#adviceformefromme

Respect your body. Respect it so much that you refuse to allow toxic substances to pass your lips, neither alcohol, nor smoke, harmful foods and sugary drinks. Your body is your temple and should be treated as such. It needs to be trained, and kept moving. You were not made for sitting. 

Invest in your inner wellbeing as much as your outer image. The gut check you’ve been putting off, the bloodwork’s, the mineral deficiencies. The dental issues. These are all worthy of your time and money. It’s important you don't become the shiny car that’s rotting inside. 

Beware of men. Not in a sense of they are to be feared, but just don’t be naive. Don’t put yourself in vulnerable situations with men you don’t trust. Men are award winning actors, and it’s important to know that when you first meet a guy you are meeting his representative, and it can take weeks if not months to reveal his true essence. 

GIVE THAT MAN TIME! I cannot emphasize enough how important the time is for a man to reveal his true self. The avatar men present when they first meet you cannot be sustained for that long. It's an Oscar winning performance. As relationship gets deeper, you will see his true character, he will reveal himself.

ABSOLUTELY NO HOUSE DATES/ SLEEP OVERS. If he lives in another country (this is how I slipped) he books a hotel PERIOD. Do not let that man into your home unless you are prepared for the outcome. 

DO NOT BE FOOLED by the new spiritual wave of men. This one got me, just because he is a believer, does not mean his actions are that of a respectful man of God. A man that protects women, a man that does not fornicate with a woman who is not his wife. Most men claiming faith, do not lead with spiritual actions. Let his actions speak for themselves. Judge him by his fruits.

FIND OUT WHAT HE IS AVAILABLE FOR. A man will pursue like his life depends on it, but what is he pursuing you for exactly? Find out early that way, you can prevent essential wasting of time. Finding out he is not over his ex, is not ready for a relationship, or ready for the things you are is something you determine as early as possible, because believe me when I say, men will WASTE YOUR TIME, the big IF here is IF YOU LET THEM.  

DO NOT BE FOOLED INTO THINKING HE IS THE ONE. When you’ve been single for a hot minute, you’re locked in, praying, reading, gym, focused. And then you meet someone who seems like everything, I mean literally EVERYTHING you have been praying for. You connect like a jigsaw puzzle. He makes you laugh so hard. He prays with you. He looks at you like a lovesick dog. Girl, don’t trip. Don’t drop your standards. And absolutely do not drop your knickers. And back to the first point, you allow TIME to reveal his truth. 

Reflect on how the masculine is being mirrored back to you. How do men show up in your dreams? Do they ignore you? Do they hurt you? Choose you? This is your guidance. Your dreams will reveal, and also your real life relationships. Men become the mirror. They hold up the mirror for you to see exactly where you are weak.

The soft feminine keeps us in flow and present, but the inner masculine is the action, the driving force that moves the needle. This is the energy you need to connect with CONSISTENTLY if you're serious about change in these next 6 months.

The masculine moves the needle. The feminine directs the force. Together they transform your life. 

Write a list of who you ARE in these next 6 months with a healthy strong masculine. Describe this energy. 

One of the main issues with having a weak inner masculine is that more often than not your romantic relationships will mirror this dynamic. Men will disappear when things start to get serious (mirroring your own behaviour with self), he doesn’t keep his promises (just like you) and ultimately, you end up suffering.

Having a weak inner masculine is actually one of the most detrimental things to your growth, success and happiness. You need a strong inner masculine, and becoming aware is always your starting point. What are the moments your weak inner masculine show up? You want to be crystal clear about this so you can start programming for the opposite, of what a counter behaviour would be like…What would strong masculine presence feel like in those moments when you need the most support? When you want to quit my new business because you only had one sale? When you're not sure if you should go  to dinner with the inconsitent guy? When you feel overwhelmed by life?

One thing about a powerful healthy masculine within is protection. You are going to feel protected and nurtured. You are going to feel loved. Feel seen, feel provided for. Your healthy inner masculine might book you in for a massage and takeout from Nobu, instead of dinner with Mr Hot&Cold. Your healthy inner masculine sure as hell won’t be letting you doom scroll for 1.5 hours as soon as you open your eyes, he inspires you to pray in the mornings and journal on what’s coming up for you, so you feel seen and witnessed in your emotions after those horrible dreams….

Do you see the difference, do you see how your weak inner masculine is keeping you in the gutter? Is not strengthening you? Supporting you? Providing for you? 

Let today be the moment you become aware and CHOOSE better. The moment you get so close to your healthy inner masculine so that the weak has no choice but to die. Ask yourself daily, am I operating in my weak or power inner masculine?

Firstly you need to remove the distractions like your life depends on it, because it really does. Every timeline jump, every extreme shift in my life started with space from the world. You need to be able to hear from your source, you need to be able to hear from God.

This is first and foremost, because who is leading you? Is it your ego? Your insecurities? Things that are not in alignment? Without this clear channel and direction you will risk moving forward on a path that was never meant for you. This clarity is your Google Maps. But the thing about Google Maps is it only gives you immediate directions as you’re on the journey. Day by day, so in the same sense, locking in requires you to tap in to your internal gps, to access daily directions you receive from God. 

What does this look like? 

Daily silence: Sit and listen to your source for a minimum of 10 mins but ideally 20 mins - 1 hour per day. LOCK THE FUCK IN WITH YOUR LISTENING. 

Yes you might not hear anything at first that’s okay, the important thing is your show up. You keep showing up. You will start to receive guidance, and it might not come in that moment, it might be something you see on social media, a word that pops into your mind later in the day. It might be a conversation, a new connection you meet.