Sorry to reblog from you, stranger, but this commentary is all very good. I especially appreciate the emphasized statement that βa loving person is not capable of doing this.β That line is going to rattle around my brain for ages β the words feel good in my mouth. How youβve said it is just so right.
I want to add some of OPβs further comments on the thread she made:
βTo be fair, I have pretty high standards for cleanliness and his idea of clean vastly differs from mine and honestly, thatβs okay! But now Iβm starting to seriously wonder if he sabotaged cleaning, too, just to get me to do it. Dishes, for instance. He will wash half and leave a nasty sink full of the rest, claiming heβll do them later. This drives me nuts, so I just do them. Often he will leave crusted on shit on then, too, so okay, Iβll just do them, right? Now because of the egg business, Iβm seeing it as malicious.β
β The husband is lazy. He seemingly commits to housework, only to bail partway through, and doesnβt even put in the effort required to do the job right in the first place.
βYes, he sucks at dishes and laundry to the point he is banned from doing them. He will leave clothes in the washer overnight and doesnt separate anything to the point Iβve had many white clothes ruined. My favorite white brassiere is now pink due to his bullshit.β
β The husband is inconsiderate of his wifeβs property, even that which is well-loved. Could his repeated failure to learn how to do this task have been a ruse? Did he anticipate his banishment from laundry duty? OP now has to genuinely wonder about this.
βIβm starting to think he does things wrong on purpose now just to get me to do it. Another example! My car. For a while my driver side door wouldnβt open from the outside, so I had to crawl through the passenger side. He ordered a handle and kept putting it off for WEEKS. Finally, he says his hands are too big to do it, so I had to do it.β
β The husband makes excuses for himself that cast him as an unwitting victim to fate, with the implication that he would totally do [action], if only he could. He distances himself from any possibility of blame.
Obviously, anonymous forum posts are taken with a grain of salt β we, as readers, will never know for sure if OP is real. Thatβs not a concern for me, though. Like I donβt care. The fact is that if one assumes this is all true, it is very obvious that the posterβs husband is a perfect example of maliciously feigned incompetence. Heβs manipulative and lazy to the point of cruelty, expecting his wife to work while he fails to lift a single functioning finger. The statement that βhe likes her eggs betterβ isnβt cute like some have stated in the replies to this post; itβs just another excuse that walls him off from criticism, a bullshit reason he pulled out of his ass to make her feel guilty and unreasonable for being upset.
The absurdity of the situation when taken at face value β lying about eggs, getting mad about making eggs, even just the reality of deviled eggs (an inherently silly prep style) being someoneβs favorite food β extends an air of the absurd to the wifeβs concerns, and to othersβ warnings. I have noticed several comments to the tune of, βThese people are all mad about eggs? What a joke! How oversensitive. Thatβs just how men are; this is just what marriage looks like.β
Itβs fucked up, is what it is.
β¦deviled egg lady, if youβre truly out there somewhere, I hope you told your husband to make his own goddamn eggs from now on. Itβs literally the least he can do.
