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Pulse point cooling is super effective. Gets something, literally anything out of the FRIDGE (not the freezer; too much of a temp swing is bad) and hold it between your inner wrists. Running cold water over your wrists also work. Keeping a damp hand towel cool in the fridge to drape over the back of your neck can help too. Have two and rotate them out.

Open the windows at night if you can (I know some places do not believe is window screens, or security bars, so obviously if it's not safe to do where you are skip this one) and then in the morning go around and close the windows and pull the drapes to keep the rooms as dark as possible. You will keep the cool air that came in overnight cool for most of the day this way. This suggestion works best if you can create an air tunnel, two windows at opposite sides of the room or home allows an efficient exchange of air.

If you cannot afford an air conditioner, look for small desktop condensation coolers, they work really well and run about 40USD normally (although I am sure they are price gouging them right now)

Also you can find a LOT of tutorials online on how to jury rig a box fan into a fairly efficient cooler

Their also exists a thing called Ice Silk, that you can get shirts and blankets of. These cool you down instantly and you can refresh the cooling property of the blanket by just giving it a little shake. Shirts only need to be in the shade to go back to their full cooling effect, and the light colored ones will keep you cool in the sun, as well as have SPF factor to them to protect you from UV rays. These are often very affordable, but if you can only afford to get one clothing item, go for the zip up hoodie style for maximum utility (the only thing to be aware of is these items CAN NOT go in the tumble dryer, they MUST be lined dried INSIDE away from direct sunlight, or they stop working, although they do dry super fast because of how lightweight they are and how they are built to encourage airflow, so as long as the spin cycle got done at the end of the wash, it should be ready to use again in about the same time as tumble drying it)

If you are going to sunhat, get one with a wide brim and a mesh sided crown for airflow. But do not rely on it , take frequent shade breaks.

Drink drink drink.... Just not alcohol. Water, electrolytes, whatever, just keep a drink handy and remember that if you FEEL thirst, you are already dehydrated. Your goal is to drink so frequently that you do not feel thirsty. Set a timer on your watch. DO not rely on the feeling of thirst to tell you to drink, that's your body sending a warning sign, that you should have already been drinking way more than you are.

can i still blame my absent father or no

We can’t be sorted into TMA or TME easily, so people who use those labels tend to sort us based on our assigned sex.

Labels commonly used by intersex trans people are called useless.

Nonbinary people aren’t even included in trans rights posts half the time.

Intersex people are used as a way to prove that trans people exist.

Nonbinary people’s identities are disregarded and we are either considered basically just our assigned gender/sex, or basically a trans man/woman, depending on which thing makes us easier to hate or disregard.

It feels like binary and perisex trans people don’t give a shit about us, and it also seems like they don’t think the specific oppression we face is real. If they do, they don’t fucking talk about it.

Accepting and supporting trans people means accepting ALL trans people. Not just the binary ones, not just the perisex ones, not just the white ones, not just the abled ones, not just the ones you’re comfortable with. ALL OF US.

He Had a Big Treasure Pile of a Bunch of Stuff that Had Gone Missing lately just outside of The Castle. Like, Big. But Absurdly Well Hidden!

I Only Found Him Because He Left a Little Trail of Crossiant Crumbs...Got a Little too Hungry on the way back, I Suppose. (Smiling_Patrat_Emoji)

A Pokemon only counts for itself, not its evolution line.

A Pokemon with multiple forms (like Zygarde) will only be counted for the specified form. A Pokemon with multiple appearances (like Spinda, Vivillon, Sylvally, etc.) count for all their appearances.

A Pokemon only counts for itself, not its evolution line.

A Pokemon with multiple forms (like Zygarde) will only be counted for the specified form. A Pokemon with multiple appearances (like Spinda, Vivillon, Sylvally, etc.) count for all their appearances.

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.