Author A.J. Douglas

Do you cringe when you read someone else's story? Do you wince when you see a typo in someone else's work? Or are you holding yourself to a higher standard than you expect from others?

Perfectionism can be insidious. It creeps its way into our thoughts without us even noticing it. Perfectionism also leads to dissatisfaction and feelings of shame or guilt when we perceive ourselves as failing or feeling like an imposter when we experience a success.

I also used to wince when I saw a typo in something I posted online. Even now, if I notice a typo after I hit post here on tumblr, I'll edit the post in the hopes that the typo won't go far. But I also know that people will still understand what I mean to say, even if I messed up a word or two in the middle somewhere. Trusting my audience to understand me goes a long way to freeing myself from the shame of making a mistake.

I've also joked on here that "typos are just me adding enrichment to my readers' enclosure." I'm just memeing, but it's also an attitude that helps me worry less. Anyone who judges me for a typo isn't someone I'm going to enjoy spending time with and everyone else who might spot it is just getting a little bonus activity in with their read.

It can be really hard to love yourself, so start with finding compassion for yourself first. Forgive yourself the little mistakes. Be as understanding to yourself as a kind reader would be.

I think I realized this when I had went to see my dad and stepmom one day and asked if I could place my hawk’s food. (A rabbit leg) in the freezer. My step mom was disgusted by the idea that a leg from an animal was in the freezer meanwhile an entire chicken was sitting in the fridge.

Your rotisserie chicken is an entire chicken.

Your pork chop is a hunk of pig.

Your rack of ribs are from a cow’s rib cage.

It’s like Americans view meat as colorful red and pink hued shapes that just exist and come into the world packaged.

You see so many people getting harassed or even having their content flagged for showing how to process or field dress meat when it’s at it’s freshest. Right after culling. For some reason this is considered “gore” by many folks when in reality it’s no more different from plucking a processed chicken after cull.

You also notice that Americans have an idea of what’s normal meat and what isn’t normal meat and there’s racist undertones that I’ve noticed in a lot of these comments left on foreign cooking videos

You have people that claim a video of a man in a different country preparing something like this is “eating a dog.” Meanwhile this is roasted goat.

You have people who’s only perception of an edible fish is in fillet or fish stick form and they call something like this nasty because “Eww there’s a head!” Yeah.. most animals have heads..

* Should go back to bed *

I know Fallout 4 has tons of awesome companions, but why haven’t I seen any Codsworth love? I mean, he’s a fucking sweetheart, and just wants everyone to be happy! Additionally: 

-He tells jokes

-Gives you purified water like “Stay hydrated! I love you~” 

-Waited 200 years for you to return and tried to keep your house and garden clean despite thinking you were all dead

-He is the only member of your family left besides your son and he will travel around and kick ass with you 

-When he fights he sounds like he is scolding naughty children

-Saws people’s arms and heads off and has a flame thrower

-Can wear hats