The inherent irony in certain tumblr transfems hating masculinity so much as a cope for everything that they were deprived of back when they had to endure living their lives as men, and then taking out said frustrations on trans men and claiming that we have no unique struggles in relation to our own masculinity and trans identity.
They should, of all people, know all too well the struggles of being squeezed into a box as a man and being deprived of so many life experiences because of how the patriarchy dictates men ought to act and how anything that falls outside the norm is considered defective and and an eyesore. All the bullying they underwent for being "too feminine" or "acting too gay". All the toys and games and social events they were dragged away from because "boys shouldn't play with those, or other girls". All the emotions and softness and tears that were beat out of them. Forced into hypermasculine activities from sports to survival camps or conversion camps to prove themselves as "real men", lest they be disowned by their stern and violent fathers.
Have you forgotten? Or did you hate your boyhood so much and sought to escape it, you didn't stop for a moment to think that maybe what you underwent as a boy was unfair to perhaps all boys who didn't fit into that rigid little box everyone tried to shove you into? That maybe some of us who choose to still live on as men struggle with those toxic gender norms too?
Trans men are neither allowed to comment on our struggles with misogyny pre-transition because we "aren't women anymore", and neither allowed to talk about the struggles we face during our transition into men because "all men are privileged and don't face any oppression". According to Tumblr, we just suddenly wake up cis one day with all our social circles and families, academic history and employment intact. With all our papers/ID's magically updated. With absolutely zero problems in regards to our medical and reproductive rights.
Yeah, forget how it takes years to get access to hrt, to figure out the kinks of how to transition, to pass ( if you're lucky ), to assimilate into society ( if you're lucky) , we just have it easy peasy from start to finish. Because the moment we discovered we were men, all our struggles vanished.
Tumblr discourse has genuinely rotted all discussions in regards to men's struggles it's impossible to talk about them without being branded an mra, and it's fucking annoying. God forbid you utter the word "misandry"- remember, it doesn't exist, dummy! Fine, perhaps it doesn't exist on a systemic level, we do reward certain forms of masculinity. However, if you fail to actually meet that standard as per patriarchal norms- you're literally disposable cannon fodder. Brand me an mra all you want, it doesn't change that statistics don't lie about how most of the homeless are disabled men, that most men do not get access to various ressources or domestic violence shelters, that we get conscripted to go die in pointless wars because it's always "women and children first". That male isolation is mocked, that it's mostly men that try to commit suicide, and succeed. The racial profiling that men of colour go through , and so on and so on.
You mock the weak and think of yourself as enlightened and progressive in doing so. Your opinion matters very little when some of your hateful little blogs are entierly dedicated to telling marginalized men they should kill themselves simply because we think we deserve to have our unique struggles spoken about. You're so egocentric you take is as an attack on your own experiences, for some reason, when literally no one is denying that you absolutely have your own unique struggles.
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