Hey Its Kat And Im An INFP Or An ENFP, IDFK

I can only from my very personal point of view. I know there are some INTJs who’ve never really met an INFP they like, but for me personally they are wonderful human beings to spend time with.

So here are some of the things I like about on particular female INFP I know:

1. She’s ridiculous and she knows it. She’s able to laugh about herself and her laughter is contagious. It’s easy to joke around with her because she gets my kind of humor and she simply is hilarious.

2. She is incredibly deep and thoughtful. From this one ridiculous conversation it’s easy to drift to sharing thoughts about life and all it’s problems. The discussion I had with her go deeper than most other conversations I’ve had in my life. Maybe it’s we have such a close relationship. In any way it’s beautiful to share my thoughts and to listen to hers. I might not think of feel the same all the time but it’s still always wonderful to talk to her. Also because:

3. She’s inspiring. I don’t understand her mind sometimes. How she jumps from one idea to the next one. And I can’t really comprehend how she’s able to find so many brilliant new things (like in music or food or places). She enriches my life in so many levels.

4. She taught me a whole bunch of things. One of them being spontaneity. She has this “living in the moment” attitude in her life. Often I wonder how she’s able to get everything done without having a long term plan. She seems ot have this gift of getting everything sorted exactly on time. She taught me things about people and her world and she also taught me a lot about myself. Which might sound strange and I’m not even sure how to put this becuase I think I don’t fully understand it either…

5. I like listening to her. I don’t even mind what exactly the converastion is about. Her point of view is pretty much always interesting. And the way she tells those stories of hers, is just enjoyable. And another good thing is that she kept contacting me (especially in the early years of our friendship this was crucial).

She also as a pretty damn awesome style of clothing and sense of design and is a brilliant illustrator, graphic designer and photographer. So yeah… This is my personal point of view.

What are your experiences with INFPs and why do YOU like them? Or why don’t you like them? Leave a comment!

Also: find a general post about INTJs + what attracts them here.

Yours,

What I noticed and observed about them: (3 Males & 2 Females)

They are the introverts with a lot of friends. 

Each of them have some sort of hidden talent that I don’t even know why they keep hidden in the first place. They are just so humble. (It’s annoying– I LOVE THEM). Their hidden talent most likely has something to do with the arts. 

They are writers. The ones I know write blog posts, poetry, witty Facebook statuses, music, and lyrics. Self-expression is definitely a necessity for them.

Two of the INFP males I know have this innocent aura that will make you want to be super nice to them and even take care of them and not bully them even if they look so easy to bully. They’re that pure.

The other INFP male I know looked very tense and jittery before I first talked to him. But once I got him to start talking, he easily opened up. You just gotta reach out first.

Once you reach out to them, they will open up and you’ll discover that they are such cool people with strong opinions and beliefs. (pretty much closet ENFPs)

The two INFP females on the other hand were the ones who seemed loud at first–probably ‘cause they were with their friends–but ended up being really deep and humble people (I love it).

They are nice and civil to everyone. They don’t show it when they dislike someone (however, their close friends will know). They’re just that easygoing, which is why they have a lot of friends. (who are actually just mostly acquaintances to them–but they won’t tell them)

They have such good humor. Especially their sarcasm. AND THE TIMING OF THEIR JOKES IS PERFECT.

When they’re with their friends, you wouldn’t even think they’re introverts. They are so loud and lively with them (mostly the girl INFPs I’ve met are like this–the INFP males on the other hand are more obviously introverted). 

Everyone likes them. I’m serious, what’s not to like? They are such good-hearted and open-minded people (even if they have strong beliefs). Before you know it, you’re completely yourself when you’re around them. They just make you feel homey.

When they’re in a bad mood, they distance themselves. They just don’t want to be a burden, even to their friends. No matter how many times you insist to be there for them, they will shake their heads and handle their problems by themselves. After all, the fight is in their head.

When they present alone in front (in class), they can be the most awkward people ever. But they do have a lot of meaningful things to say. They just aren’t used to taking the stage.

Most of the ones I know suffer with anxiety. This is most likely due to the fact that they feel so deeply and tend to keep it inside–after all, Fi is their most dominant function. 

They are the nicest people ever (even if it’s not all that obvious), but if you hurt them on purpose–they will remember you for it. But they will forgive (on the outside).

They are the life of the party even if they aren’t loud. I don’t know, like when they aren’t present in their group of friends–there is obviously something missing. 

They are good with one-on-one conversations. It’s amazing how even though they aren’t good with big crowds, they have this ability to talk to a stranger for a second and make them feel comfortable (if they want to, that is). 

They are not boring– at all. It’s an Ne thing–their second dominant function–that makes them so talkative and animated. If they aren’t talking about something, they’re either making weird sounds to make others laugh or saying funny movie lines aloud (similar to INTPs). 

They are smart. They have their own way of understanding things and they are not clueless–I swear, they know a little about everything. Just give them a topic, and they will have an opinion about it.

They have trouble saying no. I swear, the last thing they want to do is hurt someone. (Unless it’s for justice)  

Music is extremely important to them. The INFPs I know either dance, play guitar, sing, or well–just need their earphones with them everyday to block out the world when they feel like it. 

The vibes they give off, equal to their current mood. They are infectious.