I ship strong women

Im.. Soft 🥺🥺🥺

Huge red flag for mental health crisis + abusive relationship.

But even other queer people will assume that it must be a deliberate choice to conform and call them a traitor.

[] Nothing in the lease explicitly says I can’t, and all uncodified rules are merely suggestions

[] I’m probably not, but the only people in this building who are fast enough to actually stop me are the maintenance guys who are all charmed by my kind green eyes and adorable dog

For personal context, before I went to the '98 Burning Man festival, one of the things I'd read from a couple different journalists was that "everybody" runs around naked. Which, fine by me, I'd already spent a lot of time in clothing-optional spaces, I'm not fanatic about it but it's nice.

So I got there early and set up a public shade structure on one of Black Rock City's main roads and spent most of each afternoon just watching the crowds go by. I don't remember seeing more than one actually naked person the whole week. I think a topless woman passed by my intersection maybe every half an hour, sometimes once an hour. So why in the hell were people, normally pretty smart and observant writers, coming away with the impression that everybody was naked?

Then I remembered an unrelated passage from Joel Garreau's great book about the history of the outer-ring suburbs, Edge City. Mall developers told him flat-out that they tried to keep the crowds in their malls less than 5% black. Not because they themselves were racist, but because they had determined, experimentally, that if more than 5% of the people in the mall are black, the median white shopper will wrongly describe the mall as at least half black, as mostly black. And not a few of them would describe it, at 6% black, as a mall where "only black people go." Why?

Because, emotionally, they were still upset over the last one when the next one came into view.

People (even in relatively liberal intellectual communities) often traffic in this truism that our culture is 'oversexualized' and that sexually explicit content is EVERYWHERE. ALL THE TIME. It's inescapable, allegedly.

When in reality, every major social media website in existence is engaged in an all out war against the stuff. Credit card companies have attempted to refuse to process transactions based on people trying to purchase things like OnlyFans subscriptions. And SPEAKING OF ONLYFANS, that site recently went through a bunch of drama when it was considering trying to tamp down on the selling of sexually explicit content, when that is like minimum 90% of its total business.

While the MCU is a bit passe these days, it was once THEE global cultural juggernaut to end all juggernauts. And it is FAMOUSLY so aggressively devoid of any actual eroticism you'd be forgiven if you thought people in this universe are all created in science labs. (Everyone is beautiful and no one is horny, as the famous essay asserts)

Exact same with the Star Wars franchise. To such an extent that one of the most iconic and important characters in the whole thing (Anakin Skywalker) LITERALLY, canonically is a product of immaculate conception.

Capitalism is actually TERRIFIED of trying to sell us sex, and it shies away from it at almost all opportunities. (Why do you think Hollywood was so fucking blindsided by Heated Rivalry's unexpected success?) ALL the ads on porn sites are ads for other porn sites. Social media can't stop trying to free itself from the stuff completely. ALL THE MAINSTREAM AI COMPANIES (who are currently trying anything else they can think of to get people to use their products) ARE STAUNCHLY TRAINING THEIR MODELS OUT OF PROVIDING SEXUALLY EXPLICIT OUTPUTS (whether written or image-based).

Granted, you can of course still find plenty of sexually explicit content in internet and entertainment spaces if you intentionally seek it out. Plenty of it is out there, of course. But the notion that it permeates every corner of cultural world doesn't hold up to even a cursory level of scrutiny. Its ubiquity is radically overstated. You often have to navigate significant barriers to access sexually explicit content; it is often heavily targeted for censorship and, at minimum, it is often kept behind heavy structural partitioning.

the mayor x sheriff dynamic is still unmatched

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