Carol Holiday

i finally finished drawing em all... free to use as pfp with credit!!

1. there will always be someone more severely affected by their disability than you are, this does not mean you aren't disabled, or that your struggles aren't real. these disabled people are not your enemy.

2. visibly disabled people are not treated better than invisibly disabled people, there are different struggles to both.

3. visibly & severely disabled people are not lucky for being visibly disabled or severely disabled. this belief is ableist.

4. we all need to keep the more severely disabled people in mind, they are the most vulnerable & this is disability justice 101.

5. there will always be severely disabled people in public, you absolutely need to work on your discomforts about the conditions/aids/symptoms/behaviours they might have; drooling, incontinence, "odd" behaviours, visible differences, use of AAC etc. this is a you problem, not a them problem.

6. there will always be symptoms of disabilities that you don't approve of; zero social awareness, cognitive impairments, violent meltdowns, strong smells & loud noises, being nonverbal/semiverbal etc. no one can force you to like it, but you cannot be cruel to them regardless of your opinions, again, this is a you problem & not a them problem.

7. you can still be ableist even if you yourself are disabled, this isn't always internalised, it can also be outright ableism.

8. caregivers of severely disabled people often play an important role in disability spaces, try not to *immediately* discount their experiences, unless they're truly over stepping, are being factually incorrect/uneducated or ableist. (caregivers can come with unique problems in disability spaces, 100%, but they are not inherently bad)

9. severely disabled people will have experiences you do not have, it is not an attack on you when these experiences are talked about.

10. “people wouldn’t say [ableist thing] to a wheelchair user” yes they would and yes they do.

My friend without DID STILL has imaginary friends.

Imaginary friends aren’t fake. They are real to you, and that is all that matters. It does not mean plurality.

Also, voices do not mean plurality. My step father has a brain tumor and he has voices, no DID. If you suddenly start hearing voices please seek help. And an inner voice is completely normal, it will not always sound like you.

They think that the term and concept can be separated from CDDs because they wholeheartedly believe that alter is just "someone else in your head". I don't think I have to explain how that's extremely watered down and ableist.

In refusing to understand how CDDs work, how they form, and how alters come to be in the first place they water down alters to just a "buddy in your head", rather than a severe response to severe trauma.

Their community time and time again, refuses to listen to those with CDDs around them that call them out of their ableist logics and behaviors. They refuse to see how the very core of their beliefs are born from pure ableism. And in doing so, they are a community that isn't safe for any trauma survivors, let alone anyone with a CDD.

It's incredibly disappointing that even when you argue with polite and nice endos and pro endos, who actually listen to what you have to say, they still aren't actually taking in the information you're giving them. They still aren't actually listening to the disordered person telling them how the community they're in is unsafe and ableist, because they see endos as "friendlier". Because they don't see the ableism, because they don't have our fucking disorder.

stop letting alters that don't belong to an ethnic group claim it.

stop letting fetishization of "exotic" culture slide.

stop letting people google names in other languages and not show those languages the respect they deserve. like ffs, at least learn how to pronounce what your part is calling themself. at least learn the context the word is used in.

stop being nonconfrontational about racism. yeah, you'll ruffle some feathers. maybe those feathers need to be ruffled.