will blog for spoons

i think tumblr isn’t ready for this take yet but, while solidarity between the mentally ill/neurodivergent and physically disabled communities is important, we face very different kinds of ableism and you really need to stop hijacking posts about issues or positivity related to disability and making it about mental health

like it seems to be a trend especially in online spaces like tumblr/twitter and it’s tiring - someone can make a post about, say, being in constant physical pain and someone will try to make it about depression as if the two are remotely comparable. it just feels bad man. let us talk about our issues or spread uplifting messages about the struggles we face without making it about yourselves

Don’t believe us? See how spoon theory was taken over by able bodied mentally ill people. Like I appreciate its important to have language for your struggles but comparing low mood apathy for an example to being in so much pain you collapse and cannot physically move? Being insomniac compared to the physical pain not letting you sleep? Being unable to cook because your attention keeps dropping off and you accidentally burn it/cut yourself vs being unable to cook because the pan will suddenly become to heavy as your shoulder spontaneously dislocates or you literally can’t stop your hands trembling to safely cut or put things in the oven ect. Not helpful! Trust me, I am both neurodivergent, depressed and anxious, and have PTSD from pretty extreem physical abuse as a child that lead to some of my physical disabilities too. And none of that is easy, or even easier than being physically disabled. But it is a DIFFERENT kind of difficulty. Taking language away from physically disabled/ill people or watering it down via appropriation is not harmless.

i Know antipasto means appetizer but i still like to believe that it refers to pasta’s archnemesis

Health is not a virtue and illness is not a character flaw or a moral failing. People who are healthy aren't healthy because they did everything right. People who are sick aren't sick because they did something wrong. Illness, both mental and physical, can hit literally anyone at any time. Good people aren't exempt from suffering, so let's kill the idea that if someone's sick, it must be because they're doing something wrong. That's not how it works. The world isn't fair like that.