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“Oh yeah, every time that dad forgets mom is dead, we head to the cemetery so he can see her gravestone.”

WHAT. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard some version of this awful story. Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery. Seriously. I cringe every single time someone tells me about their “plan” to remind a loved one that their loved one is dead.

I also hear this a lot: “I keep reminding mom that her sister is dead, and sometimes she recalls it once I’ve said it.” That’s still not a good thing. Why are we trying to force people to remember that their loved ones have passed away?

If your loved one with dementia has lost track of their timeline, and forgotten that a loved one is dead, don’t remind them. What’s the point of reintroducing that kind of pain? Here’s the thing: they will forget again, and they will ask again. You’re never, ever, ever, going to “convince” them of something permanently. 

Instead, do this:

“Dad, where do you think mom is?”

When he tells you the answer, repeat that answer to him and assert that it sounds correct. For example, if he says, “I think mom is at work,” say, “Yes, that sounds right, I think she must be at work.” If he says, “I think she passed away,” say, “Yes, she passed away.” 

So finally one day Alice did the whole “JANET IS HERE” and this nurse rather nastily went “Janet is dead” and before it could go any further I said “excuse me??? How dare you say something so horrible to my sister?”

The nurse was pissed, because I was “feeding Alice’s delusions.” Alice didn’t have delusions. Alice had Alzheimer’s.

But I made sure it went into Alice’s chart that she responded positively to being allowed to believe I was Janet. And from that point forward, only my specific patient referred to me as “Nina” in front of Alice—everyone else called me Janet, and when Alice said my name wasn’t Nina I just said “oh, it’s a nickname, that’s all.” It kept her calm and happy and not sobbing every time she saw me.

“If you tell your guy friends to stop abusing women you won’t have to tell women to stop stereotyping all men” 

I have wayyy too much fun making these.

“New thread on Reddit claims that each of the stripes on the Guardians’ legs in prison represents a crime. This IS true, The color of each stripe is a category (murder, arson, burglary, grievous bodily harm). The pattern of each stripe explains a bit more exactly about the crime and its severity (a sort of criminal law morse code).

However, it also claims the gray line on Rocket is indecent exposure, and this is NOT true.

The line designs were the product of our costume designer Alexandra Byrne’s creative brain, and I wrote down and gave her the list of convictions.(…) It’s also important to note that these are just crimes they’ve been convicted for - not crimes they’ve committed and gotten away with, which is probably a lot.

I recently heard the news that Adam by Ariel Schrag will be getting a movie. I read the book myself about a year and a half ago and I cannot stress enough just how problematic it is.

Adam is a book about a cis boy pretending to be a trans man in order to trick a lesbian into dating him.

Adam goes to New York to stay with his lesbian sister for the summer, and while he’s there he meets trans men who consider themselves lesbians. At a party he meets a lesbian he thinks is pretty and in order to get into a relationship with her he lies and tells her he’s a pre transition trans man. Let’s make a list of some of the highlights from the book, shall we?

At the very beginning of the book his sister and her girlfriend visit home and Adam and his friend spies on them having sex.

Almost all the trans men in the book identify as lesbians, implying that they are still women because they haven’t transitioned yet.

Adam, a cis straight boy, tells a lesbian that he is a trans man to trick her into dating him.

Incidentally Adam is 17 I believe, pretending to be 21. His girlfriend is in the 23 range, I don’t recall exactly.

There are explicit sex scenes, the first of which involved Adam using an ace bandage to hold his erection down and using a strapon to have sex with her.

In the second one he claims to be using a strapon but is, in reality, using his actual penis.

Which is fucking rape.

The book doesn’t try to justify this, it somehow manages to do something worse.

This second scene is one of the last in the book. After he pulls out he lays down next to her and confesses that he’s not trans. She responds “I know.”

She says after they first had sex she started fantasizing about him as a “real guy” (yes quote) and that the image stuck in her mind and she started subconsciously imagining him with a penis.

And it gets worse.

So he goes back to ohio and she sleeps with other girls (because for some reason she decides not to break up with this cis 17 year old who lied about his identity literally raped her) and one night he gets drunk and calls her a bitch and a fucking whore and whatever, and THAT’S apparently the point she thinks that maybe they should break up.

And one day they message eachother to catch up i think maybe he graduated at this point idk but hes planning on visiting his sister in new york and they wanna meet up and

She tells him about her new boyfriend.

Get ready for it

Cis. Man.

So. We have

An underage cishet boy lying about being an adult trans man in order to trick a lesbian into dating him!

A scene in which he actually rapes her!

The lesbian in question becomes attracted to cis men making Adam, essentially, conversion therapy!

“But then he meets Gillian, the girl of his dreams. If only she weren’t a lesbian! And if only she didn’t believe he was really (sort of) a girl.”

… K alison, whatever you say.

Also according to other reviews it is really racist, including the n word and the phrase “weird Asian pussies”

There is a site called Gramunion that takes every single image posted to every single blog on this website and reposts it to its website, removing the original context of the images, including artist’s notes, requests to not repost artwork, and so on. The website does this as a way of “helping” you “Browse Any Tumblr Blog In a Structured Way!” (to quote their website). 

We can all agree that this is garbage, right?

As a result of this website’s existence, I’m seeing more artwork posted to Pinterest and other websites, using Gramunion as the source.

I’d like to see if something can be done. Because no matter how many DMCA takedown notices I send to Pinterest, there will always be idiots who get my artwork again and again from Gramunion. I don’t want that, I’m pretty sure no-one else wants that for their artwork, so what can we do?

I think using this guide here we can send DMCA takedown notices to the website to get our art taken down. Here’s what the website says:

Let’s assume “Phil” sees his 1,500-word blog post republished on a forum. His first step would be to issue a DMCA takedown notice to the DMCA agent of the forum letting them know of the infringement. If the forum does not take down the content, Phil would look up the hosting service for the site using a “Who Is” domain search, and serve a takedown notice on that company as well. Finally, Phil would serve notices on Google, Yahoo, and Bing. If all parties comply with the notice, the offending page would be removed by the host and delisted in the search engines.

The website also provides an easy-to-use template for sending a takedown notice. Seriously, it’ll take you about two minutes to fill out, if that.

I sent a DMCA takedown to Gramunion itself first. I tried looking up the “Who Is” stuff for the site, and it led to a site called “Name.com,” which would be the next stop if Gramunion refuses to respond to my request. (I sent Gramunion an email already last week, and they refused to respond.) I’ll keep you posted on how this goes.

So I checked Gramunion and it’s kind of uncomfortable. First of all, they have no permission whatsoever to repost Tumblr content. I searched if Gramunion is associated with Tumblr, there is none. Gramunion is only powered by Tumblr or in layman’s terms, they’re using a Tumblr theme.

Whatever the text is below the image (for example, link to the artist’s official website, support patreon, etc.) is cut out, allowing their art to be spread in other websites without actual credit to the artist.  

Check if your art is in there and report if you must. Warn your favorite artists too if they don’t like their works reposted (unless they sign/watermark their works, but even that can be cropped out).

I already reported it in Tumblr (which you can do too, https://www.tumblr.com/support). But it would be nice to give them a heads up that one of the blogs using their themes are screwing with Tumblr artists and calling it “helping”.