Nuance Enjoyer

anon I got your asks. I’m gonna sleep on it and decide tomorrow what, if anything, I have to say in response, bc it’s late and I think my kneejerk response to your ask is not going to be productive I think. I appreciate you sending a follow up message clarifying the tone bc it is legitimately very difficult to parse tone on the internet and I think that’s one of the main challenges in online fandom communities

One final thought is that I’ve disabled messages on this blog bc I found it overwhelming to be getting messages spread out on my sideblogs. But that doesn’t mean I’m not open to chatting, especially if we’re mutuals. If you have a problem with something I’m saying you can come to my inbox or DM my main blog or ask for my discord and we can discuss things one on one with more depth and nuance. Y’all know I’m a pretty open minded person and I like to think pretty reasonable and open to being wrong. If we’re mutuals and I’ve done or said something that makes you feel a type of way, let’s talk about it 🫶 ok that’s all

maybe a better example is to say that I’m not vegan, but I have friends who are. And they have strong moral stances behind their veganism. If I make a lemon meringue pie with flaky all-butter crust to share with my friends, my friends who are vegan aren’t going to have any, because they won’t eat anything with eggs or dairy. But my vegan friend choosing not to eat my lemon meringue pie isn’t the same as them shaming me or hating on me for making it, even if they have legitimate moral qualms about me using those ingredients. We can even have a calm and nuanced discussion about those qualms, while I’m still eating my pie, and me knowing I’m going to make another pie next week. I think that maintaining room for those kinds of differences in perspective is an important part of being in a large community

what I meant is that I don’t think porn addiction is real like I think that is a very puritanical line of thinking. I guess it can be addicting in the sense that anything can be addicting, a narrowing of pleasure, but i don’t think there’s anything inherently brainrotting about engaging with the pornographic material

like if I’m eating Brussels sprouts and someone says “I’ve never liked Brussels sprouts, personally” they’re not vegetable shaming me. I can have dinner with someone who likes different foods than i do

you all know me well enough to know that I enjoy engaging with fiction that explores sexuality from violent angles or indulges in kinks that many would consider niche or gross or cruel. I am very much pro-kink!!! at the same time I feel like if you’re writing or posting about eroticized violence, you have to realize that those kinds of topics can be upsetting for a lot of people… and someone saying “I’m bothered by eroticized violence and I don’t like seeing it” is not the same as kink shaming. I think everyone in this community has the right to express what topics they do and don’t enjoy.

and also I don’t think porn addiction isn’t real

and y’all know I am very kinky positive I just like to engage things from different angles ❤️🫶 love to all

playing fame is a gun on love island is kind of crazy bc like yes this show is peak group illusory intercourse theorem but by straightwashing the song you’re disrespecting the sacred texts (bedlund amv)