Capeside System Shitposts

A lot of advice people like to share is that an abuser doesn't actually love you or care about your well-being.

While this is true in many cases, there are also people who look at their relationship and they see that they are loved, and they think they can't be suffering abuse.

Yes; it is absolutely possible that the abuser does genuinely love you. But you know what? It doesn't matter. They still hurt you. All the love in the world does not negate the fact that they repeatedly abused you. It doesn't erase the trauma. It doesn't fix the damage they caused.

me, dissociating: totally :)

them: so what do you think?

shout out to all the caretakers. y’all are lovely and handle such an important job, and honestly keep the system together. the work you do to look after people and make sure they’re taken care of is always appreciated and helps so much. remember that you are always doing enough, and everyone admires you so much for the role you hold.

shout out to all the traumaholders. seriously, traumaholders do not get enough recognition for the things they go through to keep us safe. y’all hold horrible things inside just to ease our lives and help us stay stable and i am soso grateful for you. remember that it’s okay to struggle and your entire identity isn’t just remembering bad things that happened; you’re loved and worthy and it’s okay to cry when you need to.

shout out to all the persecutors. you are just as important and whole as the rest of the system and you play just as crucial of a part. things are rough, and you’re doing what you can. remember that you deserve to be acknowledged and respected, and you are not hated or unworthy. 

shout out to all the hosts and cohosts. you guys hold so much responsibility for the system and that’s super admirable! everyone appreciates you taking over and handling life and keeping everything manageable. remember that it’s okay to step back when things get overwhelming, and you don’t have to tackle everything on your own. 

shout out to all the gatekeepers. i have no idea where the system would be without you! you keep everything organized and make sure everyone is accounted for. without your hard work, things would be all over the place and confusing. remember that you are very appreciated and have one of the most important roles in a system; you do not go unnoticed and everyone is so grateful for what you do.