a delusional deity

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

I've had people use knowledge of our headcount and splitting patterns to try and get us to split (very traumatized) fictives. sometimes it worked. for our own safety, we never made that fictive's data public and never mentioned that they split. If someone wants you to split a specific character or person, especially one abused by their fictive in source, that is a bad sign.

obviously this is a personality disorder account, and obviously certain friends knew this about me. certain friends also tried to make me dependant on them, make me cut off others because "our alters just get along with yours the best." they have tried to force codependency by "coincidentally" having our fictives' partners, family members, or friends in source. people have tried to instill a false sense of security by saying you know me, you love me, you are just like me. Someone asking you to trust them based on source alone is a bad sign.

Your trauma/mental health is not an excuse to be toxic.

It's not an excuse to be controlling/possessive.

It's not an excuse to physically harm someone.

It's not an excuse to joke about traumatic things directed towards others, or joke about their traumas without consent even if you share similar traumas

Your trauma is not an excuse to push clouded ideas onto others ( like "you have to do this or else this will happen to you")

Trauma is NOT an excuse to demonize or discriminate against a specific group of people (like when someone is harmed by a person of the same gender and use it as an excuse to be homophobic). Attacking anyone who fits into that specific group is absolutely not okay.

Your trauma is not an excuse to hate on specific relationships, dynamics, or otherwise activities between consented adults (a good example would be shaming people who have threesomes after they had a traumatic experience with one)

Your mental health is never. Ever. EVER an acceptable reason to abuse someone.

Moral of the story, just keep splitting until your brain gives up on you and tries again somewhere else. Easy. Stonks. /Lh /j

Here is a simple rule, eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full. Eat many different foods. There are no “bad” foods.

It’s not good for you to diet, skip meals or avoid entire groups of foods. If you do not eat lots of different kinds of foods, you may not feel well and could make yourself sick. Skipping meals can make you so hungry that you eat too much food when you finally do have a meal or snack.

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

NPD tags are filled to the brim with people repeating the mantra of "narc abuse" not being real and while it's true, it isn't real, we've gotta focus on offering actual help to pwNPD. Destigmatizing NPD is great but let's talk about how to fucking handle it too.

With that being said, here's my contribution on how to prevent/lower the likelihood of a narc crash:

Journal or tell your closest ones about your emotions, even if they feel miniscule. Every negative emotion counts. This might seem obvious but pwNPD are very prone to ignoring our emotions in favor of getting supply. Look, I know you "can handle it" and "only weak people have emotions" but you're a person and you have fucking emotions. It's more embarrassing to handle the post-effects of your crash than to try to prevent it, trust me.

After a crash happens, reflect on what actually caused the feeling of insecurity/distress that led to it. Sometimes it's other people, unfair criticism, or both plus our inherent feeling of needing to match a social standard. Try to figure out what caused it and either distance from the trigger or find a way to limit its access to you. Maybe next time, you will be more prepared for the oncoming emotional flow.

Limit who can criticize you. I guess it's harder for those of us with public pages online but actually limit who the hell has a right to critique you. Not everyone is a good critic. Some people will tell you shit just to upset you. Sometimes people won't be obligated to give you any attention at all. It fucking sucks but limiting the number of people who have the RIGHT to affect you might help. For me, it was a rule: What I think and what my FP think matters, everyone else can disappear.

Find means of reminding yourself how great you are. Do you need to admire yourself in the mirror? Reread that sexy post you made? Look at your art again? Check the notes on your favorite aesthetic post? Do you need to reflect on how many people have admired you over lifetime or, maybe, how many compliments you heard last time you did XYZ? Be fucking vain.

Overall, narc crash isn't something that one can entirely predict or prevent, but it's how we react to it that matters. Warning your loved ones that you require attention/supply, taking care of your damn body so you don't overexert yourself for others, and being mindful of your own emotional reactions might help.

Not everyone is going to have the mental capacity to stop themselves from overreacting/communicating poorly, but as long as you learn from your past mistakes you should be fine. Good luck.

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

I've seen,, a scary amount of people put who their hypersexual alters are in their carrd or something, and then also say they're 16. That's. Not safe. The last thing you want predators to know is if you're hypersexual/were a victim of CSA.

fictive introjects aren't literally blorbo from your show and expecting them to act exactly the same as blorbo is weird

introjects who arent fictives exist also

u cant just demand someone else fronts it's rude and weird. also talking to a system isn't really a choose your own adventure type of thing

no there isn't an "evil alter"

persecutor alters do exist and are common but they arent evil alters and should be treated with the same respect youd treat anyone else

some systems have like 2 or 3 members and others have hundreds. its generally not ur business why a system has the amount of alters they do

u arent entitled to know whos fronting 24/7. a lot of systems dont even always know whos fronting let alone want to share

switching is often not obvious or dramatic at all. it can be but generally it's not.though it does depend if someone has a more overt or covert presentation

did isnt actually that rare. around 1.5% of people are diagnosed with did and it goes undiagnosed a lot. and 1.5% is around the same amount of people who have red hair or ocd or green eyes

you have absolutely no way of knowing if someone is "faking" or lying about being a system. "what about-" nope not even if they do that. almost everything that people claim make it obvious someones lying (nonhuman alters, bigger systems, overt presentation etc) are just... ways that systems exist. ur not in their head, u dont get to decide what theyre experiencing

no we arent possessed