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Me: Yeah but I just couldn’t deal with the swelling :\

My therapist: 

Someone is compiling a document of every time an AI ended up achieving the programmed goal in unintended ways, instead of what was actually meant, and it’s an amazing read. (you can also submit your own examples)

Creatures bred for speed grow really tall and generate high velocities by falling over

When repairing a sorting program, genetic debugging algorithm GenProg made it output an empty list, which was considered a sorted list by the evaluation metric.

Evaluation metric: “the output of sort is in sorted order” Solution: “always output the empty set” 

Evolved player makes invalid moves far away in the board, causing opponent players to run out of memory and crash

Reward-shaping a soccer robot for touching the ball caused it to learn to get to the ball and vibrate touching it as fast as possible

Sure.

Red means stop. No more negotiation, something has crossed a line (too painful, something bad that wasn’t negotiated, etc.)

Yellow means that you need a break or that something is too much, or that if the top continues then you’re going to “red” soon.

Green means that things are going well and you want to continue if not ramp it up a little.

While a bottom might blurt out red or yellow, I’ve never seen a bottom volunteer “green”. It’s usually said in answer to when a top is checking in to make sure everything is okay. Asking “How are you?” and getting an answer of “fine” or “okay” might mean the bottom is just on autopilot and reflexively answering. Asking “What’s your color?” and getting “green” or “I was very close to yellow when you stopped” is much better.

One of my favorite doms to watch at parties was doing a pre-scene negotiation with someone he hadn’t played with before and said something like “Now, just between you and me here ;-) , my favorite color is yellow. It’s not about taking anything I can dish out. I promise you, I can always go harder. I want to know how you’re doing. I’ll likely yellow you, on purpose, a few times, just to find out where your limits are and then aim for a little below that. I don’t want to hear ‘green green green, green green red’ because then the scene’s over. I want some indication of how you’re doing and when you’re getting close to what you can handle, okay?”

ok, now - i’m usually more of a hot pics/stories (re)blogger, but… i’ve noticed a proliferation of ‘worthless faggot’ posts/tumblrs amongst our dearly beloved bdsm community. and it’s starting to really worry me.

so here’s my two pennies’ worth of thoughts about this trend:

- i’m not worthless, a piece of shit, a pathetic loser, a disgrace - and neither are the boys anyone plays with.

- i’m not an object, a soulless hole, …. i’m a f*cking human being with a life, a job, friends, feelings, a history, a dick, and a very active libido. if you can’t deal with that, run away and play with your right hand.

- am i a submissive gay boy? abso-friggin-lutely.

- do i like a partner to take control in the bedroom/playroom? hells yes.

- do i want to expand this to outside the bedroom? sure, with the right dom in the right kind of setting, if i feel confident enough with him. that requires communication, trust and collaboration, though - i.e. treating this sub as a full-on human being and the relationship as a real one.

- i like to serve. i won’t and don’t want to serve absolutely every man, everywhere, nor do i lust after every cock-bearing human being i see. i mean, i take the subway every day - ‘nuff said.

- i have no intention of mixing domination and money. that’s just crazy. getting into my ass doesn’t mean you get into my bank account.

- i have no self-esteem issues to live out through some extreme bdsm. if you do, which is far from unusual, see a therapist, not a rapist.

- yes, it’s old news that some gay men like to be beaten for being gay. but it’s the 21st century, for goodness’ sake - no-one really cares who you like to fuck in most of the tumblr readers’ world today, so stop beating yourself up through others.

- sub boys/men are not girls by default. for me, i love being a man and feel no less manly because i like to obey my dom’s orders and serve him faithfully. (some men are aroused when they are ‘feminised’, which is a completely different thing; but think of what it says about your views on women if that makes you feel ‘degraded’. just sayin’.)

- i’m worried i would have been scared away for good if i’d bumped into this stuff, back when i was a not-exactly-innocent, sweet, kink-curious 16yo. and i worry about the kink education the very curious youth of today will have received by the time they’re 18 and come to play with some of us. (or worse, what they’ll do to each other in the meantime)

- bullying is not bdsm. never was, never will be. that’s why it’s called bullying.

- i don’t want the bdsm scene to become a ‘superhuman virile male vs. pathetic faggot object’ world. because then i’ll leave too, for good.

- good doms love and deeply respect their subs. they may train them well, be stern when needed, but everything is always done with safety, love and respect in mind. anyone who doesn’t offer you this should be ignored and/or reported.

Awesome risk charts from Smart Sex Resource

Many std/stis are easily treatable and some are asymptomatic, so have your health check often.

You’re (sadly) not alone on that, friend. To be honest, that is one of the reasons why I’ve always leaned toward gentle femdom over traditional femdom — I like the gentler, more encouraging, uplifting, positive vibe to it. Don’t get me wrong — I am capable of going more traditional femdom (at least verbally) with partners who enjoy it and request it. But I only ever feel comfortable doing that under circumstances that I feel 100% comfortable with. That said, I usually prefer to approach things from a gentle femdom perspective. I enjoy the idea of building people — and their body image, confidence, etc. — up. Slowly. Gradually. Until they can hopefully begin to believe and see those things in themselves too.