This page is for me to express myself, a safe space if you will. It will include venting and age/pet regression posts. I would like people to see my struggles and maybe relate to it in anyway possible!
On this page I can be called "Ace" I use He/They +Neos
I have severe mental health struggles that I would like to express on this blog. I have/will post about serious things such as Suic@de, SH, Trauma, Hypers@xuality, BPD struggles, CSA and more. So please go easy on me.
(All disorders below have been diagnosed. DON'T self diagnose and seek professional help)
I struggle with:
BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)
C-PTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
Dysthymia
GAD (General Anxiety Disorder)
ADHD
Autism
Hypermobile Elhers Donlas Syndrome
Gender Dysphoria
Please research mental disorders! I hope to see you stay thank you!! -Ace
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Hey anyone who follows this account. I will probably be ditching this account as I havent posted for a long while and I have been experimenting with different coping mechanisms. Its very interesting to look back on how I was feeling at the time and its something I can continue to open up about with my psychologist. So yeah this account will always be here but I will post if I need to as a coping mechanism if it's right for me!
in case you haven't seen it yet, here's the menhera 101 article by HoshiCandy from Kei Club Issue 3. not sure if i'll post the other menhera related articles from this issue or not, so consider checking the link in source if you're interested.
i'm also leaving a text transcription under the cut for anyone that may benefit from that
Menhera 101
Menhera fashion has quickly been gaining popularity worldwide! This fast growth has come with its fair share of misunderstandings about the community and style. Menhera artist and designer HoshiCandy is here with a lesson on menheraβs origins, history, and basics. Find more of her work on the pages before and after this article!
What is Menhera?Β
βMenheraβ can be thought of as βa person who seeks mental wellbeingβ.Β
The word βMenheraβ was born in Japan in 2001, on the βMental Healthβ board of anonymous forum 2ch, where users discussed their wellbeing. The users of this board were named βMental Healthersβ which was shortened to βMenheraβ.Β
The Menhera community covers anything that might cause one mental suffering, such as: physical illness or disability, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, bullying, hyper-sexuality, sexism, homophobia, etc. Importantly, there is no need for a formal diagnosis, as the focus is on how you feel, and that you want to feel better.Β
It is difficult to talk about these topics in Japanese society without being heavily stigmatized. Menhera is a community to speak safely without that stigma. Of course, this stigma and need for community when it comes to oneβs mental wellbeing is not limited to Japan, and that is why menhera has grown in the west as well.Β
Since the creation of the word in 2001, there have been several manga published with βMenheraβ in the title, many Visual Kei songs about it, Menhera idol groups, and several menhera fashion brands.Β
However, an unfortunate addition to all this has been the discovery of the word in mainstream media...
Just as the topic of illness is heavily stigmatized in Japanese society, the word βMenheraβ itself became quickly stigmatized and stereotyped as βan attention seeking, troublesome personβ or βan overly attached girlfriendβ (aka βyandereβ). If you were to speak to a Japanese person about βMenheraβ, this would most likely be what they would think you meant. This stereotype tends to be referred to as βMenhera Keiβ in Japanese which is why we avoid the use of βkeiβ for Menhera in particular.Β
Despite all this, the true menhera community has continued to grow.Β
Menhera Motifs
Artists in the Menhera community created many works of βVent Artβ art that expresses their feelings and suffering. When this art was printed onto clothing, Menhera fashion was born.Β
These are some themes you will commonly see in Menhera:Β
Medication
SuicideΒ
Self-harmΒ
Hospitals
Sex and BDSM
Social Media Addiction
HeartbreakΒ
Wearing Menhera art printed on clothing serves as a way of literally wearing oneβs feelings on oneβs sleeves. It turns invisible suffering visible, and fights against the stigma driven silence. This means that Menhera fashion is highly confrontational, with graphic depictions of illness symptoms. Although the onlooker may feel discomfort, the Menhera style says βthis is my true reality, donβt pretend it doesnβt exist!β
Depending on the feelings of the wearer, Menhera fashion also says βalthough I am sick, I can still be βkawaiiββ or βalthough I appear βkawaiiβ, on the inside I am sufferingβ.Β
Turning the invisible visible, forcing the silence to be broken, and challenging kawaii culture, these are the goals of Menhera fashion.
The Menhera Silhouette
Carefully avoiding a highly theatrical or OTT (over-the-top) look is important for maintaining the integrity of the goals of menhera. Menhera is a very casual style, with few accessories and light makeup. The key is for a coord to centre on Menhera imagery, whether vent art or text-focused designs, printed onto clothing.Β
Be careful not to dress up as the characters depicted in vent art, who are often costumey, gory, and OTT.Β
Menhera Coord checklist:Β
Printed Menhera art
Byojaku/Minimal makeup
Not OTT/Few accessories
Flat ShoesΒ
[optional] Oversized top
[optional] Hime bangsΒ
[optional] twintails
Colors can vary: a pastel yume look, or a gothic yami look, both are fine!
The makeup style is called βByojakuβ meaning βsickly/weakβ. Reddish colors are applied to areas around the eyes to give the impression of crying or illness. The rest of the face is kept plain without much color.Β
A Note of Caution
The Menhera community is about healing, and seeking recovery and wellbeing. It advocates getting help, medication, therapy, and receiving support through your recovery journey.Β
True Menhera never encourages or enables harmful behaviors, and never glorifies them. Menhera fashion is an alternative way of expressing your suffering without self-harm. Menhera fashion empowers the individual through their recovery, but does not empower harmful behaviors.Β
There are some, sometimes labeled by the community as βWannabe Menheraβ, who mistook the meaning of βmenheraβ after seeing its rise in popularity, as it being trendy to fake mental illness. They engage in behaviors such as posting self-harm photos (real or faked) to social media with the tag #menhera, and other attention-seeking behaviors.Β
While this is the opposite of what the Menhera community stands for, is harmful to the unfortunate viewers of these photos, and creates further stigma against the community...it cannot be ignored that these βWannabe Menheraβ, too, need help and healing.Β
The Menhera fashion movement is to help you feel comfortable, unashamed, and kawaii in your skin, scars and all. It is NOT for encouraging people to create new scars βfor the aestheticβ.Β
If you are struggling with mental or physical suffering, thoughts, or behaviors that cause harm to yourself or others, please seek help. If you do not believe you deserve help, you do, please seek help. If you believe you are faking it, you likely are not, your feelings are valid, please seek help.
Donβt have access to therapy?Β
We found a comprehensive list of suicide prevention hotlines at https://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines [link no longer working]
There are also free and affordable counseling services online like Better Help and Pride Counseling! Look online to find what option could work for you!Β
Alternatives to Menhera
After reading all this you may be thinking βthe Menhera community sounds good but all the fashion is too restrictive for meβ and if so, youβre not alone! But the good news is that you donβt have to wear Menhera fashion to be in the Menhera community.Β
Look up any of these alternative styles online for examples and more information:
Yamikawaii (βSickly-cuteβ) is essentially the aesthetic of Menhera without the activism, a corrupted dark kawaii. Unfortunately the word was trademarked and now suffers from copyright takedowns.Β
Yumekawaii (βDreamy-cuteβ) an aesthetic evolved from Fairy kei to describe everything pastel and kawaii, but with a slight edge, described as βfairytales with poisonβ.Β
Marekawaii (βNightmare-cuteβ) created as an alternative to Yamikawaii to avoid the copyright issues, and as a counterpart to Yumekawaii. Marekawaii is specifically defined as being open to your own interpretation and style.Β
Medikawaii (βMedical-cuteβ) a pastel kawaii aesthetic focusing only on medical motifs, such as medicine and hospitals.Β
Gurokawaii (βGrotesque-cuteβ) mixes frightening and disturbing imagery with kawaii. Kyary Pamyu Pamyu helped popularize it.Β
Iryouu Kei (βMedical Keiβ) a Visual Kei substyle with lots of gore and hospital theming, very OTT and theatrical, such as dressing like a nightmare nurse.Β
Living Doll artists see themselves and their bodies as a canvas to create art and express themselves, often with intricate makeup and body painting. This is a good one to look at if youβre into heavy artistic makeup.
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Hello! I would love to know how u developed ur art style! I absolutely love it and have taken some inspiration and incorporated it into my own art! Tysm!
I mean idk, it's hard to really say. Just kinda happens over time I suppose lol!
What I reccomend to you and any artist looking to develop their personal style more is to do art style studies from the media you like. A good exercise is;
1) finding an image from the art style- tracing over it and breaking it into shapes
2) Try to re-draw the same image multiple times once you have a good understanding of the styles structure
3) Now try to incorporate the style into different characters, expressions, etc!
And of course doing IRL studies is important. Understanding human anatomy and then being able to break and exaggerate it depending on how cartoony your personal style is.
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