Skinny Jeans Dreams (again🥰)

There are 4 borderline personality disorder subtypes: impulsive, discouraged, self-destructive, and petulant. IMPULSIVE subtype: These people struggle with impulsivity the most. This can look like binge eating, overspending, unprotected sex, drinking under the influence, alcoholism, gambling, drug use, outbursts, physical fights, yelling fits, breaking things. People with this subtype may appear energetic, flirtatious, charismatic, motivating. DISCOURAGED/QUIET subtype: These people may keep their emotions inside and express harm to themselves rather than other things/people. Instead of yelling at others they may indulge in self harm behaviors. People with this subtype may be clingy, feel empty or lonely most of the time, be perfectionists, engage in self harm or suicide behaviors, codependant, have anger and emotional mood swings if abandonment issues get triggered. SELF-DESTRUCTIVE subtype:

What is acceptance? ACCEPTANCE means acknowledging reality for what it is, in the present moment.

It is not the same as agreeing, or approving, or understanding -just acknowledging the truth.

Why does acceptance matter?

When we are not able to practice acceptance, we spend enormous amounts of time and energy wishing things were different.

Even if we're right, and things should be different, refusing to accept reality does not do anything to change it.

Why is acceptance so hard?

We often jump to the conclusion that if we accept something...

•we are giving our permission or approval for it to continue.

•we have to like it

•we are giving up on trying to change it.

Because of the splitting symptom of BPD, these objections may feel particularly strong for you!

Why should someone practice acceptance?

When we practice acceptance, we free up our time and emotional energy for things that we have control over.

Once we accept something as it is, we can act more effectively.

How can I practice acceptance? (1/4)

Acceptance is very simple but it is not easy!

Step one is to notice that you are refusing to accept reality in the first place. If your thoughts are stuck on a loop, or you are thinking about how things "should" be, that's a good clue.

How can I practice acceptance? (2/4)

Once you have noticed that you are fighting reality, gently call yourself out: "I have been spending three days wishing they would text back."

Remind yourself about the reality of the situation: "I cannot control someone else's behavior."

How can I practice acceptance? (3/4)

Try any of the following statements:

• "I do not have to like this to acknowledge that it is reality.'

•"I may feel grief or anger when I accept this, but refusing to accept only prolongs my pain."

•"I do not have to understand in order to accept."

•"life is worth living when it includes pain."

How can I practice acceptance? (4/4)

Allow yourself to experience any emotions that may come up. If at all possible, sit with your emotions until they lessen (if you need to use a crisis kit to self soothe that is OK too!).

Imagine yourself successfully coping with reality in the future.

A final note: