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'Tis Time for Murder, Lieutenant

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W: right on

He did end up talking to me, but only because I guess me dropping the emotional labor of shielding him from his constant mistakes by giving him direct and neutral feedback was excruciating for him.

He's so fucking terrified of Doing Things Wrong and receiving my ire and I explained I only ever needed to know what the fuck was going on with him, as he was just doing, and 99% of my issues just disappeared. Your meds are making you insanely forgetful? Hell yeah I can work with that. It's scaring you? Dude I've been there! I just need information! I need to feel like we are a team!

He tapped out and hasn't continued the conversation the last couple days though 😩 I was really nice too? But I suggested we might do well with couples counseling as a buffer and I wonder if I gave him a scare

But also, and this took me a bit to clock, he mentioned an incident where I had asked him to put the clothes on the dryer if he didn't have time to sort them, versus throwing them in the hamper. Apparently he HAD tried to sort them and was so miserable to hear he had failed that badly that he is just going to not even try, and put them on the dryer from now on.

But hang on, sir????? You could have fucking said "oh I tried to sort them, did I screw up? Let's go over what you need." But instead he just said yeah ok and decided to throw in the towel and I only heard about it when he got so miserable he had to say something. (Like I guess he only did it for the time being because he figured he was doing harm but like. This is something we can work together on omg)

Sir...... do you realize that puts more work in my lap............

We already have a problem where he doesn't know how to do half the tasks I do, while I can do pretty much anything he can do.

We're already experiencing task creep where I'm taking over the shit he can't bring himself to do.

...and now we're just giving up on sorting the laundry because of an easily corrected misunderstanding/missing information????

Anyway I'm mad all over again >:(

In fact this counselor has been slowly bootstrapping ME by withdrawing support and stonewalling me when I am trying to wave her over to help with the school entry transition.