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I had a really profound experience today.

I was just casually listening to a podcast on ancient anthropology because it autoplayed while I was doing housework, and it got into the nitty-gritty of how humans spent their time for most of the hundreds of thousands of years we've existed.

During the day, we would spend 15–20 hours a week on essential processes needed to sustain life. We would chat to each other about practical things: food, water, logistics, etc. Even during leisure time.

But at night, around the fire, the conversation shifted. This fireside conversation is now considered to be the cradle of human culture and the strongest creator of human bonds.

And it was mostly storytelling.

So like. I’ve never really understood my compulsion to tell stories or, for me, how essential it is that those stories then lead to conversation and connection. I always considered it a bit of an embarrassing insecurity, really, craving interaction from something I wrote.

And just hearing that one thing, on this one podcast, made me realise how bullshit that is. Stories are, since the beginning of our species, designed to form and strengthen connection. It’s human nature for me to want connection from them. We have 150,000 years of evolution to thank for that.

There’s a reason your local fanfic writer wants you to comment on their fic: because that’s part of the reason they’re writing it—for connection with their readers. Because human nature dictates storytelling is for connection.

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cats when you step on their tail: i'll admit that was rather ouchie, but given the lifetime of goodwill and trust between us, one must conclude this booboo is but a fluke.

You want disabled characters? You got ‘em.

You want trans characters? You got ‘em.

You want queer characters? You got ‘em.

You want characters of color? You got ‘em.

You want dragons? You got ‘em.

You want wizards? You got ‘em.

You want Jewish characters? THEY’RE ALL JEWISH.

You want mystery, romance, adventure, “that really amazing fanfic you read that one time that will live rent-free in your head forever” vibes, and the assurance that every effort is made to ensure really horrible stereotypes are NOT being used? You got that, too.

And if that sounds like it gets you, you can get it, right here. And consider a reblog to share with a friend or two!

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

He used a technique he learned of pollinating melons to polinate the orchids to create the vanilla beans. Vanilla was rare and a luxury mainly due to only being able to be pollinated by its natural pollinator in Mexico.

unfortanely, he didnt receive any money for his discovery despite being called the main man who revolutionized pollination, he died in poverty...

The former Queen and new King’s lawyers can refuse to sign off on laws unless the Scottish Government exempts the Monarchy. Basically the King can hold back progress unless the Scottish Government writes into law that the monarchy doesn’t actually have to follow it.

Sign here:

It will require you to verify your vote via email, but please do consider signing this. We need to start prying the monarchy out of power like the parasites they are.

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