing nazis and then shooting them with guns that they had hidden in their bike baskets. freddie is quoted as having said that they “had to do it.” and that it was a “necessary evil, killing those who betrayed good people.”

though freddie and her sister truus were both lucky and survived the war, hannie schaft wasn’t. at the age of 24, hannie was caught and around three weeks later was executed by nazis, only 18 days before the netherlands were eventually liberated. she was shot with one only wounding her, and, before the final shot, hannie is quoted as having told the executioners: ik schiet beter, which translates to “i shoot better.”

though she didn’t survive, hannie is recognized as a national icon and a face of the dutch resistance, with her story even being retold in a movie from 1981 called “the girl with the red hair.” along with this, truus also founded the national hannie schaft foundation in 1992, on which freddie served as a board member.

freddie, at the time of her death, was 92 years old and the last surviving member of the resistance cell, with truus having died two years earlier at the age of 92.

if your first thought after millions of american women lost our right to bodily autonomy was "what's going to happen to me?" you. are. selfish. it's extraordinarily selfish to be incapable of caring about a cause that doesn't necessarily affect you. as a white person, it would be extremely easy to plug my ears and go "lalalalala" and ignore all the racism in my country, but i don't, because that would be selfish. and im capable of caring about things that don't directly affect me. why can't tras? i only hear tras talk about black people when they bring up "black transwomen being murdered" and it's usually only ever brought up to shut women up about femicide.

im tired of this selfish movement. you people rolled out a red carpet for trump because harris didn't bend her back enough for trans people. you people refused to vote. you are a part of the problem. radical feminists voted. did you? did you put your phone down for an hour to go to the voting place and vote? or did you sit on your ass and complain about trans rights and palestine while every trump supporter went out and voted? nazis voted, kkk members voted, white supremacists voted, proud boys voted, why on gods green earth didn't you?

he would leave his granddaughters horse alone for over a week with no food or water. eventually the horse escaped out of desperation and was found frozen dead in a stream nearby.

he left rabbits outside in the winter in tiny huts.

guinea pigs in a glass fish tank with pine shavings.

a chicken kept in a small wire cage that was 1.5ftx1.5ft for the 15 years she was alive.

he'd kill the piglets from their 13 year old pig and cook them right in front of her.

again, this was all on a relatively 'ethical' farm. the animals were not beaten, they had moderately acceptable enclosures, and most of the time were fed.

and yet they were still neglected and murdered.

Landlords openly admit that being a landlord is about mooching.

one day the owner came in, chatted with my mom for a bit in front of me and told her, proudly -- "hey, so i got this winter coat for just 40k!"

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But it can be reversed. Start small. If you hit this post then take 5 minutes to put your phone down in another room and do something. Do a crossword. Go for a walk. Be present! CBT is a hugely successful therapy for phone addiction and can even reverse the damage done to your brain.