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Hello! Yeah, this is a really common problem: a lot of the most popular RAMCOA resources are... Well, made by quacks. Here's some places I use and some places I avoid.

People & places I do not trust:

Svali, because of her insistence of a New World Order, that the "magic" used in SRA is real, and generally promoting antisemitic conspiracies. I can't in good faith say if she did or did not experience RAMCOA, but she is an anti-science religious fanatic who deeply misunderstands what she experienced (if she experienced anything at all).

Fritz Springmeier, for being even more out there and bigoted than Svali, who thinks that asking a survivor their favorite Pokemon can tell you what kind of programming they've endured. (Screenshot.) He's generally just unhinged, dangerous, and any time I stumble across his writing I can feel my braincells exploding.

Unwelcome-Ozian, for also using antisemitic conspiracy theories and memes, being ableist towards pwPD and addicts, and racism. (Post about it.) This includes their book, Chainless Slaves.

Deprogramwiki, because it platforms these three.

Papers by Braun, as he has a history of implanting SRA memories in patients. He has also abused patients.

Generally, sources that speculate on if a popular figure is a RAMCOA survivor or not should be avoided. Most of these are just repackaged misogyny ("x female singer is beta programmed because she is sexually provocative!") and it's deeply unprofessional, invasive, and at its core, useless.

Of course, any source that spouts antisemitic conspiracies and dogwhistles (New World Order/NWO, Illuminati stuff, "the global elites", Qanon, etc.) and any source that does not focus on victim wellbeing or support are not ones to trust. These sorts of groups and sources are more interested in political agendas than the survivors.

People & places I trust:

EndRitualAbuse, as it is run by a professional and is one of the oldest RAMCOA resources on the internet. It's a good "intro to RAMCOA" site as it's not as huge as others and formatted in an accessible way. Here's the full article index. The woman who owns the site, Dr. Lacter, can be contacted for questions about programming, referrals to specialists who deal in RA, and more. (Contact page.)

RA-Info, which is similar to the above, but with more resources. It hosts lots of papers, dissertations, convictions, and more relating to this topic, and is run by a survivor. I like their MC basics page and this page, which when clicking on the drop down menu, gives you a huge list of categories.

Papers by Richard Kluft, as he's one of the original DID researchers. One of his students developed the DES, a tool used by therapists and something many systems have taken. He wrote a really good (and still quite accurate) paper back in 1986 about complex/polyfragmented systems, which applies to many RAMCOA survivors. (Paper.)

Papers by Ellen Lacter. She's a big name and has worked with a lot of reputable organizations to get where she is. Yes, the same one who runs EndRitualAbuse.

I have not read them, but Alison Miller's two books, Healing the Unimaginable (for therapists) and Becoming Yourself (for survivors) are favorites within RAMCOA spaces. She's also an old-school DID researcher.

Some miscellaneous sources I can't find a place to put, whether because they are one-offs, or I don't have much to say about 'em.

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Of course, there are some pieces to salvage with bad sources, and things I disagree with in the good sources. Deprogramwiki has a decent list of alter roles that are common in RAMCOA survivors, for example, and there's definitely some hardline Christian resources listed in RA-info that make me uneasy. Being perceptive and cautious are the biggest things you need when researching this.

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(keeping in mind that a shadow isn't necessarily good or bad) personify your Shadow. What form does it take? is it humanoid ?what would its voice sound like ?what is the color of its hair ?its skin? draw out.

Ask your Shadow about your trauma (or if you experience many different traumatic things then ask it about one thing in particular)

What are some of your coping mechanisms ?why do they comfort you? explore if they're directly related to your trauma .

What is something that you hate about your body? explore if it's related to your trauma or the world around you and why you hate it .

Personify your mental illnesses because sometimes they're easier to deal with when you see them as a separate entity

Write a letter to the person who abused you about what they did about how it made you feel and how it affects you now, let it all out

Write a letter to your Shadow about your shared experiences of you and it and reflect on what you write

Draw not what you look like on the outside but how you look on the inside

Why do you look the way that you do in the previous days drawing prompt ?

What are your triggers and why? what events happen to make you triggered by these things ?

What part are yourself scares you? explore in word form .

Draw how you wish you can look like

Why did you look the way that you did in the previous days drawing prompt?

What is something that fills you with dread and why? Explore it through word.

Do you think that you aren't worthy of something ?what is it and why do you think that ?how could you become worthy of it what are the steps to do so ?

What disgusts you about yourself and why do you think that?

What is something that is missing from your life? what are the steps to achieve that goal ?

Write a letter from your Shadow to yourself .what does it say?

Write a letter from present you to yourself at your lowest point in life explore how you feel and what advice you can give to yourself.

Research the different types of emotions right out how to identify and recognize them .

(This is a day or so late so I apologize for that and for the punctuation impossible grammar mistakes throughout this . This is also my first time doing a prompt list like this so feedback would be nice... And if you guys like it I can make more of them.)

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Life has been quite stressful lately, so I thought I would share small practices and spells I use to reduce my stress and anxiety when times are tough… 

🍂 Spend time near nature as much as you can, even if it means looking at trees from your windows / balcony if you live in a city. 

💨 Learn breathing exercises, like 4-7-8 breathing, and practice consistently to reduce your anxiety. 

🧘 Meditate. If you cannot last 15 minutes, try 10, and if not, try 5 minutes. Meditate daily to connect to your inner self. 

🌿 Apply lavender on your hands or pillow before going to bed, to sleep peacefully and reduce stressful thoughts. 

👝 Make a anti-anxiety sachet with rose petals, lavender buds, and amethyst. Carry it around or keep it next to your desk to draw power and peace. 

☕ Reduce your coffee and alcohol consumption. Replace with herbal teas and remind yourself to drink enough water during the day. 

📝 Make a list of everything that worries you in your journal, then close it and make the conscious decision to keep them where they are: on the paper and not in your mind. 

❤️ Be kind to yourself. Celebrate every tiny task you can accomplish, and forgive yourself for the ones you cannot do. 

People seemed to like my last masterpost. This is a list of standardised correspondences for wide variety of different herbs, spices, flowers, perfumes, ingredients, plants, etc. I am generating these programmatically by cross-referencing various sources. I’m building a large database of things and information about those things. If any information seems inaccurate, let me know - there’s a chance that my program did a weird thing with how it matches words. 

Aid: Ash, Basil, Benzoin, Birch, Blackberry, Blueberry, Cumin, Cypress, Damiana, Dill, Garlic, Heliotrope, Hyssop, Lilac, Marjoram, Nettle, Rosemary, Spikenard, Thistle, Milk Thistle, Valerian, Violet, Althea Root, Celery Seed, Clover, Red, Cloves, Deer’s Tongue, Gravel Root, Pepper, Black, Red Clover, Sheep Sorrel, Witches Burr, Yarrow Flower

Air: Aspen, Bistort, Brazil Nut, Columbine, Coriander, Dandelion, Hawthorn, Henna, Moonwort, Quassia, Wormwood, Date, Lotus Root, Lungwort, Magnolia Bark, Wood Betony

Anti-depression: Benzoin, Celandine, Lavender, Vervain, Bee Pollen, Burnet, Kola Nut, Witches Grass, Ylang Ylang

Anti-nightmares: Aloe, Ash, Cascara Sagrada, Cinquefoil, Hyacinth, Mullein, Rosemary, Sage, Thyme, Vervain, Violet, Brimstone, Coffee, Wood Betony

Anti-snake: Alkanet, Centaury, Clover, Jasmine, Lemongrass, Periwinkle, Plantain, Milk Thistle, Cedar Berries, Shave Grass

Anti-stress: Benzoin, Chamomile, Columbine, Meadowsweet, Passion Flower, Scullcap, Wine, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bayberry, Gravel Root

Anti-theft: Aspen, Comfrey, Cumin, Juniper, Larch, Caraway, Cedar Berries

Astrology: Damiana, Mugwort, Absinthe, Kava Kava

Atonement: Barberry

Attraction: Allspice, Almond, Aloe, Angelica, Apple, Apricot, Basil, Benzoin, Bistort, Blackberry, Bladderwrack, Catnip, Cedar, Chamomile, Chickweed, Clover, Columbine, Cotton, Cowslip, Damiana, Dill, Elecampane, Gardenia, Henbane, Hibiscus, Honeysuckle, Jasmine, Juniper, Lavender, Lemon Verbena, Licorice, Lovage, Mandrake, Marigold, Marjoram, Mullein, Myrtle, Oak, Olive, Orange, Parsley, Passion Flower, Peony, Periwinkle, Pineapple, Sassafras, Thyme, Wheat, Yerba Mate, Yerba Santa, Brandy, Beer, Lemon Balm, Nutmeg, Adam And Eve Root, Agar Agar, Althea Root, Ambergris, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bee Pollen, Bergamot, Blue Violet, Buckeye, Cloves, Deer’s Tongue, Devil’s Bone Root, Devil’s Shoestring, Evening Primrose, Frangipani, Honey, Job’s Tears, Lobelia, Morning Glory, Musk, Orange Bergamot, Orange Blossoms, Orris Root Powder, Safflower, Sweet Bugle, Tonka Bean, Tuberose, Vertivert, Yellow Dock, Ylang Ylang

Babies: Daisy, Elecampane, Iris, Violet, False Unicorn Root

Banishment: Cactus, Elecampane, Mullein, Onion, Thyme, Tobacco, St. John’s Wort, Asofoetida, Betel Nut, Cloves, Dragon’s Blood, Morning Glory, Pepper, Black, Sea Salt, Wood Betony, Yarrow Flower

Beauty: Allspice, Almond, Aloe, Angelica, Apple, Apricot, Avocado, Basil, Benzoin, Bistort, Blackberry, Bladderwrack, Catnip, Cedar, Chamomile, Chickweed, Clover, Columbine, Cotton, Cowslip, Damiana, Dill, Elecampane, Gardenia, Hibiscus, Honeysuckle, Jasmine, Juniper, Lavender, Lemon Verbena, Licorice, Lovage, Mandrake, Marigold, Marjoram, Mullein, Myrtle, Oak, Olive, Orange, Parsley, Passion Flower, Peony, Periwinkle, Pineapple, Sassafras, Thyme, Wheat, Yerba Mate, Yerba Santa, Lychee, Prune, Brandy, Lemon Balm, Nutmeg, Adam And Eve Root, Agar Agar, Althea Root, Ambergris, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bee Pollen, Bergamot, Blue Violet, Buckeye, Cloves, Deer’s Tongue, Devil’s Bone Root, Devil’s Shoestring, Evening Primrose, Frangipani, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, Honey, Job’s Tears, Lobelia, Magnolia Flowers, Maidenhair Fern, Morning Glory, Orange Bergamot, Orange Blossoms, Orris Root Powder, Safflower, Sweet Bugle, Tonka Bean, Tuberose, Vertivert, Yellow Dock, Ylang Ylang

Binding: Hydrangea, Gin, Crowfoot, Morning Glory, Solomon’s Seal Root, Vinegar

Blessings: Apple, Cinquefoil, Cowslip, Daisy, Dill, Elder, Elecampane, Figwort, Horehound, Iris, Myrrh, Pine, Plantain, Walnut, Wine, St. John’s Wort, Agar Agar, Bay Laurel, Black Walnut, Blessed Thistle, Clover, Red, Job’s Tears, Lungwort, Orange Peel, Red Clover, White Willow Bark

Business: Basil, Benzoin, Cinquefoil, Cowslip, Elder, Figwort, Irish Moss, Mint, Mistletoe, Olive, Pennyroyal, Peony, Pine, Plantain, Sarsaparilla, Willow, Grapes, Mango, Patchouli, Bay Laurel, Citronella, Dragon’s Blood, Goldenseal, Orange Peel, Tonka Bean, Vertivert, Yellow Dock

Calming: Cedar, Lime, Passion Flower, Valerian, Althea Root, Blue Violet, Kola Nut, Lily Of The Valley, Magnolia Flowers, Tuberose, Ylang Ylang

Chastity: Fleabane, Hawthorn, Lavender, Pineapple, Witch Hazel

Clarity: Fern, Horehound, Amber, Citronella, Cloves

Cleansing: Burdock, Camphor, Fern, Hyssop, Lovage, Mesquite, Mugwort, Pine, Thyme, Vervain, Yucca, Cranberry, Elderberry, Citronella, Frankincense Resin, Lemon Grass, Sea Salt, Solomon’s Seal Root

Comfort: Bluebell, Gardenia, Nettle, Pennyroyal, Calendula Flowers, Cloves, Pikaki

Commitment: Elder, Scullcap, Crowfoot

Communication: Club Moss, Foxglove, Mint, Mulberry, Elderberry, Orris Root Cut

Concentration: Benzoin, Bistort, Buckthorn, Cascara Sagrada, Cowslip, Fern, Mace, Sandalwood, Wheat, Celery Seed, Job’s Tears

Confidence: Celandine, Cinquefoil, Dogwood, Honeysuckle, Tobacco, Ginger, High John, Motherwort, Neroli, Yarrow Flower

Consecration: Acacia, Arabic Gum, Cedar, Clover, Cyclamen, Fumitory, Henbane, Hyssop, Iris, Myrrh, Scullcap, Ginger, Burnet, Caraway, Clover, Red, Earth Smoke, Frankincense Resin, Gorse, Gum Arabic, Sea Salt, Tarragon, Witches Grass, Wood Aloe

Control: Rye, Saffron, Barberry, Devil’s Shoestring, Frankincense Resin, Iron Weed

Courage: Borage, Columbine, Eyebright, Iris, Ivy, Mullein, Raspberry, Thyme, Vervain, Grapes, Vodka, St. John’s Wort, Adam And Eve Root, Black Cohosh, Blue Violet, Citronella, Musk, Neroli, Pepper, Black, Poke Root, Tea Leaves, Tonka Bean, Yarrow Flower

Creativity: Angelica, Carnation, Citron, Horehound, Mistletoe, Vervain, Violet, Grapes, Citronella, Ginkgo Biloba

Death: Bluebell, Cypress, Elder, Willow, Alder, Black Cohosh

Desire: Henbane, Yerba Santa, Beer, Evening Primrose, Musk

Determination: Allspice

Dispelling: Agrimony, Benzoin, Elecampane, Fern, Marjoram, Nettle, Spanish Moss, Coffee, Devil’s Claw, Witches Grass

Divination: Beech, Bistort, Camphor, Cherry, Cinquefoil, Corn, Cypress, Hibiscus, Jasmine, Mugwort, Mulberry, Pansy, Rose, Rowan, Walnut, Willow, Wormwood, Grapes, Lychee, Alder, St. John’s Wort, Adder’s Tongue, Black Walnut, Broom Tops, Butchers Broom, Butterbur, Cherry Bark, Chervil, Dandelion Root, Flax Seed, Frankincense Resin, Goldenrod, Orange Peel, Palm, Yarrow Flower

Divinity: Beech, Bistort, Camphor, Cherry, Cinquefoil, Corn, Cypress, Hibiscus, Jasmine, Mugwort, Mulberry, Pansy, Rose, Rowan, Walnut, Willow, Wormwood, Grapes, Lychee, Alder, St. John’s Wort, Adder’s Tongue, Black Walnut, Broom Tops, Butchers Broom, Butterbur, Cherry Bark, Chervil, Dandelion Root, Flax Seed, Frankincense Resin, Goldenrod, Orange Peel, Palm, Yarrow Flower

Dreams: Agrimony, Anise, Buchu, Cinquefoil, Elder, Heliotrope, Hibiscus, Holly, Hops, Hyacinth, Jasmine, Lemon Verbena, Lovage, Marigold, Marjoram, Mimosa, Mugwort, Mullein, Peppermint, Rosemary, Sage, Thyme, Vervain, Violet, Passion Fruit, St. John’s Wort, Adder’s Tongue, Ambergris, Balsam Fir, Bay Laurel, Bay Leaf, Calendula Flowers, Caraway, Dandelion Root, Goosegrass, Wood Betony

Drive: Bistort, Buckthorn, Cumin, Nettle, Black Cohosh, Cloves, Dragon’s Blood, Solomon’s Seal Root

Earth: Yucca

Emotions: Agrimony, Sage, Valerian, Elderberry, Passion Fruit, Calamint, Neroli, Orange Blossoms, Pink Rose Buds, Tuberose, Wood Betony

Employment: Basil, Hawthorn, Meadowsweet, Pecan, Black Haw, Devil’s Shoestring, Gravel Root, Job’s Tears, Kava Kava, Lucky Hand Root, Tonka Bean

Exorcism: Angelica, Basil, Birch, Boneset, Cumin, Garlic, Leek, Mandrake, Sandalwood, Snapdragon, Black Pepper, Saw Palmetto Berries, Solomon’s Seal Root, Witches Grass

Family: Garlic, Mullein, Oak, Olive, Pink, Mango, Beer, Hollyhock, Motherwort

Fertility: Apple, Birch, Bistort, Carrot, Celery, Cucumber, Daffodil, Fenugreek, Fig, Hawthorn, Ivy, Mandrake, Mistletoe, Mugwort, Myrtle, Oak, Parsley, Peach, Pomegranate, Rice, Walnut, Wheat, Pink, Grapes, Patchouli, Ginkgo Biloba, Grape Seed, Hay, Olive Leaf, Prickly Ash Bark, Shave Grass, Squaw Vine, Yohimbe Bark

Fidelity: Clover, Cumin, Hydrangea, Licorice, Olive, Rye, Elderberry, Cardamom, Clover, Red, Magnolia Bark, Red Clover

Finances: Fumitory, Parsley, Clover, Red, Earth Smoke, Goldenseal, Red Clover, Tonka Bean

Fire: Mesquite, Mistletoe, St. John’s Wort, Cubeb Berries, Slippery Elm

Focus: Cowslip, Mace, Mulberry, Orchid, Amber, Palm

Fortune: Bistort, Hyacinth, Mistletoe, Parsley, Peony, Strawberry, Wintergreen, Wormwood, Bay Leaf, Bayberry, Blue Violet, Tonka Bean

Friendship: Acacia, Arabic Gum, Bluebell, Cinquefoil, Citron, Gardenia, Meadowsweet, Myrtle, Passion Flower, Rose, Date, Mandarin, Mango, Citronella, Gum Arabic, Sweet Pea

Frugality: Cherry Bark

Grief: Cypress, Hyacinth, Marjoram, Sage, Thyme, Witch Hazel

Happiness: Anise, Beech, Catnip, Cherry, Cyclamen, Hawthorn, Lily, Orange, Quince, Rose, Saffron, Grapes, Kiwi, Lychee, Mango, Watermelon, Sangria, Bee Pollen, Geranium, Lily Of The Valley, Neroli

Harmony: Dulse, Lavender, Meadowsweet, Scullcap, Valerian, Gravel Root, Magnolia Flowers, Narcissus, Orange Blossoms, Tea Tree, Wood Betony

Healing: African Violet, Agrimony, Allspice, Almond, Amaranth, Angelica, Aspen, Barley, Blackberry, Calamus, Carnation, Cedar, Chamomile, Chickweed, Cinnamon, Citron, Cotton, Cucumber, Cypress, Eucalyptus, Feverfew, Gardenia, Garlic, Hops, Ivy, Lavender, Mesquite, Mint, Mistletoe, Myrrh, Peppermint, Persimmon, Plantain, Potato, Rosemary, Rowan, Saffron, Sage, Sandalwood, Sassafras, Spearmint, Vervain, Willow, Yerba Santa, Passion Fruit, Lemon Balm, Adder’s Tongue, Arrow Root, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bay Leaf, Bayberry, Dandelion Leaf, Fennel Seed, Flax Seed, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, Heal All, Horseshoe Chestnut, Olive Leaf, Pau D'arco, Raspberry Leaf, Rose Hips, Saw Palmetto Berries, White Willow Bark, Wood Betony, Yarrow Flower, Yellow Dock

Health: Ash, Cinquefoil, Coriander, Dogwood, Eucalyptus, Figwort, Henna, Juniper, Knotweed, Mandrake, Mistletoe, Onion, Parsley, Pimpernel, Rosemary, Sage, Sarsaparilla, Sassafras, Spikenard, Thistle, Thyme, Yerba Santa, Yucca, Gin, Wine, Ginger, Bergamot, Caraway, Chia, Galangal Root, Ginseng, High John, Linden Flowers, Magnolia Flowers, Sheep Sorrel

Heart: Amaranth, Daffodil, Henna, Yucca, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Copal Resin, Sheep Sorrel, Tuberose

Immortality: Coriander, Foxglove, Heather, Tansy, Yew, Chervil

Inspiration: Beech, Horehound, Lovage, Mulberry, Mead, Blue Violet, Tuberose

Intuition: Honeysuckle, Uva Ursi

Invisiblity: Amaranth, Chicory, Tansy, Cherry Bark, Devil’s Shoestring, Monkshood, Poppy Seeds, Sow Thistle

Joy: Celandine, Pecan, Grapes, Mandarin, Tangerine, Agar Agar, Calamint

Legality: Buckthorn, Cascara Sagrada, Celandine, Lovage, Marigold, Tobacco, Mango, Calendula Flowers, Galangal Root

Lightning: Birch, Cedar, Elm, Hawthorn, Mistletoe, Vervain, St. John’s Wort, Azalea, Bay Laurel

Longevity: Maple, Peach, Sage, Tansy, Lily Of The Valley, Straw Flower

Love: Acacia, Aloe, Angelica, Apple, Apricot, Arabic Gum, Beet, Belladonna, Brazil Nut, Caper, Catnip, Chamomile, Chickweed, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clove, Clover, Coltsfoot, Coriander, Cowslip, Cumin, Daisy, Damiana, Dill, Elder, Elecampane, Feverfew, Fig, Gardenia, Henbane, Henna, Hibiscus, Hickory, Holly, Hyacinth, Hydrangea, Ivy, Jasmine, Juniper, Lavender, Leek, Lemon, Lettuce, Licorice, Lime, Lovage, Mandrake, Marigold, Marjoram, Meadowsweet, Mimosa, Mullein, Myrtle, Olive, Orange, Pansy, Papaya, Peach, Pear, Peppermint, Periwinkle, Pistachio, Plum, Poppy, Quassia, Quince, Raspberry, Rose, Rosemary, Saffron, Sarsaparilla, Scullcap, Senna, Spearmint, Spikenard, Strawberry, Valerian, Vervain, Willow, Witch Grass, Witch Hazel, Yerba Mate, Date, Pink, Mango, Passion Fruit, Brandy, Lemon Balm, Patchouli, Adam And Eve Root, Azalea, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bee Pollen, Black Cohosh, Blessed Thistle, Blowball, Blue Cohosh, Blue Violet, Butterbur, Caraway, Cardamom, Cherry Bark, Chervil, Chili Pepper, Clover, Red, Cloves, Copal Resin, Cubeb Berries, Devil’s Bit, Evening Primrose, Frangipani, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, Goosegrass, Gorse, Gravel Root, Gum Arabic, High John, Lady’s Mantle, Linden Flowers, Lobelia, Magnolia Flowers, Magnolia Bark, Maidenhair Fern, Maple Syrup, Musk, Orange Blossoms, Orange Peel, Orris Root Cut, Orris Root Powder, Peas, Pink Rose Buds, Poppy Seeds, Raspberry Leaf, Red Clover, Sweet Bugle, Tonka Bean, Tuberose, Vanilla Bean, Vertiver, Witches Grass, Wood Betony, Yarrow Flower, Ylang Ylang

Luck: Allspice, Aloe, Ash, Bamboo, Basil, Brazil Nut, Buckthorn, Cabbage, Catnip, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Clover, Corn, Cotton, Daffodil, Daisy, Dill, Heather, Holly, Hyacinth, Irish Moss, Lilac, Maple, Marigold, Mistletoe, Oak, Parsley, Peony, Persimmon, Pineapple, Potato, Quince, Rowan, Spikenard, Straw, Strawberry, Thyme, Violet, Wintergreen, Grapes, Kiwi, Watermelon, Nutmeg, Star Anise, Acorn, Bayberry, Bergamot, Black Haw, Blue Violet, Buckeye, Clover, Red, Dandelion Root, Devil’s Shoestring, Dragon’s Blood, Galangal Root, Goosegrass, Heal All, High John, Jamaican Ginger, Job’s Tears, Little John, Lo John, Lucky Hand Root, Mustard Seed, Oak Moss, Orange Peel, Poppy Seeds, Rose Hips, Shallots, Tonka Bean

Lust: Avocado, Caper, Celery, Coriander, Cyclamen, Dill, Hibiscus, Hickory, Lemon, Licorice, Mugwort, Parsley, Pear, Radish, Rosemary, Saffron, Senna, Sesame, Sugar Cane, Yerba Mate, Pink, Grapes, Passion Fruit, Bedstraw (fragrant), Blue Violet, Clover, Red, Cubeb Berries, Devil’s Bit, False Unicorn Root, Ginseng, Lemon Grass, Olive Leaf, Tea Leaves, Vanilla Bean, Witches Grass, Yohimbe Bark

Marriage: Ivy, Lily, Olive, Orange, Periwinkle, Violet, Passion Fruit, Adam And Eve Root, Crowfoot, Laurel, Lily Of The Valley, Sweet Bugle, Yarrow Flower

Meditation: Acacia, Anise, Arabic Gum, Chamomile, Damiana, Mace, Myrrh, Sandalwood, Frankincense Resin, Gotu Kola, Gum Arabic, Red Willow Bark

Memory: Cinquefoil, Eyebright, Lilac, Orchid, Periwinkle, Rosemary, Bergamot, Caraway

Mental powers: Clover, Cypress, Dill, Horehound, Hyacinth, Periwinkle, Sage, Elderberry, Lemon Balm, Caraway, Citronella, Cloves, Coffee, Geranium, Grape, Kava Kava, Lily Of The Valley, Narcissus, Orange Peel, Tuberose, Vanilla Bean

Money: Acacia, Allspice, Almond, Arabic Gum, Basil, Blackberry, Bladderwrack, Cabbage, Calamus, Cascara Sagrada, Cedar, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clove, Clover, Comfrey, Dill, Echinacea, Fenugreek, Honeysuckle, Irish Moss, Jasmine, Juniper, Maple, Marjoram, Mint, Mistletoe, Myrtle, Olive, Periwinkle, Pineapple, Potato, Rice, Sarsaparilla, Sassafras, Thyme, Vervain, Wheat, Woodruff, Grapes, Rum, Nutmeg, Patchouli, Bayberry, Bergamot, Blue Cohosh, Buckeye, Cat’s Claw, Clover, Red, Flax Seed, Galangal Root, Ginseng, Goldenseal, Grape, Gum Arabic, High John, Hollyhock, Horseshoe Chestnut, Jezebel Root, Job’s Tears, Maple Syrup, Oak Moss, Oatstraw, Orange Bergamot, Orange Peel, Red Clover, Squill Root, Vertivert, Yellow Dock

Openness: Frangipani, Orange Blossoms

Overcoming: Almond, Benzoin, Cypress, Sassafras, Willow, Bee Pollen, Coffee, High John, Magnolia Flowers, Neroli, Vertivert, Wisteria, Witches Grass, Yarrow Flower

Passion: Cinnamon, Passion Flower, Sarsaparilla, Sesame, Witch Hazel, Grapes, Caraway, Savoury, Saw Palmetto Berries, Tarragon, Vanilla Bean

Peace: Aloe, Coltsfoot, Coriander, Dulse, Gardenia, Heather, Hyacinth, Lavender, Myrrh, Myrtle, Olive, Passion Flower, Pennyroyal, Peppermint, Plum, Rose, Scullcap, Tobacco, Vervain, Violet, Cilantro, Coffee, Lily Of The Valley, Magnolia Flowers, Narcissus, Olive Leaf, Orange Blossoms, Tuberose, Ylang Ylang

Persuasion: Camphor, Honeysuckle, Plumeria, Citronella, Orris Root Cut, Ylang Ylang

Potency: Banana, Celery, Cyclamen, Juniper, Myrrh, Black Cohosh, Cherry Bark, Dragon’s Blood, Ginseng, Gravel Root, Kava Kava, Olive Leaf, Palm, Yohimbe Bark

Power: Angelica, Bistort, Bladderwrack, Borage, Buchu, Carnation, Cedar, Celery, Centaury, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Club Moss, Ebony, Echinacea, Elecampane, Fern, Garlic, Gentian, Honeysuckle, Mugwort, Myrrh, Orchid, Periwinkle, Rowan, Sunflower, Yerba Santa, Ginger, Star Anise, Acorn, Althea Root, Arnica Flowers, Asofoetida, Barberry, Bay Leaf, Bergamot, Black Haw, Blue Cohosh, Brimstone, Butchers Broom, Calendula Flowers, Caraway, Celery Seed, Deer’s Tongue, Dragon’s Blood, Flax Seed, Frankincense Resin, Goldenseal, Grape, Lady’s Mantle, Lily Of The Valley, Marshmallow Root, Sulfur Powder, Uva Ursi, Witches Burr

Prophecies: Buchu, Heliotrope, Jasmine, Marigold, Mimosa, Mugwort, Peppermint, Violet, St. John’s Wort, Bay Laurel, Bay Leaf

Prosperity: Alfalfa, Alkanet, Almond, Ash, Banana, Basil, Benzoin, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Coltsfoot, Heliotrope, Juniper, Lily, Mandrake, Mint, Parsley, Passion Flower, Peony, Pine, Poppy, Sassafras, Vervain, Grapes, Ginger, Nutmeg, Bergamot, Citronella, High John, Oatstraw, Orange Blossoms, Pikaki, Squill Root, Sweet Bugle, Tonka Bean, Vertivert, Wisteria, Wood Aloe

Protection: African Violet, Alfalfa, Aloe, Alyssum, Amaranth, Angelica, Anise, Ash, Aspen, Bamboo, Barley, Basil, Belladonna, Birch, Blackberry, Bladderwrack, Bloodroot, Buckwheat, Burdock, Cactus, Calamus, Carob, Cascara Sagrada, Catnip, Cedar, Celandine, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clove, Clover, Club Moss, Coconut, Comfrey, Coriander, Cotton, Cumin, Cyclamen, Cypress, Daisy, Dill, Dogwood, Ebony, Elder, Elm, Eucalyptus, Fern, Figwort, Fleabane, Gardenia, Garlic, Hawthorn, Heather, Heliotrope, Henna, Hickory, Holly, Hyssop, Irish Moss, Ivy, Juniper, Larkspur, Lavender, Leek, Lettuce, Lime, Lotus, Mandrake, Marigold, Marjoram, Mint, Mistletoe, Mulberry, Onion, Parsley, Peony, Periwinkle, Plantain, Quince, Rhubarb, Rice, Sandalwood, Spearmint, Sunflower, Thistle, Valerian, Venus Flytrap, Vervain, Violet, Willow, Witch Hazel, Woodruff, Wormwood, Yerba Santa, Yew, Yucca, Cantaloupe, Elderberry, Mandarin, Mango, Absinthe, Alder, Ginger, Nutmeg, St. John’s Wort, Aconite, Acorn, Ague, Althea Root, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Bay Laurel, Bay Leaf, Beeswax, Bergamot, Bilberry Bark, Black Cohosh, Black Pepper, Blessed Thistle, Blue Violet, Broom Tops, Buckeye, Burnet, Butchers Broom, Calendula Flowers, Caraway, Cloves, Cramp Bark, Dandelion Root, Devil’s Bit, False Unicorn Root, Fennel Seed, Flax Seed, Frankincense Resin, Galangal Root, Geranium, Ginseng, Gorse, High John, Kava Kava, Lady Slipper, Laurel, Linden Flowers, Lucky Hand Root, Marshmallow Root, Monkshood, Oak Moss, Olive Leaf, Orris Root Cut, Raspberry Leaf, Red Clover, Saw Palmetto Berries, Sea Salt, Sheep Sorrel, Slippery Elm, Solomon’s Seal Root, Squaw Vine, Straw Flower, Tonka Bean, True Unicorn Root, Wood Betony

Psychic powers: Acacia, Anise, Arabic Gum, Bistort, Bladderwrack, Borage, Buchu, Camphor, Celery, Cinnamon, Citron, Cornflower, Damiana, Eyebright, Honeysuckle, Lotus, Lovage, Myrrh, Rowan, Saffron, Yerba Santa, Date, Elderberry, Grapes, Lemon Balm, Star Anise, Althea Root, Amber, Ambergris, Arnica Flowers, Bay Leaf, Butchers Broom, Calendula Flowers, Celery Seed, Deer’s Tongue, Galangal Root, Gum Arabic, Marshmallow Root, Tuberose, Uva Ursi, Wisteria, Yarrow Flower

Purification: Angelica, Anise, Benzoin, Birch, Bloodroot, Camphor, Cedar, Club Moss, Coconut, Elecampane, Eucalyptus, Fern, Fumitory, Garlic, Hyssop, Iris, Lavender, Lemon, Lemon Verbena, Lovage, Marjoram, Mesquite, Mimosa, Oak, Parsley, Peppermint, Pine, Rosemary, Sage, Snapdragon, Thyme, Valerian, Vervain, Wintergreen, Yucca, Grapefruit, Bay Leaf, Blue Cohosh, Cayenne, Cloves, Copal Resin, Dandelion Leaf, Dragon’s Blood, Earth Smoke, Fennel Seed, Frankincense Resin, Sea Salt, White Sage, Wood Betony

Rain: Coriander, Cotton, Dill, Heather, Henbane, Pansy, Rose, Mustard Seed

Relationships: Chickweed, Citron, Comfrey, Cyclamen, Eucalyptus, Hawthorn, Marigold, Pansy, Rose, Turnip, Valerian, Yerba Mate, Honeydew Melon, Gorse, Pink Rose Buds, Raspberry Leaf, Salt Petre, Wood Betony, Yarrow Flower

Riches: Buckwheat, Cloves, Tea Leaves

Romance: Cinquefoil, Coriander, Cowslip, Cyclamen, Cranberry, St. John’s Wort, Bay Laurel, Gorse, Orris Root Cut, Orris Root Powder, Tuberose

Sacredness: Oak, Valerian, Willow, Crowfoot, Solomon’s Seal Root

Safety: Ash, Comfrey, Irish Moss, Lucky Hand Root, Sanicle

Sex: Apple, Avocado, Damiana, Endive, Hyacinth, Lemon Verbena, Lettuce, Mullein, Parsley, Passion Flower, Periwinkle, Persimmon, Yerba Mate, Pink, Kiwi, Passion Fruit, Ginger, Cloves, Cubeb Berries, Devil’s Shoestring, Fennel Seed, Galangal Root, Ginseng, Kava Kava, Musk, Orris Root Powder, Parsnip, Safflower, Salt Petre, Savoury, Sugar, Watercress, Ylang Ylang

Sleep: Anise, Catnip, Chamomile, Daisy, Heliotrope, Hops, Hyacinth, Jasmine, Lavender, Lettuce, Marigold, Mimosa, Mugwort, Passion Flower, Peppermint, Scullcap, Spearmint, Thyme, Valerian, Vervain, Violet, Bay Laurel, Bergamot, Blue Violet, Celery Seed, Dandelion Root

Soothing: Benzoin

Spirits: Acacia, African Violet, Amaranth, Arabic Gum, Basil, Bloodroot, Boneset, Borage, Catnip, Chrysanthemum, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clover, Damiana, Dulse, Echinacea, Feverfew, Garlic, Hawthorn, Hyssop, Jasmine, Lemon, Lilac, Lotus, Lovage, Mint, Mulberry, Mullein, Plantain, Ragwort, Sage, Sweetgrass, Violet, Wormwood, Elderberry, Grapes, Lemon Balm, Mandrake , St. John’s Wort, Althea Root, Azalea, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Blessed Thistle, Butterbur, Calendula Flowers, Chervil, Cloves, Dandelion Leaf, Dandelion Root, Geranium, Gum Arabic, Linden Flowers, Marshmallow Root, Musk, Neroli, Osha Root, Pearl Moss, Red Clover, Rose Hips, Saw Palmetto Berries, Solomon’s Seal Root, Vertivert, Witches Grass, Wood Betony

Spirituality: Acacia, African Violet, Amaranth, Arabic Gum, Basil, Bloodroot, Boneset, Borage, Catnip, Chrysanthemum, Cinnamon, Cinquefoil, Clover, Damiana, Dulse, Echinacea, Feverfew, Garlic, Hawthorn, Hyssop, Jasmine, Lemon, Lilac, Lotus, Lovage, Mint, Mulberry, Mullein, Plantain, Ragwort, Sage, Sweetgrass, Violet, Wormwood, Elderberry, Grapes, Lemon Balm, Mandrake , St. John’s Wort, Althea Root, Azalea, Balm Of Gilead Tears, Blessed Thistle, Butterbur, Calendula Flowers, Chervil, Cloves, Dandelion Leaf, Dandelion Root, Geranium, Gum Arabic, Linden Flowers, Marshmallow Root, Musk, Neroli, Osha Root, Pearl Moss, Red Clover, Rose Hips, Saw Palmetto Berries, Solomon’s Seal Root, Vertivert, Witches Grass, Wood Betony

Strength: Borage, Calamus, Camphor, Carnation, Cedar, Cinnamon, Echinacea, Gentian, Heliotrope, Irish Moss, Leek, Lime, Marjoram, Nettle, Oak, Orchid, Parsley, Pennyroyal, Pine, Saffron, Spearmint, Milk Thistle, Thyme, Tobacco, Willow, Grapes, Tangerine, Vodka, Ginger, St. John’s Wort, Bay Leaf, Bee Pollen, Black Cohosh, Blessed Thistle, Calendula Flowers, Fennel Seed, High John, Oak Moss, Oregano, Sow Thistle, Tea Leaves, Vanilla Bean, Wood Betony

Success: Aloe, Basil, Benzoin, Chamomile, Cinnamon, Clover, Hawthorn, Honeysuckle, Pecan, Pennyroyal, Peony, Pine, Plumeria, Rowan, Strawberry, Cider, Ginger, Lemon Balm, Agar Agar, Bay Leaf, Bergamot, Clover, Red, Frankincense Resin, Goldenseal, Heal All, High John, Hollyhock, Kava Kava, Lo John, Lucky Hand Root, Motherwort, Mustard Seed, Orris Root Cut, Pikaki, Solomon’s Seal Root, Tonka Bean, Wood Aloe

Tenacity: Goosegrass

The color blue: Blueberry, Cornflower, Eucalyptus

The color green: Honeysuckle, Mint, Violet, Wintergreen, Nutmeg, Galangal Root

The color purple: Black Cohosh, Iron Weed

The color red: Angelica, Apple, Blackberry, Bloodroot, Catnip, Chamomile, Cinquefoil, Coltsfoot, Coriander, Damiana, Dogwood, Hawthorn, Henbane, Horehound, Lotus, Oak, Onion, Peony, Quince, Spearmint, Valerian, Willow, Witch Hazel, Elderberry, Gin, Vodka, Adder’s Tongue, Balsam Fir, Blowball, Crowfoot, Devil Bone Root, Epsom Salt, Flax Seed, Monkshood, Mustard Seed, Poppy Seeds, Raspberry Leaf, Solomon’s Seal Root, Tonka Bean

The color white: Bayberry, Caraway

The color yellow: Bistort, Ivy, Mustard Seed, Slippery Elm, Yarrow Flower, Yellow Dock

The moon: Aloe, Bloodroot, Cabbage, Chickweed, Lettuce, Onion, Willow, Adder’s Tongue, Watercress, White Willow Bark

The ocean: Bladderwrack, Coriander, Dulse, Garlic, Mugwort, Pennyroyal, Beeswax, Blowball, Pau D'arco, Sea Salt, Sheep Sorrel, Tonka Bean

The sun: Citron, Mandarin

Tranquility: Coltsfoot, Cypress, Lime, Pennyroyal, Violet, Lily Of The Valley, Narcissus

Transmutation: Elder, Lady’s Mantle, Musk, Straw Flower

Travel: Ash, Bladderwrack, Comfrey, Damiana, Feverfew, Fig, Mugwort, Absinthe, Kava Kava, Lucky Hand Root, Lungwort, Prickly Ash Bark, Sanicle

Virility: Sarsaparilla, Fennel Seed, Yohimbe Bark

Visions: Foxglove, Violet, Kava Kava

Vitality: Mint, Parsley, Sarsaparilla, Spearmint, Tangerine, Blessed Thistle, Cherry Bark, Fennel Seed, Oregano

Water: Ash, Bladderwrack, Camphor, Garlic, Heather, Henbane, Lemon, Primrose, Saffron, Yerba Santa, Black Cohosh, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, Little John, Poke Root, Sea Salt, Squaw Vine

Wealth: Basil, Bistort, Blackberry, Buckwheat, Cedar, Jasmine, Maple, Marjoram, Mint, Pomegranate, Sassafras, Vervain, Patchouli, Buckeye, Flax Seed, Oatstraw, Orange Bergamot

Wind: Bladderwrack, Bloodroot, Buchu, Buckthorn, Dulse, Plantain, Saffron, Alder, St. John’s Wort, Broom Tops, Dandelion Leaf, Fennel Seed

Wisdom: Cinquefoil, Elder, Iris, Oak, Peach, Sage, Sunflower, Milk Thistle, Elderberry, Acorn

Wishes: Bamboo, Buckthorn, Peppermint, Pomegranate, Sage, Sandalwood, Spearmint, Sunflower, Walnut, Willow, Lychee, Bat’s Head Root, Bay Leaf, Black Walnut, Blowball, Dandelion Leaf, Dandelion Root, Ginseng, Job’s Tears, Lotus Root, Tonka Bean

Wood: Cypress, Dogwood, Oak, Papaya, Peach, Rowan, Sandalwood, Sarsaparilla, Red Willow Bark, Wood Betony

Candle magic is one of my favorite type of ritual, because it is relatively simple to setup, and non-expensive. You just need a candle, and fire to light it up. If you want the spell to be even more powerful, feel free to carve symbols or sigils on the candle before lighting it. Then sit down, observe the flame, and think about a question that is worrying you. 

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Color correspondences

⚪ White candles: healing, purification, innocence, meditation, peace

⚫ Black candles: strength, negative energies, resilience, self-control

🟤 Brown candles: intuition, animal protection, stability, decisions 

🟣 Purple candles: ambition, power, focus, concentration, inspiration

🔵 Blue candles: happiness, calm, laughter, relaxation, harmony, water

🟢 Green candles: luck, love, fertility, birth, health, success, earth 

🟡 Yellow candles: imagination, divination, intelligence, energy, air

🟠 Orange candles: authority, changes, control, support, versatility

🔴 Red candles: love, brave, blood, passion, death, sex, fire 

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Candle reading 

🔥 Candle will not light: the question cannot be answered anymore, because things are already in movement, you cannot turn back now. 

🔥 Strong, stable flame: the answer to your question is “yes”. 

🔥 Weak, small flame: the answer to your question is “no”. 

🔥 Dancing flame: there is chaotic, undisciplined energy present. You need to focus and meditate before taking any decision at the moment. 

🔥 Crackling flame: spirits might be present in the room, and they would like to speak to you. Be open to their message. 

🔥 A lot of smoke is coming out: the universe is helping you cleanse yourself and your room, leaving space for new opportunities and energies. 

One of the strongest energies I work with is that of death. It can be intimidating to outside forces, malevolent or otherwise, and I tend to use it sparingly in protection because of it’s all encompassing scare factor. I don’t want to scare away good things, and certainly don’t want to draw any bad things in. However, death isn’t always scary. Sometimes it’s a guardian force, as is the energy of cemeteries. There is a certain respect associated with death, and thus is what I pull from to make a shield from it.

This is a visualization I created as well as my directions for energy work and chants. You can switch things up if you like, this is just what I do.

What you’ll need:

A spot of ground, preferably inside your home somewhere, that has the Earth directly under it. This makes the energy work simpler, in my experience

Kneel or sit with your palms pressed into the floor. Take a few breaths and begin to visualize the energy beneath you stirring around and coming to meet your fingers.

Allow your energy to flow freely out into the Earth, and the Earth’s energy to go into you. There’s an exchange here and an important part of being able to use the energy, as you’ll be more connected to it.

Feel around in the energy below you and search for bones, fossils, undisturbed caves filled with fallen animals. Don’t wake any spirits if you feel them, just call to the energy of somber respect and invite it into your sculpting hands.

Once you’ve called this energy and gathered a fair amount of it, slowly raise your hands into a palms up position. Look ahead, not down anymore, to show this energy you are above the surface, not below it.

I use a wand for this step, but you can use your hand or fingers for it just as well. I draw the sigil I use to represent my own home in the air and say:

Earthen bays shall now release

Somber eyed and kindly beasts.

Guided up like brick and stone,

I summon thee, and thee alone.

Wrap around in sharpened spires,

Ivy cages and guarded fires.

Protect my home like the blessed dead,

From malice and spite and tidings of dread;

Cater to love, invite my warm friends,

Review all that passes except what I send.

Here I sit with you, hands facing thee.

This is my will, so it shall be.

After the chant, Invision a smoky wall of grey coming up and around you home, starting from a point underneath of it. When a sphere of some kind is formed, attach it to an energy source to provide a constant recharging base. I like the sun, moon, inner core of the Earth, and the ocean if you’re nearby it.

🖤apache tear + gentle form of obsidian, useful for mending sorrow and grounding + legend states this stone formed when the tears of weeping apache women fell to the ground as they mourned their dead warriors

🖤calendula (marigold) + often used in funerals and remembrance ceremonies, eases sorrow + closely tied to samhain and día de los muertos

🖤cemetery dirt + used in a variety of death rituals and spells + contacting the dead, banishment, protection, astral protection + various types have different effects, research ethical collection first

🖤copal + resin often burned for purification, grounding, exorcism + closely tied to día de los muertos

🖤cypress (tree of death) + used to honor the dead and mend associated sorrow + chips may be sprinkled over a grave to ease the pain of loved ones left behind and help the departed soul move on + classic symbol of mourning, commonly found in cemeteries 

🖤frankincense + resin burned for consecration, exorcism, communing with the dead

🖤mullein (corpse candles) + can be used as a substitute for cemetery dirt + stalks are often used as wicks for homemade candles + used to invoke spirits and for divination 

🖤myrrh + resin burned for purification, exorcism, healing sorrow + increases power of any incense, often paired with frankincense 

🖤patchouli + can be used as a substitute for cemetery dirt + powerful, earthy musk when burned, useful for grounding in rituals

🖤poppy + suitable offering for the dead and many deities associated with such + brings peace to the deceased and loved ones

🖤rowan (mountain ash) + may be worn or planted near homes for protection + planted on graves to prevent haunting by departed spirits

🖤violet + legends tell of violets blooming on graves of virgins and saints + appropriate offering for the graves of children

🖤willow (witches aspirin) + traditional symbol of mourning as it “weeps” similarly to humans + used for protection and to commune with spirits + often found in cemeteries to soothe departed spirits

🖤wormwood + often used to summon spirits and commune with the dead + burned with sandalwood at night in cemeteries to conjure spirits

The first one went down so much better than I thought!! So I figured a second one was in order.

That feeling of absolute comfort you get when you steal a hoodie off a friend or boyfriend or sibling or other family member and you burrow yourself into it and you feel safe for the first time in god knows how long.

Passing a language test or successfully remembering a word you normally forget (he is the god of language, after all).

When your friends and you say "fuck it" and pile into a car or on a train or a bus and you have no plans but you're gonna explore and go wild for a little bit and it feels amazing.

Cows.

Tickle fights, the mischief and the giggling and how free you feel even if you're losing and laughing your ass off and your face hurts from smiling and you think you might actually die but god, you're having fun with someone you care for.

Stealing free pens/badges/coffee and tea from hotels and open days. We all do it, there is no shame, and the thrill is still there even if it's free.

Being carried by someone. It sort of feels like flying.

The sort of cuddling where you're both too exhausted so one of you just flops on the other and neither of you can be arsed to move so you just lay there, relaxed and warm.

Lying to keep a friend out of trouble. The friendship and respect being so strong that you will risk anything to lie, so someone else will be okay.

She-Ra and the Princesses of Power. I have no idea why, but it reminds me of him and I LOVE IT.

Writing gay ass letters or post it notes for your friends to find in case they need smth to make them smile.

Pad Thai with roasted peanuts on top. Also have no idea why, but it's my favourite meal and it reminds me of him.

Fancy cocktails in jars.

Protecting your siblings/friends. Whether that's warning them if your parents are in a bad mood or physically punching their bully in the testicles because damn you to Hell if you ever have to see them cry and have them be the cause again.

Forehead kisses before they leave.

Dipping your fingers in hot candle wax bc your dumbass brain forgets that it will hurt and it's also hella satisfying to peel it off.