Vanilla Daddy & The Poly Brat

This is a little long, as I’ve had to come out a few times, but I never had to have that scary sit down with her.

When I was fourteen, my mom happened to find my LiveJournal(oh look, I’m showing my age) and saw that I had a rainbow and “bisexual” in my profile. I didn’t know she had found it until she came home from work one day, sat me down, handed me a rainbow thong, and said “I know, I already suspected it, and I don’t care, I will love you no matter what”

When I was 20, I ended a relationship with a man that I was in love with by coming out as a lesbian. I told my mom the reason and her response was “I know how much you loved him and I’m proud of you for having the strength to be true to yourself” she then proceeded to tell me that if my dad wouldn’t accept it when I was ready to come out to him(I’d hid all queerness from him until I was 21), that she would divorce him. My mom is fucking incredible.

And then, when I met my current boyfriend, I told my mom about him and told her that I was so confused that I was starting to like a guy even though I am very confident in my gayness and, my mom being the amazing person that she is, said “sexuality is fluid, and the thing that matters is your happiness. Does this guy make you happy? Does he treat you right? Then that’s all that matters”

My mom is amazing. And now all I have to do is come out as poly. Which is the one thing I’ve ever been concerned to come out to her about.

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Relationship comics and card games: TikvaWolf.com 

Derrick Barry

Gender: Male (she/her in drag)

Sexuality: Gay

DOB: 18 July 1983

Ethnicity: White

Occupation: Britney Spears impersonator, drag artist, reality star, activist

Shooketh.

S came back from her holiday and gave me two very marvellous gifts, one a very very ugly lighter (I collect hideous lighters) and a little turtle made of rocks with a rainbow shell who now lives on my memory shelf in the rocks A gave me from his rock collection. 

JD deliberately left one of their hoodies in the pile of coats and bags in the pub knowing I would steal it. They made sure it was one that smelled like them because I told them I like that. They also know they can’t just hand it to me, they have to provide stealing opportunities.

I was having poorly head time and I kept telling M “I love you” and he kept just saying “I love you too” and I was going “no, M, I love you” and I was getting frustrated because I wasn’t saying the thing I wanted to say, and then he kissed me and I said “yes! That’s what I was trying to tell you!”

A commented on a picture of me, M and V to say “three of my favourite people!” with a heart emoji.

I told C I missed her when she was gone for five minutes and she said I knew she was coming back and I said “yes but I always miss you” and she said “me too”.

I really wanna be in a triad relationship with two boys (I’m a girl), but I’ve never met anyone who is down with that and it’s all I really think about and I really want this?

It’s totally fine to have desires and fantasies and dreams - most people have at least a few. We dream about our careers, our future family, our romantic prospects, the dog we’d like to adopt someday, and everything in between.

It’s good to know what you want, because that helps you build a life that brings you joy and fulfillment. No matter what type of relationship you want, it will take time, patience, effort, and a little bit of luck to find. There’s even an entire genre of movie about how straight, monogamous people struggle to find the partner of their dreams!

It’s important to remember, though, that ultimately, we date people, not relationships. Pursuing a specific relationship style rather than seeking intimacy with individuals is an easy mistake to make but it will lead you down some rough roads. Seeing a relationship as a “goal” to “achieve” will also cause you tons of anguish, so be careful with that.

Work on yourself, find ways to meet polyamorous people organically (dating sites, meetups, the local scene), and try to be patient. It’s definitely good to know your “best case scenario” so you have that as a guide, but don’t get too wrapped up in a fantasy. Inevitably, reality won’t end up looking like your expectations, and it’s better to live in the present than the future.