我已然活成了我心目中，你的模样。

RANWAN | 燃晚

This is based on decades of experience as an uncle and as an older brother.

Never forget that children are just as much people as adults are.

Kids 10 years or younger (and sometimes older than that) don’t get sarcasm or irony, so don’t use them.

If a child has difficulty pronouncing a word, don’t copy their misprounciation when speaking to them. They can hear the word just fine. It could sound to them like you’re making fun of them.

(Yes, this means no babytalk)

Don’t be dismissive.

Listen to what they’re saying.

To get on the same eye-level, don’t bend over or squat: it seems condescending. Kneeling or sitting are better.

It should go without saying that you should respect children’s body autonomy. Don’t force affection on them.

Respect children’s emotional autonomy as well. Let them be angry. Let them be sad. Don’t force them to be happy.

Let children like things. Don’t run down the things they like just because you find them cringy.

Don’t think that you know better.

To children, adults are giants. Be a big friendly giant.

Don’t stifle children’s curiosity.

Don’t stifle children’s enthusiasm.

To quote Sondheim, “Be careful the words you say, children will listen.”

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Master, look! He didn’t get any money and is still happy!

He is enjoying the sunshine.

Hi, thanks for the question!

The traditional Chinese veiled hats that we mostly see in Wuxia are called Weimao/帷帽. I wrote about the history of Weimao in this post. Please also see this post by fate-magical-girls for further information on the history/evolution of Chinese veiled hats.

As you’ve noticed, it’s recently become trendy among Hanfu wearers to decorate Weimao with various kinds of accessories such as pearls and flowers. The effect is really pretty!

Weimao can be worn by men as well:

For more references, please check out my Weimao tag! 

Hope this helps!

heaven official’s blessing 天官赐福 (2020—)

[id: four gifs from the the thirteenth episode of ‘heaven official’s blessing’. the first shows xie lian grabbing hua cheng’s face and pulling him in closer to him. the second shows xie lian inspecting his face intensely. the third is a close up of hua cheng’s face between xie lian’s hands — his eyes are wide and shaking lightly and he blinks. the forth is a close up of his eye as it returns from wide to a relaxed state.

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heaven official’s blessing 天官赐福 (2020—)