I never thought I would have to do this lol but I guess I am out here defending hetero-normative aspirations. 𤣠it's just that I saw saw a post that claimed Steve was on the 'jerk - nice guy - to incel' pipeline.
What, because he wants to build a family and has an idea of what that would look like? Last I checked this was a thing people do all the time, gay, straight, bi or whatever. Humans are social creatures. We are literally built for groups and without them we go insane. Steve was a lonely sad boy whose formative years were rattling around an empty house by himself. Now he is a lonely man yearning for what he never had.
Seriously what about Steve sharing this about himself with his friend/love interest in the middle of a life and death crisis is incel behavior?
There is a difference between sharing your truth with someone and pressuring them to fulfill your fantasies that I think a lot of folks are failing to recognize. I can't think of a more appropriate time to share with someone how you truly feel other than moments before you or they might die. You know? The important thing is that in choosing to be honest about his feelings, Steve didn't do anything more than be honest. He didn't try and convince her that she owed him something, or that he could love her so much better than Jonathan or anyone else could.
Steve told Nancy HIS truth about his dreams and his feelings, and then he let her do whatever she wanted to do with that knowledge. He's put no pressure on her to do anything. Taking it back to the real world for a moment, isn't that all we can expect from another human being? If I was risking my life with my friend/ex and they had feelings they felt they needed to share, I wouldn't resent them for speaking up. And god forbid if they died after that (as I was so sure Steve was going to LOL) it would be a small kind of comfort to know that they didn't die with that weight on them.
IDK. People get such a stuck view of characters in their heads, and we spend so much time falling in love with our own ideas of them, that sometimes we just can't stomach anything outside of that. And then if we don't like something, for some reason we have to make it THE WORST to justify why everyone else shouldn't like it either.

















