noah fence but im in love w u

Me: nobody else is home… I can listen to whatever I want on the speakers…

ok this is also a thing I wanted to draw attention to

no one:

Ridiculing/antagonizing girls for their lack of awareness re: the underlying motivations for performing femininity is not the same as criticizing the culture that creates a demand for that. Girls are not “upholding patriarchy” by wearing a face of makeup, they are trying desperately to function within it. Makeup is not “empowering” but wearing it isn’t a moral failure either. Sometimes people just need to get through the fucking day by any means necessary. There are ways to work toward dismantling eg makeup culture without further piling on to women who are using makeup to make their own lives easier in the short term. Being a woman is hard as fuck. Not every single strategy for short term ammelioration of this bullshit existence has to be decidedly empowering for us to deserve having it as an option.

me absolutely plastered at my own wedding with my beautiful wife right beside me