My Thinkies

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge? If it's the latter, I don't think she should be held accountable for it unless she encourages it or doesn't speak against it after learning.

"I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge?"

Consider this instead:

If she's posting shit like this, she's definitely racist or has a lot of unpacked racism:

Secondly:

even if she PERSONALLY wasn't like "I hate this Indigenous woman and I am going to personally use my platform in the hopes that people who hate Indigenous women are coming after her," the fact of the matter is, The Indigenous woman has to put up with ALL OF HER RACIST FOLLOWERS because of her.

She gets to block me and move on with her life. Meanwhile, everybody who came rushing to her defense or to dogpile me are now MY problem. And the comments I received were VIOLENT.

There are more. This is just a handful.

So you tell me, does it really MATTER whether her intentions were racist? If she was targeting me specifically for being Indigenous?

When people who came to her defense started attacking me for being Indigenous?

When they called me a pedophile, a sexpest, a rapist, a TERF, and then a Pretendian? All because of her?

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

I do have to ask if the woman in question actually sent people to attack the commenter or if she just so happened to have racist followers who did it on her behalf without her knowledge? If it's the latter, I don't think she should be held accountable for it unless she encourages it or doesn't speak against it after learning.

So Parker Molloy is a horrible fucking person. This was her response to THIS comment, that acknowledges that Black Trans Women don't get the same amount of coverage when they are murdered:

After being called out for her white feminist meltdown she used her platform to start the harassment campaign against an Indigenous woman who was called everything from a sexpest, pedophile, rapist, TERF, and when none of those could stick, FINALLY called a Pretendian.

White queer/trans folks are capable of racism and Anti-Indigenous hate.

I don't agree with her response afterwards as it is not a stupid take. One article doesn't undo the disproportionate reporting. However, I do feel the original comment should be addressed as disrespectful.

And I realized that she and I had very different experiences of mental illness and neurodivergence. I was literally having autistic meltdowns from the stress of university studies, and my fellow students were disturbed and told the university to kick me out, and they did.

It was clear that this woman’s mentally ill fellow students didn’t do anything like that. They might occasionally mention suffering from depression, but it’s not severe enough that they act out like I did with my meltdowns. It’s a mental illness that is not noticeable, it doesn’t disturb other people. And that’s the kind of mental illness that is accepted by the people who love talking about accepting mental illness. The type they can ignore, the type that doesn’t inconvenience or disturb them. They only want to accept and sympathize with the mentally ill people who it’s easy to sympathize and accept.

This kind of acceptance of mental illness or neurodivergence leaves no room for autistic people like me who have serious meltdowns, or for people with schizophrenia or any condition that makes people act in ways that other perceive as disturbing or frightening. And that isn’t really acceptance, is it? If you only accept neurodivergence when it’s easy for you, you don’t accept it. That’s not good enough.

I believe that we should actually treat people with “difficult” forms of mental illness and neurodivergence with kindness and understanding. And I’m not just asking this for myself, out of my own selfish interest, because like many autistic people, I’ve had to handle other people having meltdowns or mental health crisises. And I know there are ways to react to such things with understanding and kindness instead of punishing the person and trying to get rid of them, because I have done it.

Here is another personal story, and the reason I’m writing this now. Earlier this week I was the co-host of a meatspace trans meeting. Most of that is simple tasks like opening the door for people, making coffee, introducing newcomers to how things work around here, and so on.

But last night an autistic participant was having a meltdown, getting angry and upset over their past traumatic experiences. My reaction was not to throw them out, but sit down and listen to their troubles. This person became scared of scaring other people with their meltdown and anger, and we went off to another room to sit in privacy. We sat there and I listened while they talked about their difficult feelings. Eventually this person calmed down, we hugged and went back to the main room and played a card game.

Sitting through someone’s meltdown and them being upset about their trauma isn’t fun, but it is something that you have to do if you care about other people’s well-being. And my handling of the situation wasn’t skillful at all. I don’t have the gift of gab, and my contributions to the conversation weren’t that helpful or intelligent. But I did my best, I listened and didn’t berate them, and it worked out.

They're sentencing an autistic child to thirteen years incarceration for something he did during an autistic meltdown. From what I understand, the child was trying to calm down from a meltdown by drinking water in a classroom that had been emptied. The protocol for the child was to leave him alone and let him drink water until he calmed down.

The protocol was not followed by the vice principal who entered the room and approached him. He told the vice principal that if she approached him, he would throw things. She approached; he threw things. She continued to approach. He continued to throw things. The vice principal caught a chair he threw and used it to deflect items he was throwing. When she blocked a wooden hanger, it ricocheted and hit her eye, knocking it out of its socket and leading to its removal. The child is now being sentenced to thirteen years incarceration (possibly jail at eighteen years old) with one hundred percent of the blame being put on the child and mother. No responsibility attributed to the school or vice principal for not handling the situation properly. People are saying that, because the child was able to warn the woman he would throw things, that meant he was completely lucid and knew what could happen. They say he should be removed from society, that he'll only get worse. I don't have the original Tik Tok with the mother's explanation, but you can see someone showing and responding to it here. I will admit the woman is shifting blame too much, but she is not wrong in pointing out the responsibility of the school to follow protocol.

This is internet fat activist misinformation.

Doctors will recommend weight loss because it is widely understood that obesity increases your risk for many health problems. Full stop.

If you choose to believe an activist or internet dietician you saw online over your doctor, you are doing this because their misinformation is more convenient to you than the truth.

So you're saying you are sabotaging your health because of men? Girl.

Like... on tumblr its totally normal to:

brush your teeth for your health

take regular showers for your health

take medications for your health

But disordered to:

get daily exercise for your health

maintain a healthy diet for your health

monitor your weight for your health

Before you all start screaming at me, no I don't think it's okay for people to make fun of overweight/obese people. Yes I am aware of certain conditions and medication that can affect a person's weight (more on that later), but those are very very rare. The reason why people are so big is because they eat more calories than they burn. That's it. It's simple thermodynamics, you are not above science lmao.

You are not being discriminated against if you can't fit in an airplane/movie theater seat. Those buildings and seats were there centuries before the world started to get bigger and fast food places were everywhere and junk food was always within reach. Not being able to find cute clothes is such a huge First World Problem, and that's also not how sewing works. It entails so much more than, "well just make it bigger" like you're resizing a picture. Rollercoasters have height and weight requirements for a reason, you can't outdo physics. People not wanting to date you sucks and can be hurtful, but it is not discrimination.

No, you can't be ""fat"" and healthy at the same time. Fat is just a few pounds over the maximum normal BMI range. Dozens or hundreds of pounds over that is not fat, it's overweight/obese. The medical field do have a lot of outdated views and conceptions about certain groups (women, PoC, disabled, etc.) and to an extent this is no different for obese people. There are a lot of doctors who can be assholes and dismissive. And if you're a woman it's 100x worse. But not being able to do certain procedures, or asking their patients to lose weight when they have concerns about pains is not discrimination. They need to rule out that the symptoms you're having is caused by your weight and it'll be easier to see things inside the body if they aren't blocked by excessive adipose tissue. I think people hear "you need to lose weight" and assume that's the only treatment plan instead of the first step to make things less complicated.

FA/HAES activists are really young, in their early - late 20s. Of course they aren't going to see a lot of health problems. But they need to be PREVENTED before they get worse. You (hopefully) won't be seeing a lot of issues at the moment but bad eating habits will catch up with you as you get older and they will be harder to treat. We're already starting to see prolific FAs dying young (late 30s - early 40s) and way too early. T2D is devastating. An extremely high weight puts you at risks for multiple conditions and problems like HBP, coronary artery disease, cancer, pre-diabetes, etc. Being on tons of medication and constant doctor appointments aren't fun.

You aren’t disordered if you watch your portions or count calories

A lot of fat-acceptance groups will say “I don’t owe anyone health” in regards to people telling them their weight is unhealthy.

If you are someone’s parent, someone’s child, someone’s friend, someone’s sibling, someone’s partner, you might owe that person your health actually. You might have obligations to people that require you to be alive for as long as you can and to be as mobile as you can.

But most importantly, I think you owe yourself health. You only have one life to live. Shouldn’t you have an obligation to yourself to try and be as healthy as possible? So you don’t have to endure needless sickness or pain when you get older.