Im bad at this whole blog thing

the counter to this is a technique one of my mentors called Most Respectable Interpretation

When you're in a situation where you're thinking "argh this person wishis me ill/oh this is a bad thing/oh they're plotting" etc, take a deep breath, remember that the other person is a human being with a rich inner life who wants to be a good person just like you and ask yourself: What is the Most Respectable Interpretation I can think of for why this could be happening?

Because the thing is? You have no fucking idea either way!

You think you can! You believe you know!

But you cannot! FOR YOU CANNOT READ MINDS!

Mind reading, my loves, is a cognitive distortion.

And since you cannot read minds and no matter how much you think you know about another person's intentions, you can never be 100% sure?

This is a gift to you from the universe. Because now you are free! You can choose to interpret their actions however the fuck you want!

So why not choose the Most Respectable Interpretation? This will give you so many gifts. This will allow you to relax, to be less anxious, to be less suspicious of people, to make good faith readings. When you start to do this? The vibes you give off will improve and people will like you more and want to be around you. This works. I know this works because I've done it and I've improved my mood and started to attract people (when I'm not having a stress or a trauma response that our ADHD underdeveloped ACC couldn't handle :[ thanks no thanks brain) and I've watched my clients implement it and improve their relationships and outlook on just everything really.

I will tell you my intention for sharing this so you dont have to wonder it: I believe in this tool. I love this tool. It has helped me and I want to help you because I want less people to make bad faith interpretations. I want the internet to be friendlier and kinder and I think the Most Respectable Interpretation skill will help lead to that outcome.

It's really powerful. One of my favorite tools. Give it a try if you want. It takes practice but I think it can help.