people say non-passing trans men get treated like defective women and that's true but so do passing trans men. you can look fully like a man with a beard, flat chest. even a phalloplasty and if one transphobic jerk in your life knows you are trans they will NEVER address you as a man even if you are indistinguishable from a cis man. you can look like a whole ass lumberjack and still get introduced as somebody's daughter. for most, the only way to be seen and acknowledged as a man is full and total stealth, keeping your trans identity a secret, cutting out anyone in you life that knows you used to be a woman. and that's not a good thing. we talk about pride as being fully and unabashedly ourselves, and there is no pride in hiding your trans identity and pretending to be cis just so you can have respect and be treated like a man