kenzie and sincere both being like “i’m sad i hurt someone’s feelings” tells me that they have empathy but little sense for why what they did was wrong other than the outcome. they both, in the moment, saw zero issue with what they were doing and that’s why their behavior will continue: their metric of right and wrong depends on whether or not they’re making the other person happy. if they make someone happy, but then that person or others later respond poorly to what they did, they’re torn and don’t know what to do because their metric is contradicting itself. they feel like they can’t win even though the answer is simple: be honest, be direct, and either stand by your decisions or apologize and do better next time. the trouble is they so badly want to make the other person happy that they can’t tell their own desires from their desire to please. until they learn to tell the difference between the two and how to act on their own desires more consistently, this will just keep happening





















