Some things as I get older I never really understood the appeal of dating and marriage. Some find me strange or think I’m lonely or sad. I don’t really feel that way lmao. I don’t think people understand what it’s like to be independent. I get to prioritize my needs and manage my own time, and that part as always been appealing to me since I was a kid.
I don’t have a lot of energy throughout the day. I’m very introverted and get exhausted by social output. So I always find it baffling how people manage their romantic relationship, friendships, jobs and relationships with family. That’s overwhelming to me. I think I remember one person who was very honest where she likes her boyfriend but finds it tiring to constantly change her schedule and spend a lot of time/energy to him when she wants to prioritize that for herself. I don’t think it was selfish or anything. It sounded like self managing one’s mental health and prioritizing your goals.
People always romanticize being in relationships, but as someone who went on casual dates and interacted with a lot of people. I generally don’t find it appealing lol. I don’t mind socializing and making new friends, but I prefer autonomy and independence. It’s a different life philosophy and I don’t think it’s talked about enough. People just generalize, and think your life is unfulfilled or lacking. For a long time, I also thought something must be wrong, because the majority of people usually want to be in romantic relationships. But there is trade offs or personal sacrifices to be in one too.
For me, I realize I’ve been progressing more into my career and managing my lifestyle. And to me, that’s more fulfilling. It’s not a very loud or over the top lifestyle, but it also feels very peaceful too. People really don’t get to see that side of life. The peaceful and quiet life where there is no drama or conflict.
