Dealing With Dead People - Banishing & Exorcism
For those of us who deal with the dead on a semi-regular basis, the phenomenon of being visited or âfollowed homeâ is probably not too unfamiliar. For those who donât engage in spirit work or who arenât familiar with the paranormal, the experience is a good deal more unsettling. Either way, one of three things usually happens:
The entity is pleasant to have around, causes little to no trouble, and is easy to live with, so the living occupants have no problem with it staying.
There is some conflict, usually in the form of startling apparitions, noises in the night, or objects moving on their own, but nothing is severe enough to cause alarm; or alternatively, the living occupants do not know how to get rid of the entity, so they either grin and bear it or move out.
People or animals are harmed, there is large-scale destruction, verbal or physical threats are made, or possession occurs. When this happens, itâs time to tell the entity to kindly get the fuck out of your home.
There are a number of methods for banishing malevolent spirits from your home. They range from a simple cleansing and reclaiming of territory to a fullblown exorcism.
House cleansings are a simple and easy way to clear the air, so to speak, and regain control of your environment. They are gentler, but no less powerful if youâre willing to really put your foot down and can get your hands on the right supplies. (Donât worry, the basic ones are pretty inexpensive.)
Exorcism is generally a more ritualized approach to the problem and can (and often does) involve religious rites. This is usually employed in severe cases, or in emergencies. Cleansing is to exorcism as a fistfight is to all-out-war.
If you choose to perform a cleansing or an exorcism, or have one performed on your behalf, you should understand that things can get worse before they get better. The first go-round may not work, repeated sessions may be needed, or the entity may simply be too strong to be expelled.
Step One: Prevention
"No, You Canât Come In."
If you find yourself working with spirits often, or you just feel like covering your ass (which is a legitimate concern for more than just ghosty things), a regular warding of your person, property, and house can help keep out those invisible interlopers before they get in to start trouble.
The most common ingredient in many warding mixtures is that darling of the Supernatural fandom, good old SALT. Salt has a purifying and barrier-like effect in protective applications, and is fairly easy and inexpensive to obtain. Oh and donât fret in the spice aisle over whether to get that grinder of sea salt or the canister of Mortonâs. Table salt works just fine.
Other warding and banishing herbs you can find in the spice aisle include:
If youâre willing to pop over to the produce section, there are a few other things you can pick up to help you out.
Apple (the seeds, specifically)
Peach (you just need the pit)
Using these super-simple ingredients, you can put together some pretty badass household protection charms or property wards, whatever suits you best.
For a simple household protection charm, you can put together a charm bag. You can use any of the herbs listed about, but my usual formula is:
Simple, elegant, easy to acquire. Put a spoonful of each into a sachet bag (muslin or cotton works well to keep dust and small particles from falling out) and hang the bag by your bedroom door, front door, kitchen door, wherever you feel it will do the most good.
Salt can also be used to line the thresholds and the windowsills. You donât need to go overboard; a simple sprinkle will suffice. Rosemary can be added to floor washes to keep things cleansed, not to mention smelling piney-fresh. A string of garlic cloves or bundle of dried herbs hanging in the kitchen pulls double time as an ornament and a protective charm.
In addition, you can try out the following:
Personal Warding Tutorial
Simple Protections for Yourself and Your Home
Wall of Fire Property & House Protection Spell
Of course, no system is foolproof, and sometimes troublesome entities may slip by your defenses. Thatâs when it might be time forâŚ
Step 2 - Banishing"Get OutâŚ"
About nine times out of ten, a ghost that is firmly shown the door will oblige you by leaving. So long as youâre strong and stand your ground and donât get hysterical or issue a challenge, you should be fine. Never say âGet out or elseâ or any permutation thereof. Anything remotely confrontational will see it as a challenge and then shit can get real in a hurry.
Lots of people, pagan and otherwise, will recommend some form of smoke-cleansing. (Smoke-cleaning. Or recaning. Donât you dare call it smudging. Donât you dare call it smudging. I will FIND you.) White sage is the most commonly recommended substance for this, but since white sage can be hella expensive and the New-Age demand for it is starting to threaten wild populations, here are some cheaper, equally effective alternatives:
There are a few more expensive herbs that I recommend for banishing bags or incense blends. These are available online, if you donât have a specialty shop near you. Here are the online shops I most recommend:
Ruth Royâs Well-Cat Herbs
The herbs youâll want to look for to include in high-powered banishing charms are as follows:
Dragonâs Blood (resin or oil)
Keep in mind: these herbs are great if you can get them, but they arenât necessary.
Itâs also a good idea to determine exactly what level of haunting youâre dealing with, in order to determine an appropriate response. I have my own scale, but you should feel free to make your own. The more severe and threatening the activity, the stronger your response needs to be.
Now then, on to the banishing methods.
Make another charm bag with any of the ingredients listed above. Hang it by the front door or wherever you feel it is needed.
Smoke-cleanse with a bundle of dried herbs, fanning the smoke through every room. Open the windows if you need to, but close them directly after youâre done, or line them with salt to keep things from getting back in.
Simmer an herb (basil works best) for a few minutes and use the water to spray the corners of every room. The proverb is âWhere basil grows, no evil goes.â
Or you can just walk through the house and metaphysically piss in all the corners if you want.
The most important thing is to OWN the space. This is your home. Defend it. Your wards and banishings are only as strong as your determination to hold them.
If you feel the problem warrants an exorcism instead, you may want to contact someone who has had experience doing them, or a local member of the whichever clergy you prefer. If you feel confident in doing the exorcism yourself, or if you have your own realm of experience to draw from, any of the banishing methods listed above can be altered to include religious rites or activities.
Now that youâve cleared your house, itâs time forâŚ
Step 3 - Post-Op Protection
"âŚAnd STAY Out!"
Be aware that multiple cleansing may be needed if the first one doesnât stick or if the entity youâre dealing with is particularly stubborn or malevolent. Donât be afraid to reach out for help. Sometimes you need a team effort to get the job done.
Warding your house after a cleansing or exorcism is essential. Once youâre done kicking ethereal butts out of your house, youâll need to lock the doors, in a manner of speaking. Any of the warding methods from Step 1 are acceptable at this juncture.
Refresh your wards and protections regularly, especially if you regular engage in spirit work, ghost-hunting, divination, that sort of thing. These are not âbadâ activities, but they can attract spirits like a freshly-baked pie in an open window. Itâs important to maintain the safety of your space and of your person.
If in doubt, my askbox is always open for personalized advice.
