I ship strong women

THE HARM TO TRANS WOMEN WAS THE RAPE, ACTUALLY!

Hmm now what does this line remind me of..

like, unless you are in the position in actual material community to sit this woman down physically or online and be seriously involved in the work of being anti-disposability while also taking abuse seriously as a community rupture, supporting the victims and holding her accountable.... all this does it tells victims of abuse to keep their fucking mouths shut, don't talk bad about family no matter what. you don't need to call for her head on a spike, but "you are the real monster" is just undeniably abuse apologism.

Sophie From Mars, after being exposed for abusive behavior against multiple trans women back in November and going on hiatus since then, has returned to her friends' political podcast (Red Planet) and commented on the events and what's happened to her since then.

from that first link this is what she said on the accusations:

I do not know much about Sophie or any of this situation, but she straight up said "having heard the descriptions of my behavior I entirely agree with what people have said." and the description of her behavior was "abusive, controlling, indifferent to consent or its absence, selfish" and having burned another trans woman with a cigarette leaving permenant physical scars, pressuring drug use, and causing serious emotional harm and physical harm. the woman who posted the open letter from the victims, who Sophie put out a cigarette on, said that she didn't hate Sophie and didn't want her life or career destroyed, but that she felt the need to warn people of her behavior, and that she had spoken about it to Sophie in private but Sophie was "contrite" and insisted that she was the only victim and that the burning was a "one time thing." so this is not the case of "i heard from a person who heard from a person that she's a sick freak and every denial means its true" she herself admitted that she did the abusive things she did to other people.

& in the video in that second link, she describes the situation "I had some bad kink practice in sadomasochism scenes with some of my partners, and, as often happens in kink communities when there isn't a conflict resolution system in place, I was ostracized by the community. And then people said some horrible stuff about me online, and uh, we don't need to tell everyone that the internet is really quick to believe and repeat horrible shit about trans women, um, so I've been having a really shit time." which is objectively downplaying what happened - she was accused of serious abuse, admitted that she agreed with description of what she did, and then never uses the term abuse and emphasizes not the impact of her actions, but how mean everyone is being about it. And implying its at least partially the victims of her actions' fault for not doing good conflict resolution, and that the whole thing is pretty transmisogynistic if you think about it, also erasing that her victims were also trans women.

Scry? Really?

And using ableism to hide your pathetic inability to look up a word in a dictionary? Online or physical.

Allmighty fuckstick with extra swirly semen. Come the fuck on.

I drop random big words in my fic for fun because I love teaching people interesting words. So maybe I'm also just a bit petty because I already have been torturing my readers with all these evil big words! Mumpsimus! Effluvious! Laconic!!! But this has to be one of the most obvious cases of weaponized incompetence. If your ass is able to make a tiktok/reel just to cry and bitch about the word "SCRY" being too difficult, then you can spend 10 seconds looking up the word, and not embarrassing yourself by claiming "ableism."

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The part I find funniest is that it isn't always.

If I'm reading an archeology paper on Ancient Greece, I'm going to assume it's far closer to those other words.

It is in this case because we're dealing with genre bullshit for an audience of genre fans. It is inherently a thing that requires insider knowledge and that's a good thing.

Asking to get rid of a word like this is like asking for all allusions or genre conventions or foreshadowing or cultural fucking context to disappear. If you'd need to have ever experienced a thing outside of this specific piece of writing, it's excluuuuding people. Waaaah.

It's the same energy as weebs who find anime too Japanese.

I guess it blew up on tiktok or something? But it has spread to bluesky, and now a bunch of youtubers are making videos about The Death of Literacy and so on.

The best ones have advice on decor, how to select high-quality furniture, childrearing, fashion, etc--from a contemporary perspective, and the things the authors feel the need to clarify vs the wild shit that will just casually mention like it's something everyone knows and agrees on is REALLY revealing of the culture and how it's shifted.

And while a lot of the advice is WILDLY bigoted or just outright funny, you'd be surprised how much of it is...just genuinely timeless, and shockingly compassionate.

They ALSO, as a writer, have INVALUABLE resources--because, again, they're talking about things that are so MUNDANE that a lot of the time nobody really sat down to formally document what normal, everyday people thought or cared about--because that's boring! But a book written to provide advice and information to, say, a young woman who's never run her own home before? You can fully expect an entire chapter dedicated to The Types Of Oven, and which features are useful and worth spending money on, and which features are a huge hassle to clean and a waste of space, and what to spend that money on instead.

And like. As a writer who frequently works in the 1800s? Fuck inflation calculators, this is the kind of thing I need. This is absolutely priceless.

Now that being said.

My current favorite 'etiquette guide' in the world is actually like....70% purely practical advice, written by a gentleman the groupchat has affectionately dubbed History's Most Autistic Man In The World, and thank god they didn't have Aderall back then

Because the AuDHD is strong in this one and as a result, in addition to the deeply practical and useful everyday reference points, we also have:

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

I do appreciate the sentiment but maybe I should rephrase:

can we hurry up and make it normalized to have boobs out in public so that even if it’s legal in your state you don’t risk get arrested anyway and you need to hire an attorney to point out that you were’t breaking any laws.

can we hurry up and make it normalized to have your boobs out in public so it’s weird that it’s legal in some places and not others.

the general public doesnt know how physics works

the general public doesnt know how lying works

he had a clit