bowie

every time you talk about a problem, you have to spend time convincing them it’s a real problem

you have to convince them that your feelings are real and justified 

you have to explain to them, more than once, to stop saying things that genuinely make you feel awful

you have to be understanding of their point of view entire time, but that doesn’t work both ways, they don’t do it back

you have to be understanding to the point where you accept that they wont ever see your point of view

if your problems expose their privilege, ignorance or their own shitty behaviour, you have to stop talking about it

they compete with you and try to prove you that their situation is worse no matter what you struggle with

they try to convince you to get over yourself and to not think of yourself too highly

they make you feel like your opinions, actions or emotions are stupid, and like you should be ashamed for expressing anything to anyone

they pick up on your vulnerabilities then use them against you in critical times

they say things they know will hurt you, to get to you

they hurt you to prove their point and think it’s legit reason to cause you pain

they talk down to you, act as if you’re not capable of making good decisions, scare you into not doing as you wanted, make you feel inadequate and inexperienced in comparison to them

they don’t care if they tire you out with their problems

they don’t care if you’ve already given them more than you comfortably can give

they don’t find you worthy of their compassion and care

they don’t think you’ve deserved their attention or admiration

they neglect you and then come back to you when they need you

they act as if it’s normal for you to spend much more energy and time on them than they do in return

they expect unlimited compassion, kindness, energy, time and care from you, and act as if it’s the least you could do for them

they don’t even consider going that length in return

if they forget, even for a second, that you’re a human being

an emoji spell to help you get what you, at this moment, most desire as quick as possible (but all as within the laws of nature, of course) i’ve poured an ridiculous amount of intent, hope, and love into this one. i hope it works not just for me, but for everyone that needs it as desperately as i do. (check the original post and it’s notes for an explanation please!)