"= you know how it is ="

[redacted] play

[even worse] play

[what the fuck] play

it is an activity that requires all parties to agree to a set of rules, even if they're not super defined and often just how they figure it's supposed to be done from hearing about it. it can be done just to have fun, it can be done to bond, it can be done for work. it also ceases to be play when one person breaks the rules in a way that makes it not fun for any other person.

it's not a big fucking deal. it's people playing. which means that whether you want to have sex or don't or only want to do it with one person ever or with a bunch of people it's literally fine. it's playing. I'm not gonna shame you for how and why you decide to play. I'm not gonna ascribe moral judgements to it.