Im Going Silly Mode

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A lot of people seem genuinely offended that my experiences are different from theirs

And this can't all be blamed on me being a low to high key caustic bitch most of the time, I have seen people get pretty upset when I make simple statements like "I do not have access to the resources I need"

Exercise, meditation, mindfulness, etc. a lot of people hold the firm belief that if something worked for them, it will work for everyone, and the only reason I'm saying it didn't work for me is cause I did it wrong, didn't do it long enough, am lying about ever actually doing it, or some other reason where they can continue to believe that my experiences are illegitimate and theirs are universal

This can be especially bad in queer spaces for me, cause on top of all the stuff I just described, people sure are comfortable deciding that I'm actually a white woman living in the blue parts of California because a lot of their attempts at hopeposting kinda fall flat when I live somewhere where the existence of queer people is outright criminalised and I have no viable means of leaving

People tell themselves that they help others solely for the sake of others. I do not believe that is necessarily true. I believe a lot of people, myself included at some points in time, help others mainly for the feeling of accomplishment, of relief, of joy. These people are empathetic, and often when someone comes to them with their issues, they absorb a little bit of their pain. The joy is to see the person they are helping experience relief from the listeners help, it is to see their *investment of emotion, returned.*