GREER,SHE DOESNT HAVE ANY FUCKING BONES.

Pangur has the ONE bone that matters: the heart ❤️

Sure, you know how to self-flagellate, but do you know how to apologize? Saying "I'm a stupid idiot" is not the same thing as saying "I did something wrong."

People who want an apology pretty much never want to hear "I'm a stupid idiot." If someone is actually trying to get you to say you're a stupid idiot, it's not because it will make up for a mistake you made or harm you caused. It's because they want you to feel like a stupid idiot. People who care about you do not want you to feel like a stupid idiot and it hurts them when they see you putting yourself down in their name.

Plus, this can feel really manipulative. An apology is acknowledgement that a mistake was made and reassurance that it won't happen again (or at least, reassurance that the person apologizing will make an effort). Reframing the situation so that's it's all about how bad you feel or how badly you screwed up means that the person expecting an apology is getting a negative reaction to a reasonable request and is now expected to reassure whoever did harm. It's making it all about you, not about righting what you did, and it's a great way to alienate people.

I think the most fun part of monsters inc is boo calling sulley “kitty” and mike wazowski by full government name

*uses an em dash and a colon in the same sentence* we're done when i say we're done.