rip / off

When Anaïs Nin said “I don’t want worship. I want understanding,” and when George Orwell said “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood,” and when Marina Tsvetaeva said “In my early childhood, for as long as I can remember, I thought that I wanted to be loved. Now I know and tell everyone: I don’t need love, I need understanding.”

painting “the trans experience” as inherently suffering is so. damaging and insidious like someone doesn’t have to be miserable at all times to be “trans enough” for anyone. y’all who want to act like you have a right to watch someone suffer and have their struggle be an open show that you can sit and watch and judge truly is some of the ugliest shit i’ve ever seen and it’s soooo unhealthy for young trans kids to hear “well if you ever feel comfortable with yourself/your body EVER you’re a dirty faker” like.. everyone is allowed to explore their gender and it doesn’t have to be a personal journey for YOU. that’s why it’s personal. you don’t get to measure and calculate someone else based on what you see. trans people are allowed to be happy, trans people are allowed to be loved, trans people are allowed to feel safe, trans people are allowed to feel comfortable, trans people are allowed to be in love with THEMSELVES and have a life and future and have every step of their journey supported. if that upsets you to read tough luck lmao continue being a bad person i guess!

tl;dr my transness is not a fucking spectacle for anyone else and neither is yours and you’re allowed to be okay and feel okay. you’re going to be okay

*on a date* so. um. i don't watch tv. seen anything weird in your dreams lately?

^^this is why bell hooks challenges us to say “i support feminist movement” or “i support feminist action” rather than “i am a feminist.” she says that once we say “i am a feminist” and make “feminist” an identity rather than a political movement or a set of beliefs and the actions resulting from those beliefs, we can become complacent and think the battle is over. 

i have an individuality complex, imitation is not flattery to me.