Deeply and endlessly in love with divination. With the way it sees our soul, unlocks us, allows us to understand and express ourselves, connecting us to this world… In love with learning and growing. Sharing this journey with others through my work.♡
This is a safe space. To slow down. To breathe. To reflect. To ask ourselves those questions that we don’t even dare to whisper. To listen and to hear ourselves for the first time. To dive deeper into this world, our mind and our heart.♡
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And maybe it never was about doing more or reaching more, more of what can show others that you are deserving and capable and worth it. More accomplishments to show off and put in their face, as they all seem to think about it...
But about demonstrating to your own self that you can do it, that you can find the courage, the discipline, the ideas when needed, to materialize your passions, giving them form and realness no matter the hardships. Maybe it was about you creating, doing, overcoming. For your own self.
And maybe, doing all of this, you already won, you already accomplished your big and little victories. No matter what they all think. And even when you are the only witness of your growth and journey.
Maybe you can still be proud of yourself, and congratulate the you of the past that came so far, to the point of creating this version of you.
How much is enough? How much intention, energy, patience, and hard work of ours is enough, when it comes to our desires, to our goals that we chase until the world around us becomes blurred, until we lose sight of our fears and doubts, and with them of ourselves too, sacrificing everything we are made of? Where lies the line? Where is the limit to how much we should give, before accepting that it is enough, that it is not worth it? Or… perhaps that we already took everything we were allowed to take with us?
There is something here, in your life, in this very moment… Something that you are holding onto. Even thought it doesn’t sit right with you anymore, even though it makes you uneasy, the thought of being bonded to it forever… There is something to which you dedicated yourself so fiercely, daringly, ignoring every voice that said that it was wrong for you, not fitting. Something, someone, who doesn’t resonate with you anymore, doesn’t speak to your soul, doesn’t even hear it. But that, still, for one reason or another, you are unable to leave behind, to cut that string that is pulling you, only becoming tighter…
Is this only a phase? Is there still a chance for things to get better, or how they used to, as the season changes and this situation starts to bloom again for you? Or was it all that it had for you, all those moments that became lessons and treasured memories? Is it time to wait for more, to be strong and patient, or to let go once and for all, saying the last goodbyes to them and to the version of you that believed that these were the right choices?
Slow down for a moment. Breathe. Soften your gaze into this painting, into its details. Allow them to speak to you, to call you, to that one pile that holds a message for you.♡
So, which pile is calling you..?
Pile One
Pile Two
Remaining time: 4 days 19 hours
- Pile One,
(the child: the temperance and the seven of swords)
Detail of “Selene”, by Ferdinand Keller ♡
It didn’t quite work out, in the end, as you expected it… No matter how many times you stood your ground, found the way to come back to your chosen path, survived every obstacle that tried to push you out of it… It still didn’t work out as you wanted. It never became that one thing, never realised that potential, that you saw in it…
It did progress, it did grow, it gave you some results and rewards… And yet, every single one of them felt so heavy, when you received it. Almost like you are not strong enough to hold it or, perhaps, not strong enough to make it believable that you really did all that on your own, that you are worthy of it.
It just never felt yours. Even though you know how much you worked for it. It never changed a thing - every accomplishment, every victory, every beautiful moment - never truly felt real, tangible, deserved.
And even though, at first, you thought that it was you, that were ungrateful, or overthinking, or just self sabotaging by looking for something negative even in the good things… Now your mind whispers to you something different.
What if, at the core of it, is this place, person, path or situation, that is just not the right one for you? What if it’s not about you being ungrateful, or not worthy of having this thing… But it is more about this something, that is not quite enough to fill in that space in your heart, and in your life, no matter how much you adapt yourself and learn to appreciate it?
Because you did it. You adapted. Not necessarily in a bad way, by surrendering, or not looking forward to anything else, just focusing on this one… But more in the one of learning, constantly, again and again, to appreciate it, to know it, to understand it. To feel it yours, however is it, and treasure it, either way, even if there is a tiny part of you that still feels empty.
What you gave to this one thing… Is more than just working on it, being intentional, at times fighting for it. It is the purest way of loving something or someone - by giving it a chance, regardless, having faith in it, being patient… But, for one reason or another, the reality is that it never will be capable to love you enough, to love you in the same way as you do, by learning to fill in those voids, fulfilling those desires of yours…
It is a tough decision, and it is a hurtful realisation to go through. Because it really is not about this person, or path, or situation… It is not even about this moment, to say the truth. It is about you, who deep down has many more desires, much more potential, that calls to be satisfied, louder and louder.
But this thing, whatever it is… It does know it. It does already feel it. That it just isn’t the right one for you, it can’t be enough, no matter how much both of you could try to fight it. Not when it already gave it all - the blessings, the lessons, the experience. Not when the only and most loving thing that remains to do is just to accept it, and say it.
Because you are allowed to walk away, to go further. You are allowed to close this chapter of your life, even knowing that it won’t be followed by another one, that it is an epilogue of a one specific and single story. You are allowed to do it because you did your best. You really gave it your all, sincerely, you never blamed it for the hardships or lows or failures. You took on all the responsibility, always. Your heart was always open to it, hopeful, full with faith and optimism. And this is why you came so far, this is why it gifted you such precious moments, even though it wasn’t your forever story.
You spent so much time in this situation that it simply feels physically impossible to face a new beginning. To start again and from scratch. Or, even, to need to spend some time first to explore this world and find this another thing that might be more fitting for you… But, even once you walk away, what you lived here won’t be erased suddenly. You will carry it with you. Because this situation, staying here for so long with such diligence and intention, gave you exactly what you need to be able to find your new beginning.♡
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- Pile Two,
(the rider: the justice and the knight of coins)
Detail of “Selene”, by Ferdinand Keller ♡
For some, and for you too, it might seem obvious at times, from certain perspectives… That this is it. That this journey lasted long enough for this moment, this situation, this obstacle… be its rightful conclusion, the beginning of an ending that is happening exactly like it is supposed to.
And yet… There is still something there, sparkling, blinking at you, every single time a doubt crosses your mind. A very specific one - and what if this is not the end? What if there is still more that you could find here if only you wait for a moment?
It’s all about the pacing really. It was a long run. It still is, every step, every moment, every progress feels extremely slow and reluctant. Surrounded by this fast paced world, and being filled with so many ideas, desires and goals… it really is difficult to resist the urge to rush. It is difficult to keep on finding reasons to stay, to stick to it.
But what if we turn things around? What if, instead of looking for more reasons, we just see the one that is so precious that it can be enough on its own? What if, simply, we consider this doubt of yours, this reluctancy, an answer and prove on its own?
Because you were always very good at it, at keeping up. At doing, searching, creating, finding. Anything that was needed, every single time, you adapted to it, completely, without a second thought. But this doesn’t really, or necessarily, mean that you are simply like this, does it? Perhaps, you really are much slower, in your pace, in your habits, in your routines that are just for you, when no one is watching and rating… When you just have a moment for yourself - you really like to take it slow, to enjoy every single step one at a time, being present fully.
Than why this should be different? Who told you this? When you became convinced of it? That this one specific thing in your life should have a different pace, give you results faster, that you should expect and demand of it much more than you usually do with everything else around you?
For some, that look at it, it might seems stagnant, a situation that is failing, or that simply has nothing else to offer… They might feel the urge and need to run away from it, before it collapses taking them down as it will be falling. And their feelings are so real, their perspective so clear, their voice so important for you… That you start to feel the same as them. But… at the core of it… these thoughts of needing to escape, are not really coming from your own mind, from your heart, and you know it…
You are simply fine with it. With what it gives you now. You don’t really think about the future nor what else there might be, or, at least, you don’t do it when you are on your own, where the opinions of others can’t really reach you. You are okay with it. With all of it. With every detail about this something. So much that you feel safe, and comfortable, in the most needed for you way honestly.
Because it is tiring, to want more, to reach constantly for it. It is for you. And this is why, naturally, you avoid doing it in any other situation or journey of yours, in any other area of your life but this one. Actually, you hide in them, from the rest of the world, from the need that so many tell you that you are supposed to have in doing more, in desiring more, in not ‘‘settling’’ for this… Even when you are actually pretty fine with it.
It might sound cliche, but this is your journey, your thing, your life, your little piece of it. You are the one that lives it and experiences it. The one that deals with it… You are the one that is in charge and that is choosing. And, I tell you a little secret, you can indeed choose the other option.
You can stay. You can wait. Or you can just be here, without expecting anything. You can be satisfied with this, and not need nothing else, not right now.
There is a reason why it is not an easy choice, why you don’t just go away, like so many would. There is a reason you keep looking back, and questioning. Not why you should stay, but why you are supposed to walk away from it…
This perspective alone, the one of your thoughts, if you pay attention to it, is on it’s own a sign that this is not the end, that there is still something here. This person, this connection, journey or situation… it’s not on the finishing line, it didn’t give you all it had, perhaps, it didn’t even yet create it.
And although for some it might be nerve wrecking, the wait, the patience, the faith in something that is not materialised yet… For you it never was a problem to begin with it. Others made it for you. The close ones, the general opinion, the stories that you see and hear around you. Under all these thoughts and voices and examples of how one is supposed to go about it, you are much simpler, and calmer, you feel fine with it, with how things are progressing. And this is all you need to know, this is all you need to keep in mind, you and this something, and the bond that keeps you intertwined.♡
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And this means that we can ✨manifest✨ the hell out of it
(Actually, I personally think that we can do it throughout the whole august as it's still the eight month, so if you don't manage do to something today, no worries you have many more days to come that you can use.)
08/08 is already and always has been considered the perfect day to manifest or for spellcasting. But this time around it's the 08/08/2026, which reduces to 8, so it's the day of 888 and everything is perfect, as it's usually the number associated with balance that comes into your life, and the reflection of your desires and wishes into your reality.
So here are some ways you can manifest today (or any other day if you want to, really):
- You can write down a list of things or outcomes that you would like to have in your life, as if you already have them;
- You can write a sort of a diary page, where you describe a specific situation, or thing that you want, or even just an aura or energy in your life, as it is happening right now;
- Or you can write a little letter to yourself of the past, from the perspective of the future you that has already what you want (I went for this one today ♡).
Once you're done, you can just put the paper aside, hide it, burn it, burry it or even throw it for what it's worth. The most important thing is that you, even just for a little moment, let go. Or allow yourself to feel like you are doing it, through the gesture of your choice.
Because, a part from manifestation or magic, convincing even just for a while your mind or your heart that you did it, giving it a little break from worrying and consuming themselves, allows your subconscious mind to step up. By starting to look for and see more signs, or opportunities, or examples of how you could've achieve what you state that you already have, trying to fill in the gap that you left for your subconscious and in your memory by just saying that you already have it. Tricking it into actually doing the real work by showing you a way of doing it, or in which your mind will think that you did it, and thus, helping you manifest it in the real world and your life!🩷
p.s. Also, if you might be interested, I have a reading for this august about the gift that it might have in store for you, that I will leave to you right here.♡
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- A deity is interested in you!.. Or perhaps it's only a cry for help from within you
a short story of how a silly (so I thought) reading about a deity, ended up being a gentle knock on my head from my tarot cards, that guided me to a deeper reflection
The "Devotion", by Theodoros Ralli (Greek, 1852-1909).♡
For some reason or another (or perhaps simply because of my own frustration and overthinking and fear about the journey I was on), in the last days my mind started to whisper to me ''What If I ask for help a deity, an entity, something bigger than me that has much more power and knowledge, to guide me?''.
With full conviction I grabbed my tarot deck, took out my journal, and started asking.
First, obviously, was the question about if there could be any deity or entity that could be ''''''interested'''' in me, or help me if I'd to ask them, to teach me and follow me. Then who they might be, what they are associated with, if I ever had to do with them already. The usual stuff of an ''interrogation'' ( I was obviously set on knowing as much as I can before going to bother some ethereal creature for my silly little problems).
But as I received my answers, I started to get a vague strange feeling, almost like the cards were satisfying me, exactly like an adult does with a game of play pretend with their little adorable human, while subtly mixing in a bigger lesson...
From the answers I was gathering that there was indeed someone or something that could've helped me, although not by granting me my wish or assuring me my desired rewards. But more through a guidance and help in navigating and mastering the discipline I would need, to face my journey and go through it, changing the current stagnant situation into something better and more like what I wanted. (The chariot and the wheel of fortune.)
That it wasn't someone or something interested in me (let's be honest it never was realistic in the first place), but rather someone that already did guide me in my previous journeys, that I listened to and followed subconsciously, until I gradually detached myself from them and their ''voice'' because of my own convictions or opinions that downed upon me... So now, rather than being me asking for help or calling out to them, it is more about me pulling out of my own head the wrong and limiting convictions that now reside in them, and don't allow me to see or hear the needed guidance. (The queen of swords and the ten of swords).
That it wasn't a specific deity that I've had already my eyes on (In my mind I needed first to understand which mithology or religion could've been theirs, considering it was supposedly someone I already ''crossed''.), but someone that I briefly gazed at, was interested in, was curious about but never looked more deeply into because I didn't felt too connected to them, or the process of learning about them for some reason resulted confusing and difficult for me. (The seven of swords and the moon...).
I also understood that it was more of a feminine energy, or this someone or something was associated with it usually. And they were often represented like a ''numerous'' entity, rather than one, although considered the same, different duties or powers. And they were, also, a part of something that I would associate with family or community, perhaps a pantheon or somethig connected to the divination and esoterism more closely and specifically... (The tree of cups and the ten of cups).
And this was the moment I thought, or perhaps remembered, about the Norns (Norse Mythology), the Fates (for Romans), and the Moirai (for Greeks). The ones that indeed always interested me but never enough to look into them deeply, because of different interpretations of them, so many stories and mythologies, that felt always too overwhelming. The ones that are infact associated with destiny, passage of time, fortune, knowledge and understanding of life. And as I discovered through my brief research, also oracles, readers, and the ones that practice divination of every form. The were also the ones that are often consulted in times of desired change, or difficult decisions and doubts, or regrets and still heavy on us past. In hopes of understanding it, seeing it, and obtaining control over it and our lives, exacly like the cards of the wheel of fortune, two of swords and the five of cups confirmed to me when I asked about what they are usually associated with.
To say that I was ecstatic it's an understatement - it all made truly sense in my head. I was interested in them vaguely but never looked into them. They are connected to divination, to understanding and knowldge of time and lives and destiny. To which I'm connected to some extent through my own practise. They were three and also the same. They were feminine in their representation. I was honestly all ready to feel special and the chosen one, imagining that the destiny itself wanted to mentor me.
But then I asked, ‘‘Are they interested in me because of what they are and represent, or was I connecting with them and seeking them unknowingly, because of what I was looking for (a change in what felt a bad destiny of mine, that I felt the need to escape from)?’’. The ten of coins, the four of swords, the death.
We were all connected to them, to it. Always. Because they are the ones that make our lives and choose them. And althought their interaction with us is somehow passive, they still allow us to access their ''archives'', their knowledge, what they are doing as they are creating our destiny, if one wants to change it. If one wants help with rewriting it. No matter if we do it through divination, reflections, choices, actions - once we decide we want a different life or outcome than the one that seems to be written for us, they allow us to connect to them, and to ask them for help and guidance in doing so, in ‘‘adjusting’’ what they did for us.
My mind started quitely processing in the background, connecting little and subtle details that seemed to be all hidden in every answer the cards gave me.
Are they, the ones that could help me and guide me, a literal deity as we think about them, or something bigger, perhaps a concept, maybe the one of destiny or fate that they are used for representing? The ace of coins, the eight of cups, the six of wands.
An energy. A thought. The strength. The courage. The ones that we desperately need and look for when we decide to completely shift the reality that we are living. The affirmation and reassurance of having the right, the ability and the possibilty of changing our lives, our situations, our destiny. Bending it to our will, to our desires and passions, to our needs and desperate hopes that we hold onto.
So, I asked as my last question, ‘‘Is perhaps this entity and deity that you've said to me could help me and guide me in my journey, when I asked you about it, only a lesson that I need to remember and learn once again, one more time now. About the right that I have to choose to change my life, my journeys, my situations when they don't feel right anymore for me... And the ability and possibility that I always have to do so, if I just decide, and believe in myself enough, and truly commit, to manifest through my attitude and persistence the outcomes and experiences that I do want... And you just played along with my questions, using them as a metaphor for all of it...?
They answered me with the justice.
When I closed my journal I had a smile on my face. They did it again. My cards. My own subconscious that used them to speak to me more clearly... They redirected me once again, gently. From my convictions, to what they mean, what they represent, what I actually desire and want for me.
A deity to guide and show me the right path, so I'm 100% sure that I’m doing the right things and will receive and live my desired outcome... Or just me lacking the confidence and conviction in the fact that I indeed can control and change my life, no matter how doomed or unlucky the circumstances make me feel?
I think that I will sit with it for a few days. Because, obviously, understanding it not always gives you automatically that courage and perseverance that is needed... But I'm once again deeply grateful for my deck, for divination, for this little magic that helps me see and understand so much more of myself, more than my at times too negative mind allows me.
It might be just an exampe of how my own convictions do change the way I might read the answers, in the end I am indeed more close to spirituality and psychology, rather than mythology and religions. But it also might be a beautiful example of how tarot cards can be much more than just prediction of a future - they are the ones that can translate to us our own thoughts and feelings, filtering them, and showing what really is moving us through our current needs, desires and convictions.
p.s. This was one of my personal readings, my own little therapy sessions as I call them. But, if you might be ever interested, I do post weekly pick a pile readings, through which I try to do exactly the same: use the cards as a key to ourselves, our emotions, our current thoughts, helping us to understand and hear ourselves better, by allowing our subconscious to guide us intuitively through details of paintings and signs and reflections of ourselves that it sees in them, trying to tell us something. ♡
I actually do judge the book by its cover, and its title. It's a thing I always did since I was little. I don't really want to know beforehand the story or the author, I just want to learn about them as I go, after I found them randomly before me or they caught my attention suddenly. And surprisingly I've never really picked a book that I didn't love in the end. Or, at least, that I didn't learn to love. Because the thing is, even if eventually, at first, I understand that it might not be right for me, I still stick with it, I listen to it, pay attention, and look for one thing that will make it worth it. A one single line, a character, a word I didn't know, a story that was predictable but perhaps I still needed to hear one more time, told by a different person. I give them a chance always, and always I eventually end up loving every single one of them because of a little something. And if I sit with it, with the way I go about books... I can't help but think that it says something about the way I welcome in and accept people in my life too, giving them always a chance and falling in love for a part of them, even if it will be the only one, or if in the end our time will be little and our moments will live on only on the shelves of my memory of them.
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Nothing beats the pure horror that fills me when I have finally some free hours and thus need to choose which of mine 7392793 hobbies and projects I want to do. I want to cry. Someone save me.
What this august, these last weeks of summer, have in store for you? Which of your desires for this season will be fulfilled suddenly this last month?
piles → one and two ♡
The last month of this season, the last weeks, the last days in which we can't help but put all our hopes in. Hope that they will be able to shift our whole life suddenly, that they will give us everything that the rest of the summer failed to manifest for us... Hope that it is not too late, that we weren't too delusional, that we will be proven right, when our dreams and goals will come true at the last minute, no matter what...
Slow down for a moment, take a deep breathe in. Think about it, about all of it. The summer, the plans you've had, your visions... And the things that never appeared no matter the patience and hard work that you've had for them... And follow your gaze to that one pile, one detail of this painting that is calling you, hiding your message, about the goodbye gift this summer has for you.♡
p.s. This time I made a little addition to every pile: a reason/ explanation of why you intuitively might have chosen one pile and one detail of the painting rather than the other. As a way of understanding how our subconscious might resonate with certain things we see, and look for a sign or an answer in them. (Also, I usually pick the painting and the details that I want to feature days before doing the reading, deciding their order based on visual aesthetic and effect it gives me, so it's always so interesting to see how every message ends up with the detail of the painting that perfectly represents it visually!). So let me know if you like these additional interpretations.♡
So... Which pile is calling you?
Pile One
Pile Two
Voting ended onAug 9
- Pile one,
(the key: the seven of swords and the fool)
Detail of the ‘’Turkish Woman’‘, by Theodoros Ralli (Greek, 1852 - 1909).♡
When we think about our dreams, our deepest desires at this moment, that one thing that we so passionately hope for... For most, it's the new things that come up: opportunities, progress, achievements and rewards. But for you, there is not even one thing of these.
Even if you wanted, you couldn't let them in. Not when your whole mind and heart is full of that one single situation that is tying you and dragging you away, every single day, at your every try and decision to make it out of it, to live your life differently, and free from all of this...
You just hope that it could end someday, somehow, and set you free. You spent your every single wish on it for so much time, months, even years... And yet you never saw something so persistent, something so out of your control and yet dead set on you, of all people, no matter what you throw at it in hopes to break its walls. The walls that seem to become tighter and tighter now, suffocating, with the stagnation of this situation and pattern, of the way they limit you, not let you breathe in nothing different...
You are tired, you are just surrendering. It would've been your strongest desire, the one of escaping from this, but you don't even bother anymore to think about it. Only your subconscious, perhaps, does. Still aching silently at every sign that confirms to you that you are doing the right thing by not even trying anymore, by not spending any more time or strenght to fight it...
But, even if it seems only a helpless observation the one your soul is doing, it does still try, it does still look for a solution, even if your conscious mind is so tired and against all of this. Somewhere somehow, there is still a part of you that believes that it is possible for things to change, that it's not your destiny nor duty to endure it. Or, to be precise, your subconscious is slowly coming to the conclusion that you can be the one to change things, no matter how they seem now.
This month, at first and on the surface, will still be and feel the same, exactly like the last months that passed by. Hot air, deep and overwhelmed breathes, a still tired body, no matter how much time you spent thinking that you are resting. Your mind will still feel present and at the same time not, confused, somehow, looking for something that you yourself don't know what is it. At least until... you will start to see it.
It won't be an aha! moment, an old light bulb materializing out of the blue and jumpscaring you... But it will be almost as anxiety inducing, strange, and weird. A creepling realisation, points that will be connected right before your eyes that will suddenly start to see, to notice, instead of just wandering, but not the things you will have quite literally in front of you - no, it will be something different, something deeper, thoughts and memories of the past you.
Day after day it will be an overload. Your subconscious, after preparing all the receipts, will start to push them right under your nose, demending your attention. People, situations, answers, examples, all the things that you already looked into, when frenetically searching for a way out of this situation. But now they will be slightly different. All worked out, with notes, with circles around the clues and details. A whole and complete map of your situation, with a way out highlighted with such force that you won't be able to look away.
It will be sudden, and strange. Because you didn't plan all of this. You didn't plan to look into it again, to try one more time, to have hopes and intentions to give once more to this situation. But when the answers will be so clear in front of you, it will be impossible to resist, you will run to see if they are correct.
First with some uncertainty, then with more and more confidence, you will stand up again in that situation that for so long kept you sat, forcing you to surrender. You will face it once again - ‘‘one last time’’ you will whisper to yourself - with new evidence, new ideas, new way of handling all of it. And it will work out.
At the very last moment, right before the end, a summer that seemed completely the same as others will become a scene right out of a film. As you will finally become free from it, from all of it. Physically, mentally, emotionally - you will win against it. You will set your own self free, right before the new season starts, a new and literal beginning for you.
All because of a part of you, a tiny but such fierce one, that never surrendered, never accepted to be trapped by others, and decided to guide you out of it. Into your new life.
p.s. Like the veil in the detail of the painting that drew you in, although almost imperceptibly because you got so used to it, this one situation was limiting you, limiting your view of the world, your enjoynment of it, and your possibilty to speak your desired life into existence all around you. Something that will change starting from this month, as you will finally take it off you.♡
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- Pile two,
(the tree: the two of swords and the tower)
Detail of the ‘’Turkish Woman’‘, by Theodoros Ralli (Greek, 1852 - 1909).♡
Some might say that it is too late, it is the last month of the summer. Others might say that it is better late than never. And you... You kind of don't know. Not when it comes to your body, your health that is important to you, and yet the opponent is too strong - the routines, the discipline of it all, the affordability of a better and healthier life style - is just too much.
It could be said that it is a little too simple of a reason, but it is the truth. It really is too much to get into, to take care of, even if you really wanted it, to be healthier for this season so you could really enjoy it. It's just that, (this is the conclusion you came to), perhaps you didn't even wanted it that much. To be more active, to eat more fully, to feel more lightly as you go through your days and little adventures. Perhaps you didn't even wanted to have a different aesthetic or look to you. Perhaps it was all just about the voices and examples around you, that got to you, and really you are just okay the way you are, for yourself.
And yet, you are not so smiley when you are looking in the mirror. You are not too proud of yourself, nor satisfied, when you don't have the strenght to keep up with something, when you get too tired. And that little voice, the one that never left no matter how much you've said to yourself that you are just fine, is still here. It never left. It never stopped to judge you nor to compare you. To your younger self, to others on some socials, to those you see walking past you. The ones that are lighter or bigger. The ones that are stronger or weaker... That voice never became silent, the whirl of examples and condemnations only got more chaotic. Because it is coming closer.
That deadline that you set for yourself, hypothetically, some months ago. When you decided that you will transform completely for this summer, and be so free and strong that there won't be even one activity or adventure that you will pass on.
It is the last month. And this, itself, feels like a sentence to you. Because you indeed didn't manage to do your transformation, or didn't change enough for your own standards. And, in one way or another, you chose this ‘‘failure’’ as your coach for this season. You let it choose for you, what you can do and can't. Where you are good enough to be seen and where you aren't.
And one after another, so many things were lived by you completely differently from what you planned. Some days you weren't so strict with yourself, you were kinder, and inevitably were reminded, by that mean voice in your head, how it will affect your progress and your appearance. And others you were less understanding, you gave your all to your goals, until you collapsed from tiredness, questioning why are you doing all of this in the first place. It was all or nothing, too little or too much. Every single day, every single moment of a summer that you wanted so badly to just be perfect for once.
And now it’s all just about to end. Another summer full of things that you didn't want and ideas that you never recreated. But this time, also, with a new conviction that it is your fault more than ever, because you could've done something differently, but didn't...
But, although in these first days of the month those thoughts will be quite heavy... After spending so much time listening to them and contemplating, you will discover somehow a new option. The one of not condemning yourself too much. And, not yet.
It is the last month, yes, but it is still a whole one. One that has many days in it, many moments and opportunities to catch up on some adventures or desires of yours. One that is not obligated to be as full of frustration and regret as the others ones. Nor it is forced to be so judgemental of the you that did try still to work on yourself.
You might have expected a gift that comes from this summer. But the one you will receive will be much more precious - it will be from your own self and your mind that, finally and for once, will start to be a little more kinder to you.
It is difficult and bitter to accept a loss, it's true. And yet it doesn't force you in any way to sit with it, and not try again, now or a little later. And this is exactly what you will do - you will free yourself for this one last month, finally, from your own expectations, convictions, and judgement. You will just live it, and enjoy it. You will take on those opportunities and adventures, and when you will want to, you will adjust your self care to them. When to rest, when to be active, when to eat more or less, when to wake up earlier or go to bed later. Which outfit feels more right in the moment, which colours and make up makes you feel more confident. You will face each question one at a time, and find your answers intuitively, based on how you will feel about them purely in that instant. And, ironically, in one month you will understand and do for yourself much more than what you expected before this season started.
Because it will be natural. And it will be gentle. Because it will be a focus on feeling better in your own skin, not on changing it. And without realising, this little detail will change everything. Your mind too. As it will unlock it and free from old convictions on what you need and must do. Allowing you to find your own rhythms and routines that will finally have sense for you and your own body, ones that will be so easy to follow because they will be yours, not of someone else that you decided to force on you.
And just like that, one shift of a mindset, will save much more than just a summer and its last month - it will give you something to bring into the new season, something that will truly and really be helpful for you in your journey on becoming the strongest and healthiest version of your self.
p.s. The gift of yours that you will receive will be a little like the confidence and determination in the eyes that captured you, in the detail of the painting that you chose sooner. Emotions that you do want to feel in you, when you move and experience life through your body. Perhaps even provoking those old fears and convictions of yours about yourself, by making the most of these moments ahead of you, while subtly and victoriously smiling at the things that tried to stop you.♡
p.p.s. If this message resonated with you and you feel like you might want or need a deeper dive into your situation or the months ahead of you, you can take a look at the personal guidance that I offer, right here, that starts as low as €11.♡
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