Te-Fi or Fe-Ti
I just ⌠have some weird thought. Well, I just reread harry potter and when I have a closer look on Dumbledore, Molly and Lupin I just have some thought (well, couple with having some serious talk on managing method with ISTJ aunt)
Even if I made a post on what INTJs are, right now I seriously considers Fe-Ti instead but well, Iâm not too sure. I still feel like Te-Fi is still the correct axis but ⌠well, what d'you think?
Hereâs the reason
Even if Iâm outwardly cold, harsh and unemotional most of the time, when I start getting to talk with people Iâm EXPRESSIVE. I can be easily mistaken for extrovert easily and usually itâs almost effortless to build rapport with people though Iâm not as good at striking conversation if I donât know what to say. But the thing that made me consider FJ right now is the group mentality.
I have read somewhere that Fe tends to view people as extension of themselves and are often obliged to take care of them because of it, while Fi view people as their own individual and take care of people because they feel connected to individual. I see people as group of their respective category (friendship, culture, whatever) and bond with the group rather than individual. The marked example that just happened is Iâm doing a chapter-by-chapter analysis of the Anthropology papers for my teammates because âthey are in my team and I need to take care of them in anyway I canâ. I donât need to do it, they are not even my close friends. I have zero reasons to do it but I still do it because they are a part of my team (and family). I also bond with larger group like ethnic groups as a people and often readily take in their culture and adopt it as my own.Â
As I read Harry potter more, I see more of Molly Weasley and I can relate to her taking in other people as her own and take care of them. I do have the motherliness and outward warmth associated with Fe. It contradicts here because outwardly Iâm distant but also have the warmth too. Itâs weird, really. And the bossiness tendency, I fuss over people, like âare you alright? Isnât that a bit too hard, Iâll help. If you are too busy then tell me immediately, donât bottle it up and overworkâ. Aside of Fe, Ti is not as apparent I donât know. But there is a tendency for me to impose my own interpretation and understanding on things. Iâm not as objective or factual but I care more about logical consistency.
When I plan, itâs more about what make sense than whatâs objective. My advisors and heads are often left puzzled by what Iâm thinking and I do have some serious problem of not sharing enough objectively laid out plan so my teammates sometimes need to scramble up by themselves but it also promotes original thinking I desperately need in my project. And I do have less judgmental nature I tend to see in TJs (they seem to be more black and white in what is correct and not, morally and whatnot) I have more broad moral, something is right at the appropriate time and cause. If the cause, context and time aligns then people have to act in a certain way.Â
When I work I tend to use emotional tactics like building rapports and bonding my team as one rather than systematizing. My tactic is to use people and I usually promote inclusion to all my teammates as such. My ISTJ aunt seems to be more of a âI ask you to do this and I will give this to you when itâs done. Deal!'Â
But the counter argument is that Iâm rather socially awkward. Not as good at flowing with the group mood. Lacks the natural charm of Fe-type as Iâm normally quiet (my ESFJ BFF is charismatic as hell, Iâm not nearly as fluid and charismatic as he is but when it comes to subtle manipulation and getting under peopleâs skin Iâm much more adept) I donât offer much emotional support if someone is distraught. I listen and be there for them and help take care of them. But Iâm not someone who says 'everything will be fineâ instead I will let them cry it all out and help them get back to their usual self.
Well, I think thatâs all. My, itâs really long.
Thanks in advance though. (Iâve been into sorting hat chats lately, Iâm Slytherin both primary and secondary (model ravenclaw), whatâs yours?)
I could see you being IFJ. I think you give sufficient evidence for it and against ITJ that makes sense â you understand group dynamics, you now how to use and manipulate them, but you are still self-reliant and not as eager to help as an EFJ would be. (Anyone can be socially awkward; point is, you care.) Fe/Ti tends to be more âmorals are dependent on the situationâ instead of the more militant TeFi âmorals are always the same, regardless of the situation.â :)
Hogwarts Houses â after reading everything about it and over-thinking it (as usual, ha, ha), Iâve landed on double Ravenclaw with a double Puff Model. I use Hufflepuff when itâs convenient and I have âtimeâ but it goes away during times of stress. I would really rather be just writing, learning and studying things. ;)
- ENFP Mod
