witchling

I noticed that there were only small pockets of posts on helping ease dysphoria or helping you feel more at home with your gender/identity so I decided to compile what I could here!

TERFS are not welcome to interact with this post. But, I always seize the opportunity to block gross people!

Spells (dysphoria):

Dysphoria healing spell

Dispelling dysphoria

Dysphoria spell bottle

Gender protection jar

Voice dysphoria glamour

To stop chest dysphoria

Menstruation dysphoria tea

Spells (gender identity):

Gender affirmation spell

Gender orientation validation spell

An enchantment to be seen as the gender you identify with

Gender clarity switch

Gender euphoria incantation

Confidence mirror glamour

Glamour to prevent misgendering

Sigils:

Dysphoria is banished

I am free of dysphoria

I do not have gender dysphoria

Dysphoria does not effect me

Relieving dysphoria for trans people

My gender is accepted

My voice gets deeper

For feeling more masculine:

Glamoured masculinity potion

The emperor’s reform spell (to strengthen masculine energies)

Bath spell for transmasculinity 

Dapper magic

I am full of masculinity sigil

I look more masculine sigil

For feeling more feminine:

Potion for trans-feminine people

Glamoured femininity potion

The empress reclaim spell (to strengthen feminine energies)

I appear feminine sigil

My appearance is feminine sigil

Increased femininity sigil

For feeling more non-binary (any “non-traditional” gender):

Androgynous glamour

My body is an agender body sigil

Non-binary confidence sigil

Ambiguity / Androgyny / Genderlessness sigils

General:

Dysphoria tarot spread

Crystals for dysphoria

Gender identi-tea

Other resources:

@sylvaetria‘s masterpost

@witchy-woman‘s LGBT masterposts [masculine] [feminine]

@magicusersresource‘s masterpost (spells for trans and nb folks)

SMALL WITCHY THINGS YOU CAN DO AROUND THE HOUSE

Put a small ward on the door and windows 

Visualize the energy you are getting when eating food or ingesting caffeine

Put a glamour on your make-up and brush

Put a glamour on your closet for the clothes inside

Put a small bowl/plate with rose quartz, amethyst, and quartz crystal on your sink counter

Make every shower a “cleansing” for yourself and every bath a gentle recharging

Hang a sigil somewhere in your kitchen to ensure delicious food

Spend a few minutes talking to your plants

Meditate for at least 5 minutes a day

If you do sage cleansings, mix the leftover ashes and sea salt together in a container to keep for if you need a quick protection

Charm your necklace for protection and recharge it once a week

Charm your shoes to ensure that you will make it to where you are going

100 Tips for the Secret Witch! 

Use a shoe box to hide your more obvious items.

Keep herbs stored in ziploc bags to easily conceal them.

Take up “rock collecting”.

Candles and incense because they “smell good!”

Use an Altoids tin as an altar.

Buy crystal jewelry.

Use perfume to cleanse.

Essential oils can be used in place of most herbs and are less obvious.

Get into cooking, buying herbs is justified then. Plus, kitchen magic!

Use old makeup/perfume/mason jars for spell jars.

You can use almost any necklace as a pendulum.

Use spice jars for tiny spell bottles.

Put an altar in a spare drawer.

Playing cards can be used in place of tarot cards and are very common.

There are a lot of virtual apps geared towards witches that are easily hidden.

You can put sigils, tiny crystals, among other things in lockets to hide them but be able to wear them.

Farmer’s almanacs are just as good as the witch geared ones if you add some information to them, and they are more mundane.

Acorn caps make good biodegradable offering cups.

Get into crafts! You can make some really cool witch stuff that can also just be taken as “artsy”.

Taking a few pinches from your parent’s kitchen cabinets is never a bad idea . Unless caught.

Store things in big, boring looking books.

Seashells and rocks with natural holes make great windchime elements.

You can say your bos/grimoire is a dream journal, which are fairly common and not suspicious.

Draw sigils on with lotion or washable marker.

A tea bag in your clothing drawer can help imbue clothing with the attributes of the tea you use.

Draw sigils on the bottom of your shoes.

Make a virtual altar instead of a physical one.

Always remember to clear that browsing history!

Draw small sigils on your nails then cover them with nailpolish.

Pretty much everything at a craft store can be used for witchcraft. Except maybe the older people who shop there.

You can buy really really small jars online and make them traveling spell jars.

You can enchant jewelry to keep spells close to you.

You can make friendship bracelets/lanyards with colors corresponding to your intent.

Enchanting something you wear daily like glasses or shoes with a ward is something that could be done if one doesn’t wear jewelry.

If you’re into sewing/cross-stitching: incorporate secret sigils into the design.

You can grow plant ingredients under the guise of eating healthier.

Buy soap/shampoo etc with scents to match different intents.

Pencil cases are inconspicuous!

You can use birthday candles instead of actual candles.

Obtaining scented candles a covert way of having colored candles… and if you want scentless you can just say you like the aesthetic but not the smell.

Bath salts can have magical intent and be just as effective as a for bath.

Doodling is a great way to cover up sigils in a notebook.

Grow plants. Collect rainwater. Say rainwater is for plants. Cackle to self.

Make a private discord server for taking to deities.

Threads that hang off of clothing or coats are good for thread magic so long as you don’t have to do a ton with them.

Cleaning and cleansing go hand in hand.

Virtual or sketched altar.

Usually the isle that carries Ethnic food carries SUPER cheap herbs.

All astrology is just you getting really into horoscopes.

If you want a more accurate birth chart, ask your parents for your time of birth. Say it’s out of curiosity.

Weird witch stuff lying around? You like the aesthetic from Charmed.

Sigils don’t have to be considered witchcraft. Say they’re like a good luck charm.

Make your own jewelry, beads, gems,threads, color correlation, etc.

Pinterest boards are great for various things. Dedicating things to deities, saving spells, etc.

Stuffed animals as representations of deities.

Thread magic = sewing and crocheting.

Side blogs on Tumblr are similar to pinterest boards!

Sigils on the bottom of hair spray cans for glamours.

Nail Polish = color correlation.

Quote: “My room smells weird so that’s why I’m burning like 100 candles and some incense”. Works every time.

You can make your own tarot cards with inconspicuous symbols and photos on them, say they’re drawings.

Fairy lights in your room because they “look cool”.

Put your bos in something that looks like a school notebook.

Leave offerings outside if safe. Bury them! But don’t bury things that are bad for the enviroment!!!

If you want to use a ouija board, there are quite a few virtual ones.

Any herbs you can get be purely for tea and nothing else.

If someone catches you meditating, tell them it’s for relaxation.

Draw sigils on the top of your ceiling fan. The fan will charge them while on! - Not recommended you do with a permanent marker!

Draw a sigil on the charger base of your electronic devices.

Charge your makeup/hair products/perfume/cologne up with whatever you’d like.

Lemon water makes a great cleansing spray and is usually not suspicious.

Sigils inside your phone case!

Enchant your jewelry or watches.

Draw a sigil with a white crayon on paper.

Put a pouch of herbs in your clothing drawers, if someone finds them, say it’s to decrease bad smells.

Incorporate magic into art.

Write poetry to your deities.

Study herb pouch and gemstones in your backpack.

Oils and herb pillow for your glasses case to encourage clear vision.

Make your own paper and use flowers/seeds/etc to create a design.

Sticky notes for sigils inside a school locker.

Correlate your clothing to your intent that day.

Sigils on a hair ribbon or enchanted ribbon.

Put your intent into your food and drinks.

Learn to make your own tea.

Keep a penny in your pocket for luck.

Google drive vs physical bos if you’re worried about your parents seeing it

Slowly start buying candles and bam you wont be questioned because they are just candles!

Craft store stars painted with black-light paint placed on your ceiling in constellation arrangements.

Drink fruit infused water/tea.

Carry salt in old film bottles or similar cases to help cleanse your purse or bag.

Salt packets are free at fast food places.

Enchant your bank account/wallet/piggy bank/etc so that it charges your money!

Use travel size medicine bottles to hold random mini witch things: twig,  pebbles, sand, salt, etc. 

Draw elemental items to encourage their energies around you.

Leave sticky notes with magical symbols on your desk or in your locker to generate positive energy for the next school day overnight.

 Terrariums and shadowboxes have always been popular, make it your altar or invitation to the fae.

Fairy gardens have been a thing for a long, long time. They’re not suspicious and very good for attracting the fae!

Enchant counter bowls of fruit or breads so that the food decays slower.

When I was a baby witch, it was really difficult for me to understand the Sabbats and the wheel of the year. To help all my baby witches, I made a short summary to make it easier. 

🎄 Yule (Date: on the winter solstice, dec. 20-23) 🎄

This is the Sabbat for celebrating rebirth. Many people celebrate it similarly to Christmas, with gift giving, feasting, and wreath making. People will often kiss a consenting partner under a sprig of mistletoe for good luck.

🐏  Imbolc (Date: feb. 2) 🐏 

This Sabbat celebrates the return of spring. People make corn dollies and set them in a basket next to a symbol of masculinity. Many Witches will clean out their homes during Imbolc.

🐣 Ostara (Date: on the vernal equinox, Mar. 20-23) 🐣 

This Sabbat celebrates the coming time of fertility. Egg decorating is common during this time.

🔥 Beltane (Date: May 1) 🔥

This Sabbat focuses on fertility. Many Pagans choose to conceive children at this time (or just to enjoy themselves sexually with a partner). Beltane festivals are often high energy, with plenty of dancing and bonfires. 

☀️ Litha (Date: on the summer solstice, Jun 20-23) ☀️

A Sabbat for celebrating the longest day of the year, as well as for mourning the shortening days after. Some Witches burn bonfires or light candles to represent the Sun.

🌾 Lughnasadh (Date: Aug 1 -> 1 day before my birthday!) 🌾

I love this Sabbat but I’m not able to pronounce this name :). This is the first of the three harvesting Sabbats. There are festivals of grain and bread. People make gingerbread men during this time.

🍁 Mabon (Date: on the autumnal equinox, sep. 20-23) 🍁

This is the second of the three harvesting Sabbats. Witches give thanks to the Earth and the harvest. Celebraters will make and drink wine at this time.

⛄️ Samhain (Date: nov. 1) ⛄️

This is the last of the three harvesting Sabbats. It is also the festival of the dead. The veil is at its thinnest at this time. Witches will sometimes hold a big feast during Samhain.

Feel free to contact me if you have more questions!

Blessings, 

To anyone who needs this post, I am sending gentle and loving energy your way. Know that grief is meant to hurt, and with time it WILL get easier (but may not go away, and that’s okay). Please utilize this post only as a supplement, and talk to a therapist or loved ones if you need to.

Spells/Rituals:

Grief powder

Sage drops spell

Relieving grief

Jar of grief spell

Honoring the dead

Ritual of grief

A remembrance spell

A spell for passing and mourning

Sigils:

Grief over death is easier for me and effects me less

My grief does not control me

To bring aid in times of crisis and grief

Loss of pets:

Funerary spell

Animal Release Spell

Pet Farewell Ritual

Pet Funerary Spell

Other:

Emoji spell to bring comfort to those who are grieving

“I’ll be alright” spell jar (for grief)

Tarot spread to ease grief

Crystals in death magic (include some for grief)

Crystals for PTSD (include some for grief)

Similar posts:

Masterpost for grief 

Masterpost for overcoming heartbreak

This post by @thewitchofthenorse

Recommended tags to utilize when you’re ready:

Moving on spell + Moving forward spell + Letting go spell

Mental health sigils + Mental health spell

Self love magic + Self care magic

Meat & Fish

Bacon

Chicken

Corned beef

Ham

Lamb

Mushrooms

Fruit

Blackberries

Blueberries

Lemons

Vegetables

Leeks

Potatoes

Root vegetables

Dairy

Cheese

Cream-based soups

Honey butter

Nuts

Almonds

Breads & Grains

Apple muffins

Braided bread

Spiced bread

Sunflower seeds

Wild rice

Desserts

Cheesecake

Honey cake

Lemon cake

Lemon poppy seed pound cake

Rice pudding

Shortbread

Drinks

Blackberry tea

Chamomile tea

Milk

Mead

Because I sure as hell needed this post when I did.

1. Realize that it‘s okay. Accept that it happened. Forgive yourself for it.

Maybe life got in the way and you just didn‘t have the time or energy or possibility. Maybe something happened on your path that got you scared, frightened, panicked, or even disgusted so that you had to take a step back and retreat. Maybe your focus simply shifted. Maybe you got bored. Maybe everything just got overwhelming and you weren‘t able to juggle magick and the mundane at the same time. Maybe mental illness got in the way. No matter what the reason for your fall out was, accept that it happened, forgive yourself for it. Because it‘s okay, life happens in phases, and no matter the reason, how big or how small, it‘s part of your journey and totally fine. These things happen to the best of us, so don‘t blame yourself for it. It really is okay. Pinky promise.

2. Reconnect with your god(s) and/or non-physical friends, if needed.

If you‘re a spirit companion/have spirit friends like me or are devoted to a god or certain deity/ies, your time with them/devotion to them probably fell under the brick as well. If it did, reconnect. I promise chances are they‘ll understand. As I said, life happens, and they know that too. They probably saw what you were going through. Explain what happened to them, apologize, and move on, if they allow it. Just spend more time with them again, greet them good morning and wish them good night again, invite them to join you throughout your day again. I promise, any good relationship will hold, just show that you really are sorry and put in effort to show that you care again. I’m sure they missed you as well so it’s time to make up for the time you lost!

3. Don’t overwhelm and overestimate yourself.

Chances are the longer your fall-out was, the more your “psychic muscles” lost in strength. Your intuition may be a bit more out-of-tune, you may have more trouble hearing/seeing/feeling/sensing spirits and energies. Maybe you have more trouble programing things or adding energy to objects than before. That’s okay! It’s totally fine and normal, just don’t be surprised if it happens and know that with practice you’ll be back to old strength in no time! Until then, start small and work with what you have.

4. Start small, don’t rush it, one step at a time.

Start drawing a daily or weekly card again. Start carrying crystals with you again. Start laying them out under the moon to charge again. Do small rituals like maybe doing some bath magic before you rush head-first into a huge complicated thing again! Again, you don’t want to overwhelm yourself. Also, you want to build a routine again to not risk falling out again. Some ideas on what to do when building your practice up again:

lay crystals, items, water, anything out under the moon/sun to charge 

talk to plants

draw a daily/weekly card

pick a crystal to carry with you throughout the day in the morning

say mantras in the morning

infuse your tea/coffee with intent

send out your energetic sensers when comfortable and at home. slowly but surely

meditate. 5 minutes in the evening, 5 minutes in the morning. at least.

go for a daily walk at a certain time 

look through your grimoire/bos if you have one. write in it again

doodle little sigils in your free time

and many, many more

5. If needed, make a schedule.

As I said, you may want to build a routine. If those work for you, make a daily or weekly plan. Look up transits and check when you have time, then create your own magical schedule. If need be, set some reminders on your phone. Just try to be disciplined about it for a while so that you get back into your practice smoothly!

6. Reinvent your craft.

You probably changed since you last practiced, or maybe there was a reason IN your practice that caused the fall-out. If so, identify what it was. Reflect on yourself, your practice, your life. How can you make everything run together more smoothly? Maybe you want to focus more on the mundane than the spiritual, and if so that’s totally fine. Adapt your practice in a way that fits and feels good, it’s all yours so feel free to do whatever you want! Maybe you want to shift the focus IN your practice, or maybe you want to stop doing something, maybe start doing something else (instead). 

(Optional) 7. Talk to others. 

Sometimes it is so, so hard to not feel incredibly bad and like you fucked yourself or your life or your relationships up when this happens (and not just in relation to magic but other things as well). Please know that you’re not alone on this and if your own up-lifting thoughts and words are not enough, seek validation outside. I promise that’s not a selfish or vain thing to do, it’s natural and human and you deserve to be told that you’re doing just fine. Go to a trusted friend, family member, maybe blogger, anyone. If you want, you can always come to me. Talk to someone about how things are going now, talk to them about the things you just did to make yourself feel good about doing this. 

Hey! I am giving away TWO of my books about autistic men of color who fall in love with other disabled men of color! They are both magical realism, have deep worldbuilding, and are about witches! 

For every 1,000 notes this post gets, I will give away two copies of each digitally! 

If you’d just like to buy them, they’re both $3 or under and the link is here.

these are personal correspondences from my own speculations and work with coffee, others’ personal experiences may vary. 

☕ Dark Roast — introspection and heavy meditation. Precision and forethought, foresightedness and divination. 

☕ Decaf — nullification, ending spells and winding things down. 

☕ Latte — blessings, luck, and pleasantries. fertility and creativity. 

☕ Macchiato — catalysts, movement and growth. technology witchcraft.

☕ Cappuccino —   psychic protections, peace/balance spells. kitchen spells and pop culture spells. 

☕ Espresso — protection and curse casting, awareness and clarity. 

☕ Red Eye — curses and dispelling glamours, clarity, astral / divination. increasing intensity scale from Lazy Eye➡️Red Eye➡️Black Eye➡️Dead Eye.

☕ Cold Brew — intuition and justice. level-handedness and impartiality.

☕ Mocha — love magic. magic involving delicate feelings, friendship and forgiveness, budding romance.