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it’s something i’ve run into on this website a few times when going on blocking sprees where like some ex-radfem women (some of them do still identify as feminists but most don’t) have turned the corner on blaming women for rape and femicide. if an adult woman is raped she’s male-centered, if a woman is a victim of domestic violence or murder from a male partner she brought it on herself by getting in bed with the enemy, sexual abuse of girls is the fault of the mother even if it happens outside the home because it is an unethical and treacherous act to bring a girl into a world that hates them. it’s an extreme turn to misogyny as a reaction to a ceaselessly misogynistic world, but it’s difficult for me to sympathize since the transmisogyny is key here — when these women identified as feminists, they were blaming trans women for the rape and femicide they experience. the shift to cis women makes complete sense; they were already placing themselves in misogynistic roles to denigrate women they viewed as lower than they are, so we start with trans women, expand to allies of trans women, expand further to straight and bisexual women, any woman who has children, any woman who has sex, any woman who interacts with the world around her, any woman. this is part of why i view transmisogyny as an insurmountable roadblock to women’s liberation as a whole.

often when pro-trans cis feminists discuss transmisogyny, their end point is that a transmisogynistic social structure will inevitably hurt cis women as well. i consider this about as true as the claim that patriarchy hurts men too — as in, yes, there is collateral damage, but it ignores that anyone outside of the targeted group can gain power by acting in accordance with the social rules around said group. one reason transmisogyny is attractive to cis women is that it allows them, as a class, to exercise gendered power over a class below them, while affirming their higher position. men oppress women (all women) to become men, and cis women oppress trans women to become cis. for as long as there is an underclass i don’t believe liberation is in sight.

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