your standards should be high for both your friendships and romantic relationships. everyone you surround yourself with should have qualities you actually admire.

you are so much more than what has been done to you

i know so many of us have been trained since a young age to be so accommodating as to fear ever expressing an opinion, but as we get older we need to understand that being “accommodating” to the point of total indecisiveness is a very uncomfortable way to go through life, for you AND those around you. it’s ok to have an opinion on something. it’s ok to make a decision. your friends won’t hate you if you’re the one to end the “where do you want to eat” “oh anywhere is fine with me” discussion by suggesting a restaurant. you’re not high maintenance if you say, “noon is more convenient for me” when someone asks you what time you want to hang out. make decisions, have opinions, be part of the planning process, understand that you’re not being inconvenient, you’re just contributing. 

You know what, fuck it. I’m gonna get my ass out of bed and stop feeling sorry for myself. I’m gonna go to my sink and clean those 3 day old dishes. I’m gonna go to my hamper and clean my clothes. I’m gonna vacuum. I’m gonna plan, start and finish my homework. I’m gonna get my Nikes on and hit the gym. I’m going to take charge of my life, my future and success because it’s my life and I won’t let my mental illness way me down a second longer.