Assortment of our xenic experiences.
Plain text: Assortment of our xenic experiences. End PT.
This post has been a long time coming, a collection of personal ramblings about our xenogender identities, what they mean for us and our experiences being said identity(/ies). Not encompassing of all xenic members, just frequently present ones. Writing style may vary as some members prefer to write their sections themselves.
It is also really long. Our apologies.
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Plain text: Mydoom (any pronouns). PT end.
I'm trigender bigender, a label that might sound confusing at first! I am xenofluid and a manwoman, inseprably. Although a technicality exists that I do experience more than 3 genders in my xenofluidity, these are the words I feel summarize me well enough as shorthands for what I experience.
I experience my gender in a sort of two-half pyramid- My xenofluidity atop as the "top" or "main" part of my gender, and my binary gender as the "bottom" or "complimentary" part. While the importance of my xenofluidity doesn't diminish the seriousness of my manwomanhood, I am first and foremost xenic, and I am unashamed of it. I use any applicable descriptors, but I have a preference towards xen or xip for that reason.
I figured this aspect of myself in a midly amusing way- While ranting about how xenic experiences are treated by others to my peers, I noticed just how personal it felt to me, prompting some introspection. I came out of it with the understanding I do now!
My transness is very important to me, and if I had two wishes, they'd be for other xenic folk to talk about their identity more, and for others who are not such to just listen and treat it with the same seriousness given to monobinary folk.
Caltrops/Rubidium (wy/wym, thi/thim):
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i'm xenogender somewhat plainly- i don't particularly concern myself with being too specific, as it tends to vary. this is fine too, and i hope other xenen don't feel too pressured to figure out anything more specific if they don't really need to <:)
i'm also in a polyamorous relationship with someone masculine and an enbygirl. and i wish i didn't have labels like gay/achillean/lesbian/sapphic applied to my relationship! it's diamoric!
Interloper/Ouroboros (it/any neopronouns):
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it's taken a long time to admit, but xenogender is a very key part of my multigenderness... it is which trough i process the rest of it. including being a manwoman, which is what i typically bring up in conversation about gender!
and it's a bit strange to acknowledge this after so long, because it comes with acknowledging i center just a sliver of my gender for the benefit of those who do not understand me in the first place. the reason being: people do not understand and mistreat the state of being both a woman and a man. so it is important to me to be a living example that this is possible to begin with, and advocating for people who are both. but in this, i've sort of forsaken the rest of me, haven't i? because i'm way more than two. because it's all interlinked with the rest, and then filtered trough my xenity. being xenogender is as important to me as being a manwoman! it is why i can understand the latter being a part of me to begin with!
i do apologize that my section was not entirely about being xenic. i could make a whole new rambling about the treatement of multigendered folk and what that does to how they (mis)represent themselves...
Ven: (it/he, xe/xem, bug/bugs):
Plain text: Ven (it/he, xe/xem, bug/bugs).
i'm bugcatgender, theriangender & neurogender!
i knew myself as catgender almost from the getgo, but as i discovered i was also beetle therian, i arrived at catbuggender (and their separate forms still)! my gender is affected heavily by my alterhumanity and our neurodivergency.
i'm not any binary gender to any extent or really identify as any sort of inbetween, and i wish people would stop assuming me keeping my source's (i'm a fictive!) he/him pronouns mean i'm masculine in gender! pay mind to how i actually describe myself!
Arachna/Addelaine (xy/xyr, crawl/crawls):
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i used to be a fictive. of an character made by someone who harmed us- so coming out of dormancy i wanted to be something anew.
and so i pieced together a new me! this included my gender: i chose to be xenogender. to embrace the beauty of this sort of self image. to embrace which the hate of was used to hurt us very deeply. i like being xenogender. because it's beautiful. because we survived. because i'm allowed to be whatever calls to me.
i find myself gravitating towards xenic labels relating to spiders- this is naturally as spiders in general mean a lot to me. they're my main interest, something which carried over from our early childhood! i'm also a were-spider :P 🕸
that's all i have to say, really. love yourself, bye!
Plain text: Airy (any pronouns). PT end.
i'm cirrugender. i came across this term with the help of a partner as i came to realize being cloudkin also makes my gender a cloud
i like talking to others who are also xenic and especially if they also have gender and alterhumanity intersect like this .)
Plain text: Envy (xe/xey). PT end.
neon and gradients. clutter and intricate patterns. loudness and sharpness. smiley faces and suns. music and mspaint doodles. my gender is unapologetically and boldly embodiment of my sparklefurhood. xenogender? of course i am!
i've been here the longest out of anyone writing (since 2018! 8 years!), so i've seen all sorts of attitudes about xeninity... i've also unfourtunately seen us trough an period of teenhood where really shitty adults imposed exclusionary/transmed beliefs on us bc we were easy to do this to as an abused isolated teen >:P. there's a lot more baggage to that, but not subject of this post. it damaged the self image of a lot of us who recognized themselves as xenic, and we recloseted ourselves or went behind our "friend's" backs, or identified "ironically" or "as a joke". and hey, that's me too, hiding away with lots and lots of frustration. i'm really glad we got out of there!
and i'm glad attitutes towards xenic folk are bettering, but there's a long way to go! we still aren't taken seriously! people still treat our gender as inherently auxillary! most know what the term xenogender is, but haven't paid attention to xenic, xenine, transxenine, xen/xenan (plur. xens or xenen) or xip (plur. xips)!
speak! shout! bark! meow! make noise! if you're xenogender, you're wonderful and the trans rights movement is for you too!
Pendulum (he/it/they/any neopronouns):
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I'm still very new to exploring this part of myself- I've been very intimidated for a long time of being ridiculed! But being surrounded by other trans folk of all stripes and colors both in and out of our system has helped me begin taking steps towards allowing myself to be more genuine!
Sirencall (any pronouns):
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most of my entire identity revolves around music, symbolism and nonhumanity, and my gender is no exception. in this it is as varied and fluid as i am. i hope that in some way, it adds to the poeticism of the world around me i've come to love.
this identity is something that came to me naturally not so long after i formed. it's always been me, and always will, even if the minute details change.
Plain text: Tori (he/him). PT end.
hi I am xenogender though I have not figure out specific. I am new to this of myself.
I figure out because my headmates are like me. I like being me.
Wenda (no pronouns or he/it):
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...i'm pretty straightforwardly a xenman (or xenoman, if that's more recognizable to you.)
...these two aspects of my gender are inseprable, and cannot exist without the other. to acknowledge Wenda is to acknowledge Wenda is both a xen and a man. in terms of specifics, i feel my xenic gender aligns with felines and music.
...for the longest time, i had no clue on my identity because i hadn't figured out i was both of these things, so i simply didn't identity with anything. not sure when or why what i am dawned on me, but i'm sure confident in it now.
...i really wish people took the xen part of me more seriosly. to reiterate, it cannot be seprated from the rest of my gender at all. i am simply both. see me as i am.
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