In case anyone else needs a reality check about why the guy who ghosted you is liking your Instagram posts again (like I did):
1. He doesnāt want to lose touch. Heās hoping he can sweeten you up to ensure he stays on your mind and in your heart so that he has a chance to date you if he wants to in the future. What a jerk. Heās the one who pushed you out of his life, so he canāt expect to creep back in without even apologizing or being real about why he disappeared in the first place.
2. He doesnāt realize how awkward it is (or just doesnāt care). He could call you up to say hey, but that feels awkward af, especially if he suspects youād hang up on him. At least with social media, he can hide behind a screen and say hello in the form of ālikes.ā itās also a clever way to test the temperature. If you donāt ālikeā his stuff back or contact him properly, he knows youāre completely out of reach. What a coward.
3. He doesnāt want to be with you, but he wants you to think he does. Just because he approved of your gorgeous selfie doesnāt mean that heās hoping for a second chance. Heās hoping youāll THINK that so youāll leave the door open for him to possibly step in again.
4. Heās lazy af. He doesnāt want to make a lot of effort. Thatās why he bolted the first time, choosing to be remembered as the jerk rather than a guy who deserved your time. This ālikingā business fits in with his personality. Instead of making a real effort, like texting or calling you and having a real conversation, heāll put in almost no effort just hoping to catch your eye.
5. He wants attention. The guy who crazily likes all your social media posts might be seen as wanting to shower you with attention, but itās probably all about him. He wants you to talk about him to his friends. He wants to know that your heart still skips a beat when heās around, so really, itās not about you at all. Donāt be flattered.
6. He hopes youāll still be down for sex sometime. He obviously liked you before he ghosted you, and now heās seeing you looking happy and gorgeous on social media, heās hoping you can remain an option if he needs one in the future when heās bored or horny on a Saturday night. By liking his way into your good books again, he can booty call you at a later date without feeling weird about it. Oh, hell no.
7. He wants you to think heās into you. Heās an arrogant guy who thinks he can waltz back into your life in any shape or form and get a standing ovation. He might even do this just to stroke his own ego, to show himself that he can still get you to be interested if he wants.
8. Heās feeling nostalgic. When he saw you looking happy on Instagram, he couldnāt help but be transported back in time to when the two of you were together, so he ended up going through all your posts on his little nostalgic trip. It doesnāt mean he wants to have another shot with you, though. If he did, heād be putting in loads more effort than just liking a beach selfie, for goodnessā sake.
9. He feels guilty. Maybe his social media antics are just about feeling guilty for what he did--and he should be torn up about it because he missed out on an amazing woman! Either way, donāt feel sorry for him. Heās a jerk if he thinks liking your social media posts is going to make up for what he did to you.
10. He wants to know if youāve moved on. He was on social media and decided to check out your Facebook profile since youāre still listed as friends. He wanted to see what youāve been up to and if youāre dating someone else. He liked your pictures because he likes that youāre still single. He might be one of those competitive guys who doesnāt want to be with you but doesnāt want you to be with anyone else either.
11. Itās just a few likes--itās not that deep. Of course thereās always the chance that this guy is really just liking everyoneās posts. Check out some of his other friends or followers to see if heās liking their holiday snaps and status updates. Itās good to keep in mind that a ālikeā doesnāt have to mean anything more. If they bother you, you should just block the guy. After he ghosted you, he deserves it.