See Tate Teach

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[image description: a series of tweets from Cliff Jerrison @ pervocracy dated 24th of March. The tweets read:

if your child doesn’t come out until they’ve moved out and have a strong non-family support system

they didn’t JUST become trans ya dingdong

they just became safe from you

and I hope you feel every bit of what that means

and if your child starts HRT or gets a surgery date the day after they come out to you,

no, they didn’t start medical transition on day one

it’s day several hundred and you’re the last to know

(media should REALLY stop taking parents’ word on this particular point)

(sorry if this is a little unfair to parents of people who transitioned later in life for other reasons and do have a decent relationship, but if you are one of those you already know it instead of having a giant grudge around “my child didn’t even give me a CHANCE to stop them”)

All my love to the people replying to this with your stories, and – please don’t feel guilty. You do not owe your parents a trust they did not earn. You deserve, and did as a child, to be seen and loved as yourself. 💕 [heart emoji]

once again I must scream to the heavens that a lot of parents fucking suck and choosing not to come out to them until you near the point where you physically can’t hide your transition is not “suddenly becoming trans”, it is basic self-defense

“mom, I think I might be transgender, but I’m not sure, can you help me work through my feelings” - something that in some families is a reasonable request, and in others you might as well pour barbecue sauce down your shirt and climb in a tiger cage

Here’s the main piece:

SAGAL: Why did you move from England, reputedly cold and dreary, to the upper Midwest? Was England not cold and dreary enough?

GAIMAN: Nobody had really explained the whole cold thing to me.

SAGAL: Really?

GAIMAN: Yeah.

SAGAL: It was a surprise?

GAIMAN: Well, no. I was arrogant. I was foolish. The English thing where you think you know it all, I thought I understood cold. I thought, okay.

SAGAL: Oh yes.

GAIMAN: Water gets white and fluffy and it falls from the sky. Puddles go hard and slippery. That’s cold.

SAGAL: No problem.

GAIMAN: I did not understand the acres, the depth.

SAGAL: Right.

GAIMAN: How much colder it can be. I didn’t understand what it means to walk out of doors and take a deep breath, the hairs in your nose freeze and you go, “Oh, it’s a little below zero.”

SAGAL: Right.

yeah as a lifelong wisconsinite, i had never really seen my state truly represented in media until that scene the first night in wisconsin when shadow tries to walk somewhere at night and nearly freezes to death

there is a not insubstantial scene in the book where shadow winterizes his windows and i absolutely loved it

still ❄️ winter