The blueprint for success

Every woman needs to know how to market herself, the way you market yourself and your personal branding are two major things that heavily factor into the way that you’re perceived and knowing how to market yourself, choosing what niche you’d like to appeal to, and having a clear idea of what you’re doing are major. I didn’t wake up one day and randomly choose to totally change myself, I made lists of my skills and qualities, I made lists of the things that I enjoyed and the things that I gravitated towards the most, I made lists of the opportunities that I’d like to have, I factored in the place I was living and the places where I’d one day want to live or travel to, I added my degrees into the mix and made sure to leave room for continued education, and I started to craft an image of the woman I wanted to be and the things I wanted to have and to have accomplished before I turn 30.

All of the things I listed down and all of the things that I had already and planned to accomplish are parts of the way that I market myself both in friendships and in relationships, I wear a variety of different hats and I use all of the interesting things I’ve experienced and lived through to make myself a better candidate for everything. I applied to Princeton for graduate school, I got into Princeton for graduate school, and I chose not to attend Princeton because I got a much better offer from a grad school that I view as more prestigious but the point is that I was accepted into Princeton. I’ve dated a lot of Yale graduates, I use the way I market myself to men and my sorority experience to interact with them and I use pieces of the mannerisms that I’ve brought over from home to help me, and I’ve always had a lot of success. Marketing is everything and it needs to be learned for any sort of decent personal, professional, or romantic success. It’s just a fact.

Ladies the trick to success is to make it quite literally impossible to fail. Make it so that failure requires effort & success is the matter of natural course. I’ll say this until you get it- success isn’t a question of milestones, it’s a question of systems. You are where you are because your current systems support that, change it and see if nothing changes.

So if you want to look elegant and classy donate all the clothes & shoes you have that don’t look elegant & classy- then how will you look dusty? Even if you wanted to look dusty, how would you do that??? When the option isn’t there?? Take away the option for failure so that you must work hard to fail. If you have no sugars or processed foods in your house then you literally have to leave and pay to be unhealthy. If you only listen to calming, positive music genuinely where will constant anxiety come from. If you don’t even have social media how will you get addicted to it? You have to exert effort to be. Girl if you don’t even have his number how will you call him? If you focus during class how will you fail? Literally how will you fail. How will that happen? If you have no alcohol in your house how will you get drunk? You must leave and pay for it, right? If you’re eating right and getting your vitamin balance in check how high are the chances for diseases? Acne? Hormonal imbalances? Weight issues? Automimmune diseases? Mood swings? Like yes it can happen but let’s talk statistics, how high are the chances?

The easiest path to success is to not even give failure a chance. Like, instead of working so hard to succeed you must work hard to fail. Success, love, is a consequence of systems- a matter of natural course- you’re eating right so you look and feel great- a natural consequence. A matter of rather obvious course. You’re studying so you pass. Matter of course. You buy the right clothes so you just always look put together, like always. Obviously. What other choice do you have? All your friends are girlbosses so obviously you’re a girlboss? Duh. Literally what other choice is there? Even if you wanted to fail the choice to isn’t there, and although the chance is never zero it can be beautifully close to zero, that’s the goal.

Success is a matter of systems, love. Not milestones. You set in place systems whose consequences are what you want. Like if your study system is great genuinely how will you fail?

Take away the option to easily fail, that’s the goal. Set systems that have literally no choice but to get you where you want, as a natural consequence rather than goals you’re trying to superficially impose. Its not milestones, it’s systems. Its- habits. Routines. Systems. Make some that make failure hard to get.

1. Always stand up while shaking hands with someone.

2. Never make the first offer in a negotiation. 3. Keep their secret if they have faith in you. 4. Return an automobile they lend you with the tank full.

5. Act passionately or don't act at all.

6. Shake hands firmly and stare the other person in the eye.

7. Take a solo trip and experience it.

8. There are clear reasons why you should never refuse a peppermint tablet.

9. If aging is your goal, heed advice.

10. Join the new individual at the office or school for dinner.

11. If you are furious and you are texting someone, complete, read, delete, and rewrite the message.

12. You avoid discussing business, politics, or religion at the table.

13. Set goals and work toward them in writing.

14. Present your case while showing people respect and tolerance.

15. Make a visit and phone your family.

16. Never look back and always learn from your experiences

17. Your personality ought to be one of loyalty and honor.

18. Never give money to someone you know won't be able to repay you.

19. Have faith in something.

20. Make your bed as soon as you wake up. 21. Take a shower and sing.

22. Maintain a garden or a plant.

23. Look up at the sky whenever you get the chance.

24. Recognize and utilize your strengths.

25. Embrace your work or quit it.

26. When you need assistance, ask for it.

27. Instruct someone in a value—ideally a modest one.

28. Express gratitude to the person who is reaching out to you.

29. Show your neighbors kindness.

30. If you brighten someone else's day, it will brighten yours as well.

31. Put yourself to the test.

32 Give yourself a treat at least yearly

33. Look after your well-being.

34. Always give a cheerful greeting.

35. Speak slowly, but think quickly.

36. Avoid speaking while full of mouth.

37. Always maintain a neat appearance, trim your nails, and shine your shoes.

38. Avoid voicing an opinion on topics you are unfamiliar with.

39. Don't treat others badly.

40. Approach each day as though it were your last.

41. Don't ever pass up the chance to keep silent.

42. Give someone credit for their work.

43. Have humility, even if it's not always present.

44. Always remember your origins.

45. Take trips whenever you can.

46. Resign from the step.

47 Take a rainy dance.

48. Keep going after your success.

49. Treat others fairly and defend those in need.